Exploring more and more ways to practice self love is life-changing. Learning and developing a self love habit can make you a new person.
Self love is the connection between your physical self and your spiritual self. When you are able to comprehend and resonate with the deepest meaning of true love, understand how it manifests through your thoughts words, and emotions, and create a loving experience for yourself with intention, it can be a significant spiritual moment.
When you are able to master the art of purposely flowing love upon yourself, you will become boundless in your ability to experience love. The power of love and your access to it will always rest in your hands.
It is for this reason that self-love is the ultimate expression of love for you that can be exceeded by no other.
Exploring ways of tangibly demonstrating love towards yourself is both intimate and personal.
Each one of us defines love in accordance with our own values and emotional definitions.
We feel love differently.
We express love differently.
We define love differently.
And because of this we collectively create an expansive experience and definition of love that we can each share while developing new depths to our own self love.
The ideas of how to practice our own version of self love are boundless. To connect with this knowing, read through these ideas and tips on self love and choose which ones resonate with you.
This is not a checklist with actions to be completed but an idea bank to inspire your personal expression of love for yourself.
Self Love Tip #1: Practice Self Love Through Words & Communication
Communication of love to yourself brings ideas, thoughts, words, AND sounds together.
It is the harmony of celebrating of you.
Be precise with the words that you speak to yourself, out loud or in your mind. Invoke the feeling of love by being loving to yourself in the manner in which you speak.
Often we can craft or communicate special words to others, giving praises, love, and attention to all the wonderful parts of them that spark joy in us.
What about you sparks joy in you?
What makes you lovely and loveable?
Practice learning and saying what makes you loveable more than anyone else that you know.
Express Love for Yourself Through a Love Letter
It may feel different, but take time to put into written words the love you see in yourself.
Let the words spill over the page sharing all the different ways that you inspire the strong and seemingly unbridled emotions of love and adoration.
Once you have it written, read your love letter to yourself every day.
Speak to yourself with emotion. Be sure to translate not only the words but the emotion of love to yourself.
You are in love with yourself. So say it and mean it.
Find a quiet space where no one is around to hear you but you and speak love to yourself.
Sit in your car speaking your love language to yourself while everyone else thinks you’re on a call
Wait until the house is empty and take a private movement to sing your own praises
Whisper your love letter to yourself while the dryer running masks your voice
Never miss a moment to say loving words to yourself every day.
Add to your love letter every time you notice another piece of you that is loveable.
You are an ever-expanding expression of love.
Capture your words, keep them close, and repeat. Your self love lyrics will be life-changing.
Self Love Tip#2: Practice Self Love Through Sensual Pleasure
Using our senses of taste, touch, sight, hearing, and smell, we experience and enjoy the world in vast and immersive ways.
Not only does each sensation bring with it its own unique pleasures, but they can be combined in an infinite number of ways and permit a symphony of blending that is soul soothing.
Be creative in the use of your senses and the honoring of love between you and you.
Make yourself a breakfast, lunch, or dinner for one and spoil yourself with all your favorite pleasures for your meal. Spare no expense on your drink or your entree but instead focus on what brings you joy. What aromas make you lose time and space? What tastes make you smile? What simply looks beautiful on a plate? This is your gift to yourself so excite all of your senses when giving it to you.
Buy yourself your favorite flowers in abundance. Decorate every corner of your room with them. Let the bright or soothing colors make you feel as if you have walked into a sunbaked garden. Does their smell remind you of another romantic time? Are you transported to a place in your childhood? Let their magic make you fall in love with life again…and you.
Go for a walk through a tucked-away vintage clothing and art store. No one but you would know that you would love this. Let your fingers touch every single unfamiliar piece that your eyes land on. See if anything you feel sparks joy. Buy a small little trinket just to tuck it away in your nightstand drawer. Visit your reward as a reminder of giving yourself time to spend time with you and gifting your senses with the experience.
Your exploration of self love through your sensations is limited only by your imagination.
Ideas for Pleasuring Your Senses and Loving Yourself are Endless
You choose what your senses want to experience and give to yourself what you know that you call out for. Instead of explaining the details to someone else and using words to translate what feels good to you, give to yourself instinctively.
Maybe it is the sultry feel of satin sheets on your bed and the soft lightness of silk and lace on your waist as you put on a beautiful new piece of lingerie
Download your favorite artist, basking in well-crafted lyrics, expertly played instrumentals, and images of an artist sharing their talent as if only for you
Walk outside barefoot the next time it rains and wander from grass to concrete to dirt just to feel the different textures and temperatures on your feet
You are the master of the feeling that lifts you, a gift that only you will know how to curate to perfection.
The purpose is to experience your gift as a genuine reflection of your points of pleasure. You know yourself enough and love yourself enough to bring together all that would be perfect for you.
Self Love Tip #3: Practice Self Love Through Self-Reflection
Thinking about yourself in loving ways is its own form of self love.
Bringing together different moments in your life that represent why you are love is an awakening.
See your life as if a movie, taking a close-up look at the small, almost insignificant signs, of the love that you exude without thinking.
You are the giving spirit that gives a $20 bill to a homeless man without a second’s hesitation.
Remember your warm smile cast across the park when you shared an accidental glance with a woman with tears in her eyes. You didn’t know what hurt, but you thought a soft smile might help.
You are the one who gave up your place in line, your seat on the bus, your question in class and permitted someone else to have their needs met before your own.
You are the wonder that changes the world every single day in every single way.
Take the moment to recognize the love that you are to your family, to your friends, even to strangers. You are also that loving spirit to yourself.
Reflect on How Well You Love You
Recall when you didn’t answer the phone as you prioritized making your bath water and preparing to relax.
Remember the strong but kindly relayed words that you gave to your boss when you declined to sacrifice your weekend for the job.
Relish in the memory of your scheduled spa day after a hectic holiday week of planning, cooking, and hosting.
You are a beautiful reflection of self love and a model of self care and attentiveness.
Take the time to bring these instances to mind.
Write them down. Reread your notes. Celebrate your actions.
Define love by both who you are and what you do.
Claim your self love by catching yourself in action.
You define by your actions what love-in-motion is. And true self love is acknowledging yourself and showing yourself appreciation for your loving nature.
Self Love Tip #4: Practice Self Love Through Gifts & Gratitude
You deserve to be gifted.
To experience a gift well-delivered takes thought, contemplation, and a special knowing of your needs and wants.
A wonderful way to love yourself well is simply the act of giving to yourself. To embody the act of giving and receiving by your own hand is an elevated form of love and gratitude because it is combined.
When giving to yourself size does not matter. However, meaning is everything.
Explore Making Special Self Gifting Moments
Save what you can for 3 months, 6 months, or even a year. Use the outcome of your savings stockpile as a means to acquire a special item, especially for you. See the power of setting regular intentions to invest in giving to you.
Create a special morning by placing a bottle of water, bowl of fruit, or scented candle by your bed. Wake up in remembrance that you went to sleep with thoughts of making your morning perfect.
Have your favorite treat tucked in the back of your freezer just for you.
Put a treasured photo in your planner just to make you smile.
Take a solo drive through a beautiful neighborhood on an early Saturday morning just because it pleases you and gives you peace.
Be Creatively Kind in Showing Yourself Love with Intention
Wash your bedsheets with your favorite essential oil or add your favorite scent to your shampoo.
Gather fresh wildflowers or pine cones in a bowl as your gift of nature to you for your desk or at home.
Take 30 minutes to pull together your favorite love songs playlist that speaks to how you love others or, most importantly, how you love yourself.
Be mindful of the thoughtfulness behind the gifts you give to yourself.
Let your thoughts reflect what is important to you, what is sentimental to you, and what represents joy in physical form.
You deserve to be seen in love and light and to be shown gratitude for your presence.
Self love through gifts and gratitude demonstrates the intimate self awareness you have of yourself and the opportunity to give self love in the most special of ways.
Self Love Tip#5: Practice Self Love with Body Care
So often it is thought that to enjoy the sensation of touch we must engage with something outside of ourselves. But learning to share kindness with your own body can be the greatest gift of self love.
Self-attention through touch can be meaningful and nurturing.
There is an opportunity in each day to slow down, become present, and feel different in our own hands.
Taking a shower provides space to wash your hair and provide yourself a scalp massage. Especially using the soft elixir of a fragrant conditioner, both your head and your hands can enjoy the process.
Consider the sensations of cleansing your body with intention. Attending to every part of you can be a loving way to say that every part of you is important. Know the feel of each part of your body, especially those parts that may not always get attention.
After exiting a bath or shower, you can give time to provide yourself a full body massage with oils and creams. A beautiful expression of self love and personal attention can be had through Ayurvedic self-massage. Combining the care and caress of your skin with the relaxation of your muscles can be refreshing.
Placing the kindness of your body in your own hands can be a perfect expression of self love one touch at a time.
Your attention to every subtle detail is how your self love commitment comes to life.
The practice of self love is an intimate expression of love especially for you by you.
When you are able to define what love means to you and then take on accountability to give love to you, you provide an endless channel of loving experiences for yourself.
Prioritize self love to know and appreciate yourself more and to provide opportunities for more kindness, calm, beauty, and special memories in your life.
You are the most important person in your life. Take action to show your importance to yourself. Through regular practice of self love and care in how it is delivered, you will experience an even better version of yourself.
Start applying these self love tips today and see how self love is life-changing.
How do you practice your self love? Are you truly starting with intention for the first time? Share your story in the Comments below. And take a look at these post for more ideas too!
Creating life balance is the key to living a better life.
It is energizing to live each day in flow. And it is empowering to feel that no matter what comes there is comfort that awaits you. Knowing that you are in balance gives both a sense of relaxation and excited anticipation to any day.
However, imbalance is also a part of life. At times it can seem like the only part of life that you are living.
The days strung together when it feels that nothing is in flow. The moments when nothing goes as planned and the worst scenario seems to just keep showing up. These are the times when you just want the day to stop and start over.
Feel empowered to know that you don’t have to remove the experience of imbalance to have a good life.
You couldn’t even if you wanted to. But that’s okay. Make peace with your times of imbalance and learn ways to regain balance once it has been lost.
Take a look at these 7 ways of creating life balance when imbalance has become way too much of your life.
1. Give Yourself Grace
Giving yourself grace is permitting yourself to simply be human when things fall apart. Be angry, cry, feel defeated, and frustrated. It’s human to feel bad when it seems like everything could get no worse.
Sometimes the fastest way to regain balance is to release trying to have it. (Yes, you read that right).
Pause in your discomfort and honor that your emotions exist and feel them. Even when it feels the worst try to accept your feelings instead of pushing them away.
Beyond the hurt, what do your emotions tell you?
Are you disappointed in yourself for not trying harder?
Did someone you love betray your trust?
Have you given up on trying because you fear failure too much?
Do you criticize yourself more than loving yourself out of habit?
Acknowledge where you are. Give yourself grace for getting there. And learn what you can from the experience.
Developing a habit of pause and reflection in the midst of imbalance and emotional disarray permits you to build the muscle of self awareness. It is from here that you can move forward with purpose and direction.
How does self awareness help with creating life balance?
Self awareness gives space to experience your thoughts and emotions and examine your personal interpretation of them. You can give yourself time to answer the simple questions of “what do I feel” and “why?”
In absence of taking this reflective moment, you can become lost in your emotion and directionless in your actions solely inspired by your discomfort. This aimless movement can create even more painful imbalance.
In these moments you can
turn on yourself simply for being in a poor emotional state
frantically spin your wheels trying to blindly fix everything that’s wrong
blame others for your emotional state and blast others for their wrongdoings
become hopeless and wayward with no understanding of how to stop your pain
All of these conclusions come sweeping in when all of your energy is placed on removing your pain and not learning from it. You want your world back in control now!
Grace is accepting when everything is out of control it is time to stop trying to control it and just let all things be. In this way, you begin healing for yourself, acceptance of everything around you, and creating balance.
2. Invoke the Power of Positive Self Talk
Words are powerful. Therefore, there is good reason to choose your words wisely or suffer the consequence of self-created imbalance.
As if a mantra, you can at times repeat over and over again all the negatives about yourself or your experiences.
This is a horrible day.
Why is everything going wrong?
Here we go again!
I’m an idiot.
I can make a mess of everything!!!
The list of imbalanced words and phrases has no end and so with it no end to the problems that come with it. The words that we repeat become the reality that we live. When we speak negativity to ourselves then a moment of discomfort can become a full day of regret.
In the midst of imbalance, you may not be able to change what you are facing. But you can change the words you say, think, or repeat.
Choose to soothe yourself instead of aggravating your frazzled nerves more. Start small but purposefully. Try affirming to yourself,
“it will be okay” or,
“I know I am doing my best”, or
“it can only get better from here”
Be creative with your means for creating life balance through your words by singing a song that you enjoy or reciting a prayer or poem that brings you peace.
Choose words with emotions that represent where you want to be even if you feel very different in the present. Affirm the balance that you aspire to experience.
10 Positive Affirmations for Creating Life Balance
I know that as things get better and I will get happier and happier
Tomorrow is a new day and I can’t wait to wake up to a good morning
I am thankful for every peaceful and relaxing experience I have ever had
I am grateful for the calm I give my mind through focus
I appreciate feelings of relief and conclusion
I embrace the all experiences that life brings
Every day that I am I have another opportunity to just be
I am proud of myself because I try
I love myself and all that I am
I create balance in my life and am grateful to myself for doing it
Say the words that you need to hear to become the balance you need to have.
3. Champion Your Own Chivalry
To take care of another before oneself is only one form of chivalry. Do not hesitate to become the champion of courtesy and honor for yourself.
Put a gallant effort toward defending your right to peace when imbalance has seemingly taken over your life. You can be your own knight in shining armor. Take the necessary actions to smite the sources of the imbalance that confront you.
Make choices that honor your personal needs for importance, priority, andself-care. And be proud to take life balance as a reward.
Chivalrous actions you may take for yourself can include:
Leaving work early whenever the day permits it
Deciding not to answer a phone call to reduce your distractions
Escaping for a private moment within your work day by getting water, taking a walk, or even going to the bathroom
So often we deny ourselves simple courtesies in exchange for pleasing others or satisfying imbalanced expectations of ourselves.
Make decisions that serve you and become an ambassador of your sanctity and sanity. When life becomes too much it is okay to pause what you can so that you are in a better place to handle what comes.
Be chivalrous to yourself regularly and you may thwart many occasions of imbalance on the horizon.
4. Relax and Replenish Your System
Within the most basic human functions lays the most critical of needs, replenishment.
Rest, relaxation, and sleep each serves to provide replenishment to the body. Replenishment of the body secures a foundation whereby you are in the best condition to perform at your highest capacity.
The pressures, stresses, and frustrations of the day are regular occurrences that place a demand upon your physical and mental disposition. Replenishment is a defense against these attacks on your balance and provides you the strength to carry on.
When feeling imbalanced examine your rest, relaxation, and sleep schedule, and if poor, address it immediately and with urgency.
At home, it may be your bedroom or a spare room where you find your quiet place of peace from the world.
Dedicate any small corner to include symbols or images of calm that are meaningful to you. A small candle or a place to burn fragrant incense can be enough. A beautiful bouquet of flowers can touch your spirit and invoke a recall to balance.
Visiting your sacred space or creating one for the first time can represent giving to yourself. This gift of balance can be critical when it feels like the whole world is only taking. Display items that have a special meaning that provide a sense of grounding and control in an otherwise chaotic existence.
Imbalance can seem to walk with you no matter where you go. But creating a space for peace can allow you to release your burdens and step into balance when needed.
6. Connect with Nature
No matter the season or time of day, it may be a perfect opportunity to step into nature when you feel that imbalance abounds. There is almost always an opportunity to experience nature if you choose to prioritize the experience.
When the walls feel as if they are closing in and the place you stand feels unstable, turn your sights to your nearest window or open door.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath allowing fresh air to fill your lungs and graze across your body
Take a walk and focus your attention on every planted step as you feel the surety of solid ground supporting your stride
Look to the sky and embrace the beauty, expansiveness, and freedom of a never-ending horizon
Nature represents simplicity but also manifests itself in substantial ways representing the eternal access to balance in life.
How can nature help when creating life balance?
When creating life balance we can look to engage with nature and claim our place with its natural harmony:
Watch the movement of life around you. Birds in the trees, squirrels running across the ground, people bustling to their destinations all represent the beauty of intersected life around you.
Allow your skin to feel the rays of the sun or the coolness of raindrops on a cloudy day. The connection between you and the elements is a reminder of your union with the world.
Take in the fragrance of sweet flowers in the spring, freshly mowed grass in the summer, or falling leaves from majestic trees carried in the wind on a fall day. Allow the subtleties of life to show how easily calm can seep into your day.
Go out and experience the abundance of eternal balance that surrounds you. And reassure yourself that your personal balance is only steps away at any moment.
7. Find Your Tribe
There is no rule that your road to balance must be traveled alone. So when you find yourself in the thrusts of imbalance make use of your resources.
When you are fortunate enough to have special people in your life, trust in the strength of your relationship that they will want to support you.
Loyal companions who always have a positive disposition and a helping hand to lend are a treasure. Good people with good dispositions are great resources to have.
When your path has gotten too dim for you to find your way home alone, a good friend will act as a lighthouse across your dark sea and guide you back to balance.
Remember also, you may not always have access to live support every time you need it. Late-night hours, travel, or just life can make it hard to connect with family and friends at times.
So it is important to also build a tribe of indirect connections and support to guide your journey towards balance.
These resources can come in the form of musicians, artists, writers, podcasters, YouTubers, bloggers, and more. At a moment’s notice, no matter the time day or night, you can tap into their message and be transported to a better place.
Listen to music. Create playlists designed to lift your spirits when needed
Read a book or your favorite highlighted passage
Watch a motivational video or a heartwarming movie
Learn from an online educator a new way to ease your stress or bring order to your life
Your favorite artists, creators, and entertainers can be your lifeline in bad times.
Curate your tribe with care and reap the rewards of partnered effort towards balance. Invest in creating your team for balance and see the fruits of your labor flourish with positive connections and peace.
While imbalance is a part of life, and not always an enjoyable part, balance also exists.
The path of moving from the discomfort of imbalance to creating life balance can be challenging but achievable. Find comfort in knowing that any struggle is only temporary by nature.
The keys to creating life balance are to accept your imbalance, learn from it, and use your learning to choose the best path ahead. Ready your tools and resources so you can gain the support you require on your path and feel empowered on your life journey always.
Take command of your ability to create balance in your life. And know that no amount of imbalance can keep you from living the quality of life you choose to live. When you prepare ahead for the imbalance you know to come, you can be in the best position to bring yourself back to the balance that keeps you whole.
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Affirmations for confidence when leaving your job may seem like a strange thing to need. But quitting your job is a significant life decision.
Making changes in your career can cause you to reexamine your understanding of yourself, your goals, and your purpose in life. You take what you are and what you are doing and determine if you really are living the match you intended.
Once making the decision to move on, even with this close examination, you can start to doubt your decision. Instead of doubting yourself, take time to affirm your intentions.
Affirmations can serve as a powerful tool to:
Reconfirm Internal Knowing
Build Confidence in your ability to make personally aligned decisions, and
Create Momentum when taking your path forward
Know first that satisfying your practical needs in life, like earning money or having access to medical insurance, does not have to come at the sacrifice of Living Your Best Life.
Quitting your job does not have to be the catalyst to chaos but instead can be the Path To Freedom and the opportunity to live your life AND earn your living in the best way possible.
To reconfirm this critical knowledge, it is necessary to affirm to yourself that You Are On the Right Path.
Taking these steps can be a start to building confidence in your decision.
Below are the best Affirmations For Confidence to start your path toward your best decision.
Positive Affirmation #1: I Trust My Gut
Your gut is your intuition. It is your Divine Guidance at work.
For many, however, you can also literally feel a sensation when your gut is speaking.
Maybe you feel tightness in your abdomen in response to situations that cause stress, or concern, or put you on alert.
Conversely, you can feel butterflies when trying new things or when excitedly anticipating the pleasures of life.
This is part of your gut’s language, its means of communicating with you.
Your gut is your personal guide and it should be trusted.
When you repeatedly feel as though you are not aligned with the work you do, the people you work for, or the company that you keep while at work, your gut will speak to you in tangible ways, especially when your mind may be ignoring the signs.
If you know that
you are making less than what your job is worth,
you are being treated inappropriately or unfairly by your boss,
you are not going to gain opportunities to advance where you are and advancement is your goal,
first your mind will perceive it but then your gut will speak it.
You will get all the internal alarms ringing and signaling that something has to change.
Do not become complacent to the point of sickness, constant anger, worry, panic, fear, or worse, overly questioning your internal knowing.
Trust instead that you have been provided a tool which has been, for your whole life, gaining more and more understanding and alignment of communicating consciously to you.
Survey your mind to assess your situation and trust your gut to point you to the right conclusion. It may simply be time to quit your job.
Positive Affirmation#2: I Know What To Do
“I would leave, but HOW?”
That is the question of all questions that almost everyone asks themselves when faced with big hairy decisions. How?
By now you know that your personal life journey will always be filled with daunting circumstances that will challenge your skills, aptitudes, judgments, and thinking.
But remember too that, at this stage of your life, you have faced and conquered many challenges already. And you have figured out “the how” of many complicated things, likely more than what you give yourself credit for.
Don’t walk away from this challenge so as to keep the convenience of familiarity, because at the same time you give away your opportunity for personal growth and life balance.
Transitioning from your job is just a puzzle to be solved, just like the 101 that you have already faced in the last month, last year, and last decade. You know that creating a simple plan of action and following up with execution can create an abundance of rewards for the effort.
Affirm. You can do this. And You Know What To Do.
You can create an opportunity that far exceeds the job you are settling for today.
Your sound mind, body, and spirit will serve as the tools you use on this journey and also as the reward for having taken the steps forward.
You are equipped to quit your job.
Affirmation #3: I Am Confident That Now IS the Right Time
Time is a convenient master. Often we become concerned with time only when we are concerned with control or have been the subject of control by others.
In reality, time is boundless. And when you relieve yourself of the opinion of others or free yourself from your own ill scrutiny you provide yourself the gift of any time being the right time.
Quitting your job is not a timing issue, it is an alignment issue. Either at this moment you are aligned with your job or you are not.
The decision to quit is made in a moment.
The plan to leave is timed with the steps that you decide to include to transition well.
You choose the timing for each step that best suits how you want to feel through each moment of your journey.
If you require more savings, you may provide yourself more time at your current job to build your nest egg, or you may leave immediately and take on an interim alternative job that is not a drain on your spirit while you save.
You may plan to remain another month or you may give 2 weeks’ notice today. What timing creates both internal balance and forward momentum for you?
What is immediate, and likely already to have happened, is your decision to go. Time is never a factor in your knowing. It is alive and active in every moment you breathe.
The answer to when is the right time, therefore, is that there can never be a wrong time. The right time is always now.
Positive Affirmation #4: Failure Is Not My Destiny
The fear of failure is at the heart of all indecision.
But standing still is not the cure for failure or the key to success.
When you are meant to grow, flourish and evolve, the lack of moving toward your future is the main ingredient for assured failure.
It is important beyond all else to know that failure is not your destiny.
Failure is, however, a part of the hundred possible outcomes of life.
It is a probability that you can plan for and one that you can navigate should you find yourself in its clutch. Failure may come into your life, but it doesn’t have to take it.
If your goal is to
become better at what you do,
fulfilled and aligned in what you do, and
grateful for what you have in your life because of what you are able to do,
failure is not an obstacle but a welcomed indicator proving that you are striving for all that you deserve.
No one can promise you that you will not fail. Butyou can promise yourself that you will never give up.
In your commitment to your journey and your highest self, you will know with conviction that quitting your job is your only option.
It’s time to move on and to allow yourself to become more.
Affirm what you know to be true. You can quit your job and achieve a better life.
Ready to Follow Your Intuition On This?
Here is your starter kit for taking your best step forward from here:
1. Do Your Daily Affirmations When Quitting Your Job
Every step we have reviewed is now meant to be your regular affirmation for confidence throughout the process of your job change. So don’t miss a day and remember to say:
I trust my gut
I know what to do
I am confident that now IS the right time
Failure is not my destiny
I believe that I can quit my job and achieve a better life
You will gain greater momentum in following your intuition if you bring your energy to the right state as often as possible. Restate these affirmations each morning, with real meaning, intention, and focus, and allow your inspiration for change to flow.
2. Prepare For the Journey You Actually Want to Take
The reason you are taking the path to quit your job is to bring yourself into balance. Therefore, you want to ensure that you are prioritizing your balance throughout the process.
As with any journey, make a checklist, pack what you need, and leave nothing behind.
Developing a solid plan can help place a solid foundation of trust in your decision making your journey feel like one you are excited to take.