Are You the Toxic One?  3 Key Signs that the Toxic Environment at Work is Actually YOU!

Are You the Toxic One?  3 Key Signs that the Toxic Environment at Work is Actually YOU!

Unfortunately, a toxic work environment is far too common of a complaint. 

And equally unfortunate is that it is an experience that many are having every day.

You may immediately say, “yeah, me too!”

But what if You are the reason that the toxicity exists?

We like to believe that toxic behavior comes from the obviously toxic other person.   Someone who is easily angered, constantly complaining, or otherwise creating an unwelcoming environment every day is clearly the problem.

But it may be hard to accept that the “someone” can be you!

The reality is that becoming toxic can sneak up on you.  You may have:

  • Stayed too long at a job that you have outgrown,
  • Bitten your tongue too often with a boss you don’t agree with,
  • Created a safety net of colleagues that are negative all the time or
  • Lost your boundaries between personal and business etiquette for a job you’ve been at forever

And slowly, without realizing it, you have become part of the problem.

Because you have tolerated or participated in unhealthy work experiences and relationships, you have allowed yourself to become a different person as a byproduct of these decisions.

Now, from the outside looking in, you are the toxic one

And you may not even know it!

Here are 3 signs that You may be the toxic coworker creating a toxic work environment:

#1 Constant Complaining

signs of a toxic person at work

You may not realize it but you complain about everything.

  • If your boss addresses the team, it is never delivered the right way. 
  • If the company initiates a new process, it’s never going to work.
  • No matter the action taken, you receive it as poorly executed or just not smart.

In your mind, you may have a perfectly reasonable rationale for this thought. 


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You have been at the company long enough to see the issues time and time again:

  • A poorly executed communication from the top
  • A completely non-thought-out plan of action from your boss
  • Zero communication with the people who do the job every day before completely changing a process by some random project team

You have seen ALL the signs!

So why would calling it out suddenly be your fault!!

The action may not be your fault. 

But the constant reiterating and complaining for hours, days, or weeks can feel faulty to others and easily becomes another issue on top of everything else.

If the problem is so pervasive, so consistent, and so obvious, others know it without your communicating it. 

You do not have to be the mouthpiece for pointing out what everyone else can clearly see.

How to Kick the Complaining Habit

Instead of frowning, shaking your head, rolling your eyes, or just constantly, excessively, nauseatingly complaining, do something about it.

It is leaps and bounds more productive to create a solution instead of belaboring the problem:

  • Champion a new process so that you can be a key communicator of its progress.  This can give you front-row seats to try something new, give you an opportunity to share positive outcomes, and also a channel to suggest changes based on actual data instead of just opinion.
  • Ask to speak with your boss privately and then ask if your boss is open to feedback on a problem you see.  Share your concerns in a thoughtful manner.  Focus your constructive criticism on the process, not on people, where possible.
  • Carefully consider any new processes, proposals, or communication to see if any positive changes have occurred since your last negative experience.  Look for and be genuinely optimistic for seeing even small positive progression.

In all cases, it is better to be a part of the solution than to constantly reiterate a problem. 

And it is even more productive to share concerns with people who can make positive changes than to complain to those who can only suffer with you and through you.

You can choose to be a solutionist or risk the potential of creating a toxic environment by being a constant complainer.

#2. Accidental Gossiping

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Private business and personal information often turn up in any work environment. 

People talk about and share all facets of their life all the time.

But any version of sharing information about another person in a negative or disparaging manner can be considered much more than just talk. Quite often it can be perceived as gossiping. 

And when this occurs habitually it can become toxic.  

Are you a habitual over-sharer?  Do you feel that when asked a question you must give the most comprehensive overview possible, even if it is not asked of you?

Toxic over-sharing and gossiping can occur as a means to deflect blame, to create perceived superiority over others, or to generate a feeling of self-importance.

Taking these types of actions at the expense of others can create a spirit of distrust and discomfort between you and your co-workers.

How Do You Recognize If You Are an Accidental Gossip

Have you done something like this before:

Other Department: “Hey, can you let me know the status of those entries?  Just want to make sure I am ready for the next step when it hits my desk”

You: “Oh yeah.  No problem.  I’ll be done soon.  Sally had to go to the school AGAIN for her son so she’s behind on her entries and I’m helping her out”. 

What could have seemed like an innocent answer to a question, results in creating a highly uncomfortable situation. 

This can make the receiving party uncomfortable and can make the person spoken about feel violated and exposed should they learn of the disclosure. 

These types of accidental gossiping scenarios happen all the time. And when repeat instances occur and are not redirected, a toxic environment can ensue.

To Avoid Being Perceived as a Gossip, Adopt Communication Sensitivity

  • Never share others’ personal information, even if you were not directly told to keep the information private. Just don’t share.
  • Be friendly but concise when responding to others’ inquiries.  Eliminate unnecessary details that are not asked explicitly to avoid unintentionally disclosing private, confidential, or inaccurate information.
  • Consider others when speaking on their behalf or about them.  Before you make a statement, imagine if the same statement was to be made about you.  Would you find it kind or hurtful?

Being exposed to a gossiping work environment can make others feel embarrassed, unsafe, and targeted. 

Hearing negative things about a co-worker can lead others to disengage with them, distrust them, or consider them incompetent.

These experiences can cause those involved to have poor work relationships, feel disconnected from the business, and overall create a toxic work environment. 

#3 Being Bitter

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All forms of toxicity are not overt.   Regularly practicing a lack of communication, lack of collaboration, or lack of cooperation can be toxic.

But you may feel completely justified for your disposition.

Maybe you received feedback regarding your perceived but inaccurately identified negative demeanor in the past. Or you feel that your input is never listened to or considered so to protect your emotions you decided to stop giving it.

Over time you decide distance and quiet are your best and only resolutions.  But instead of being calm and content in your work, you are noticeably resentful and unapproachable:

  • You shrug your shoulders and turn away when you don’t know an answer.
  • You point to where your boss or co-worker is instead of verbally communicating their location.
  • You make a point to offer zero communication in any meeting or discussion in which you are asked to participate.

It is impossible for anyone to not know that you are mad about something all the time! 

But in your mind, you are avoiding a problem versus causing one. (Since you seem to always cause a problem anyway).

How Do You Communicate When According to Everyone Else You Seem to Always Get It Wrong?

There are times when you may need to be different than the otherwise happy-go-lucky, chipper team member that others expect. 

You may have recently been reprimanded, had a terrible meeting, or even suffered private concerns at home that essentially make you feel bad.

You cannot always put on a happy face when you are internally struggling with something. However, when you hold on too long to a bitter disposition, like it or not, it affects your work.

Part of being at work is showing up fully. 

And if you work in an environment with others, part of showing up fully is interacting with others…..productively.

Even if you keep your interactions brief and to the point, you can still be a collaborative, cooperative,  and communicative team member.

Improve How You Connect with Others

  • Give good eye contact when responding to questions.  Addressing a person eye-to-eye is a sign of respect and attentiveness
  • Speak in full sentences and not with one-word answers or gestures.  This ensures that others are clear regarding your input.  And provides an opportunity for follow-up communication should it be warranted.
  • Be approachable.  If you cannot be warm, at least provide a neutral tone of voice.  Being overtly stern, annoyed, or dismissive can be interpreted as uncooperative. 

While anyone can have a bad day and in severe circumstances even bad weeks or months, the goal is to do your part to be a productive part of your team.

If behaving in a cooperative and collaborative manner just is too much, explore taking time off from work.  Or, if possible, actively work toward correcting the issue(s) that is causing you concern.

Constant isolation and portraying a disgruntled behavior becomes toxic when you become so shut down that others become unproductive and overly distracted by your behavior. 

You may think that you are making yourself invisible and unimpactful but, in fact, you are creating a very noticeably toxic environment.

Consider This: You Could Legitimately Become Toxic Because of a Toxic Work Environment

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It may be unsettling to discover that you have become the cause of someone else suffering a toxic work environment.

But there may also have been a time when you were victim to toxic surroundings and could have easily listed these traits in someone else.

If you have started to become a product of a toxic environment, it may be an important time to make a change:

  • Explore and examine how you interact with others and ask for feedback from those you trust to be transparent and honest with you.
  • Track your mental and emotional status at the beginning and end of your work day and see if you have a pattern of being frustrated, annoyed, or disgruntled about work regularly.
  • Watch for the behaviors described in this post or other negative behaviors that you feel are out of character for you.  Determine if work triggers these new behaviors from you.

You can become a product of your environment, but you don’t have to. 

Take Accountability for the Work Life You Want to Have

You always have the ability to decide who you want to be and how you want to experience your work life:

  • Reflect on the type of work environment and work experience that is ideal for you and make changes to incorporate more of your desires into your daily work
  • Examine who you spend your time with at work and consider making changes if you have inadvertently fallen into a negative crowd
  • Confront the reality of whether or not you have become complacent with staying at a job that you otherwise should have left already.  It may be time to make a job change.  Read my post on How to Know It’s Time for a Job Change and start working toward a more positive future for yourself.

No one wants to be part of a problem.  But you can always choose to create solutions. 

You should not create a toxic work environment or be at the mercy of the one around you.  Have a better work-life by choosing to take action to have one.


No one wants to work in a toxic environment.  And, hopefully, no one wants to be responsible for creating the toxic environment that others work in.

We all have opportunities for improvement. 

But if you ignore your bad habits and repetitively adopt poor behavior, you can become the cause of the discomfort, anxiety, and stress in others.  You are the toxic environment at your job.

Reflect on who you are, how you behave, and what you want to be.  Take time to improve what you can or to make the personal changes you need to be part of solutions and not part of the problem.

You do not have to be the toxicity in your work environment.

If you are looking for more ways to reexamine, recreate, or really improve your work life, read these other posts:

How to FEEL YOUR SOUL in Life and at Work

5 Reasons You Want to Quit Your Job When Maybe You Shouldn’t

How to Survive Working for a Boss You Hate

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You May Be Casting Spells at Work (even a little Black Magic) and Don’t Even Know It!

You May Be Casting Spells at Work (even a little Black Magic) and Don’t Even Know It!

Casting spells and other works of divination have had a resurgence of interest by many. 

Some have a devotion to these practices.

Now you may not be one to cast a spell or have any interest in magical ways, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t practice them.

Actually, you may have been spellcasting even today, and didn’t even realize it!

People often do things without realizing the power in what they do.

Mindlessly you can fall in with the crowd and not know the origin of the things that you think, do, or say.

Do you know the difference between affirmations and incantations?

Funny how they both involve repeating, almost chanting, words to promote a specific outcome.

How different is the definition of visualizing and conjuring

They both take a form of concentration, focus, and bringing things to mind, right?

Magic may be surrounded by ritual, ceremony, and mystery. 

But many of the basic steps are ones that we do every day.

Take into account the true power of your thoughts, words, and actions. 

When you do, you will see that you do a lot more than what you think you do.

For this reason, it is important to be mindful. Pay real attention to your daily practices.

Seriously, you may literally be casting spells.  Even at work! And have no clue that you’re doing it.

# 1 Projecting Negative Images (or Talking Negatively Behind Someone’s Back)


The power of mental projection or manipulating reality can be considered a magical power.

Not everyone possesses this gift and ability.

In its simplest form, it involves altering the thoughts and impressions of others and changing what they see as true.

You are the wielder of this power when you reconfigure others’ thinking to match your own.

Have you been casting this spell?


There is an art in creating imagery and using it to influence others. 

Even if what you share is based on fact, the real power is in your use of the details and application of your influence.

Steps you may take without even thinking are things like:

  • Capturing others’ individual attention privately so as not to have others muddy the opinions you share or offer counter opinions

  • Establishing how wrong a person is against what others believe to be an irrefutable wrong or right. This method makes it completely logical for others to agree with you in condemning the other person.

  • Invoking emotion regarding the perspective. Anger, shock, sincere disappointment. Once a specific person has had their character demonized, invoking emotion will further align others with your negative imagery.

  • Stating your argument repeatedly. The more you repeat the concern, cite more evidence, and stir the pot, the more people see things your way. The key here is acting repeatedly until the new imagery is cast and accepted by everyone that you intend to convince.


In short, create an image, demonstrate convincing proof, invoke emotion, and repetitively inject the new imagery you desire. 

Poof! You have put your spell in motion.

You may see these steps as simply telling the truth or venting out your concerns.

Opening others’ eyes to the reality of someone else’s ill-doing is only serving the greater good.

In reality, you are wielding your power to influence others, changing their thinking and focus, and making them align with your point of view. 

Is this spell casting? Or just a normal day of gossip in the office?

Be mindful of what you do or, possibly unintentionally, you could be doing much, much more.

#2 Cursing Someone (or Wishing That Someone Gets What They Give)


Have you been subject to someone treating you poorly at work?

You may have had rumors spread about your, been set up for failure on a project, or actually tattled on for coming in late. 

And, yes, all of this at work and not in high school!

Once you identified your nemesis, you may have wished for karmic consequences for their actions:

  • “That’s okay.  They’ll get what they’ve got coming to them”

  • “Her day will come”

  • “It’s all fun and games until it’s your turn”

  • “Someone will give them just what they gave me”

These statements alone are not powerful enough to create an immediate effect (unless you are more practiced than you realize!)

But when you seem to be almost at war with a co-worker or higher up, you may find yourself making these comments over and over again.

You may even envision a perfectly negative outcome that they well-deserve.


Seeing them make a mistake, you may silently wish that someone important finds out.

Hearing them lie, you may quietly pray for the truth to come to the surface and you watch them fall from grace.

Just tired of their presence, you may wish for them to get fired.

You may feel completely justified because of their behavior, but not realize that you have gone well beyond their negativity with your own.

You may not be chanting in the corner or picturing them in physical harm, but you subconsciously stay fixated on their karmic lessons coming to the surface.

But this makes it no less of a curse.

If you believe that this is not your nature, be mindful of your thoughts and actions. 

Be careful of what you wish for because you might just get it!

If you really feel in conflict with someone else, be brave enough to confront it.

Don’t wish the worst, but work toward the best outcome.

Otherwise, you may be putting bad intentions on their path without even knowing it.  

3. Incantation (or Problem Obsession)

If incantation involves the repetition of words for the purpose of creating a specific outcome, what happens when you obsessively say negative things to yourself?

  • Why am I terrible at this? Why am I terrible at this?  Why in the world am I so terrible at this?

  • This always happens to me.  This always happens to me.  This always happens to me!

  • I know they want to fire me.  I know they want to fire me.  I know they want to fire me.

And the list can go on and on.

The power of incantation, in this way, can be the same as drinking a slow-acting poison.


Each time that you recite your words you create another slice of life that is similar to the words you say.

At first, you develop your pattern. 

You find a series of words or phrases that identify well with the negative thoughts and emotions that you want to express.

Then you start creating an evidence trail by restating your words every time a like situation or emotional status occurs.

Soon you find yourself in a worse and worse position.  Otherwise meaningless events now have substantial meaning and prove your lack of worth and failure.

You begin to believe in your words and phrases and they define the life that you live at work.


You may not fail at your project, but you also do not do your best.

You’re still employed, but your performance steadily declines.

The fearful image of your demise becomes your frightful reality.

You have effectively cast a spell upon yourself through the power of incantation.

Take the opportunity to become aware of these unproductive patterns.

Mindfully change the direction of your thoughts and, most importantly, your words.

Use the power of repetition and create a pattern of positive, hopeful, and optimistic words that encourage you instead of breaking yourself down.

4. Casting the Evil Eye (or Spreading Your Bad Attitude)


This likely is an event that happens to everyone.

You cannot hide the look on your face when you see someone you sincerely do not like come into the room.

Some may do it intentionally, but, honestly, others just wear their emotion all over their face. 

The person who burns a hole through your soul walks by, and casually talks to other people, and your eyes follow them with a piercing gaze.

On one hand, you say you could care less that they are in the room.  On the other hand, you feel compelled to watch their every move until they are completely away from you.

In addition to the cold silent stare oozing from your eyes, your mind cannot be controlled from remembering all the reasons you cannot stand this person.


It may not even be anything that they have done to you. 

You simply don’t like what they are about.

Your thoughts, your emotions, and most of all your glance upon them, all invoke a stale, displeasure that borders between disgust and hate.

You have cast the spell of the evil eye.

And potentially without realizing you have projected negative images, cursed their very existence, and wished the worse through incantation all at the same time!

This is the power of disfavor, it can control you and change the disposition of the person on whom you place your focus.

But realize, it didn’t have to!


What you may not realize is that you are projecting your emotions through your energy, your posture, and your facial reactions toward another person that they then absorb.

This may have never been their intention but they, unfortunately, took in what you feed them repeatedly.

Now, you feel a sense of distance and disdain because the other person is reacting to your attitude and displeasure.

In fact, you are receiving exactly what you’ve been giving.

Be mindful of what you would prefer to happen instead of concentrating on what has already happened.

Put forth effort in promoting a new future that will include peaceful interactions at work.

And see if you can cast your vision in a different, more productive, direction that benefits everyone.


Casting a spell is not just for witches and warlocks. 


People who follow no ceremony or dogma whatsoever may still be invoking and projecting power upon themselves or others.

The reality is that you may possess and use power without even realizing it on a daily basis. 

And the location does not matter.  It could be at home, within your neighborhood, or even at work.

Ignorance of an action does not mean that it cannot happen.  

And lack of intention does not render the action powerless. 

You may just have no idea what you are doing and the power in the actions you take.

So be mindful. 

Be intentional. 

And most of all be aware of what you think, do, or say. 

Accept that you are powerful and play an active part in the life that you live.

When you do, you can choose the best version of the life you want and do it on purpose.  

Have you been accidentally casting spells at work? Tell us your version in the Comments section below.

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6 Tips to Stop B*tching About Your Job

6 Tips to Stop B*tching About Your Job

One thing leads to the next and before you know it you are b*tching about your job again.  This is not about the occasional complaint or the classic tough-day-in-the-office story.

You are on a full-on, non-stop, binge just complaining and ranting about your job daily.  

The crazy thing about it is that it makes you feel horrible.  It makes the person listening to you feel horrible.  And yet, you find yourself not being able to stop.

It can start off innocently as a bad-boss story where you conveniently play the part of the helpless and clearly wronged victim. 

But before you know it, it’s your co-worker, your pay, your passed-over promotion, and even your ridiculous parking spot.  You have fallen into hating everything about your job and have spent hours talking about it.

And while you may have gained a posse of sympathizers, you also have blown a month’s worth of peaceful nights.

Worse yet, you have gotten to the point where you never leave work.  You take it with you everywhere in your mind.  And you brought the worst parts of it into your home, to your family, and planted them into the deepest crevices of your thoughts.

You have b*tched your whole life away.

So while we don’t have to keep phrasing it this way, you know it’s the truth.  You have created a serious and unhealthy habit of complaining way too much about your job.  

And it’s a habit that needs to stop.

Your job hate is not the real problem.  You are.

But that’s okay. 

This is not about making you the blame.

It is about making you the solution.

Use these tips to stop excessive work complaining and to take back the joy in your life.

Tip#1:  Check-In with How You Really Feel

Before you convince yourself that you will feel better if you just let it out, check-in and see how you feel just before you speak.  It’s amazing how even your facial expression will let you know the energy that you are about to emit.

Your eyes begin to squint.  Your eyebrows will furl.  Sometimes even your jaws will clench.  You are ready to really dig into those jerks at work and give them what they deserve.  But in reality, you are giving yourself a replay of your bad day in the worst way.

Checking in with yourself you can see if you actually feel good in the process of sharing your bad day.

Relieving any form of trauma is, well, traumatizing.

Unless you truly see a light at the end of the tunnel or a solution being born from the pain, it just is not worth hurting yourself again.

If your boss, your co-worker, or some random customer already made your day terrible, don’t empower them by giving them more of your time and energy. 

Release their hold by releasing the memory and refusing to waste your free time-bound to their bad behavior.

Tip #2: Get a Pulse on the Room

You may have all the justified need in the world to release the pain from your mind out into the open. However, your audience may not be a willing participant on the receiving end.

Sometimes it is critically important to lean on others when suffering through life’s challenges. But it is also important to evaluate if you found the right partner to help.

Some family members may be suffering problems of their own at this time.  Others may have had the best day of their life and then you show up with a pound of negativity that destroys their whole disposition.

Take a pulse check to see if now is a good time to lean on another’s shoulder. 

A good friend or family member will be there for you fully when they are in position to give you their best attention.  But pushing your way through can make your bad situation feel even worse.

You will feel better in the process when you feel acknowledged and listened to.  You may even get better feedback when your supporter is in the best position to be of support.

In stopping to consider if sharing your bad day is good for another person, you may decide it’s not good for them or for you. #facts

Tip #3: Confide in the Right Person

Make a habit of being selective with who you share your problems with, in general.

Rather than find the one person who will sit and complain until the sun comes up, instead find that friend who finds the bright side to every situation.

Misery loves company but too much misery is just miserable!

Have a confidant who will listen to your problems but then help you find solutions.  The experience of finding positive outcomes despite terrible situations can be healing to you both. 

More often than not you tell yourself that you want to talk about your problem so you can get it out and get over it.

A good solutionist is going to help you do just that.

Talk out what went wrong.  Envision how it could have been better.  Potentially address the situation the next day with a positive outcome in mind.

Now together you have transformed a complaint into an improvement opportunity.

Tip #4: Refocus Your Attention

Take a moment to evaluate if what you have to say is better than what you have to experience right in front of you.

Remember, right now you are itching to relive your past.  But in your present, you have valuable time to spend with family, friends, your pet, or even your favorite tv show.

Why would you trade all the good in your life to relive one moment of pain that is over?

Even if you have to return to an uncomfortable situation the next day, give yourself the opportunity for peace now.

It may seem like all that you can think about is how horrible work was.  But it is worth the effort to create a distraction and set yourself on a different path.

  • Play music that you enjoy on your commute home.
  • Put on a tv show that makes you laugh.
  • Play with your kids.
  • Walk your dog.
  • Kiss your significant other.
  • Call and check in on your mom.

Surround yourself with all the things that are going right in your life and put that ugly work memory on the shelf for now.  

Related Article: 7 Ways to Create Balance in Your Imbalanced Life

Better yet, tell all those that are important in your life how thankful you are to have them to come home to.

After a bad day, it is life-changing to bask in gratitude for the good that you have.

Even if it takes effort, refocusing your attention is worth the reward of your peace of mind.   

Tip #5: Keep Your Home Sacred

For those days where you really have to go through the ugly details of your day, give yourself set boundaries.

All ugly happens outside of the house, but none of it crosses the threshold.

Once you are home all bets are off.  You don’t speak about it.  Don’t think about it.  You will not carry a bad day into your home.

This is not only a blessing to yourself but it is a blessing to all who reside with you.

By making your home a sanctuary, you have declared that you set the tone for what your home represents to you.

You may be paid by your job, but you are living for your household, even if you are a household of one.  

Don’t sacrifice the peace of your home for a paycheck.

When you prioritize your home, you simultaneously prioritize yourself and create healthy boundaries that support you.

This self-support will give you the opportunity to recalibrate and to reintroduce calm into an otherwise hectic, stressful day.

 It can also serve to put you in a better frame of mind to handle the challenges and burdens that you are facing.

When you rejuvenate, you recharge your battery.  And with proper energy and rest, you are less likely to want to complain.

Tip #6: Be a Problem Solver

Rather than complaining with no purpose, put conscious energy into resolving your problems.

Complaining just to complain rarely is a fix to any problem. 

But assessing a problem situation with the intention to create a more positive outcome is worth your investment.

If your boss communicates with you disrespectfully, how can you be the catalyst for better communication?  Maybe they don’t know how you feel and you can take the courage to share the impact their words have on you. 

Or it could be that a co-worker seems to never keep up with their work and it impacts your workload.  You could attempt to work collaboratively with them to create an improved workstream.

Your pay may be embarrassingly lower than others who do what you do.  You could approach your boss or your HR representative to see if it is possible for a change.

 Instead of demanding fairness, which you may deserve, you can first explore to gain an understanding.  There may be a reason for the discrepancy or you may have to face that your work output is not on the same level as someone else’s.

Each of these situations presents somewhat easy solutions.  But the problems that you just can’t stop talking about often are difficult, repeated, and truly disruptive experiences.

Even the toughest problems can have real solutions if you seek to find them.

When necessary, seek out counsel, gain professional support, or get advice from others with more influence.  You may even have to strategize on how to leave your job if there is no resolution within your job.

Related Article: How to Know It is Time for a Job Change

The goal is to solve your issue instead of sitting in the mode of constant complaining. 

Taking an active role to improve your situation is an act of giving to yourself.  And this is a much better solution than taking away your peace through constant complaining.


Anyone can find a reason to complain about their job.   As long as you work alongside people, you can expect imperfection.  It is what makes us human.

But constant excessive complaining is just b*tching.  It is unproductive, stress-producing, and leads to making a bad situation worse.

Make a choice starting today if you want to continue to just complain or actually improve your work situation. 

Create a standard that your terrible work life is not going to spoil your entire life. And become the catalyst for positive change instead of the center of negative attention.

Only you can take the steps to remove the negativity from your day-to-day. 

When you stop saying that it’s your job’s fault and instead make it your responsibility, you can own the type of day you have.

Stop complaining and create solutions to remove the complaints from your daily habits.  You and those around you will be better for it.