The Perfect Self-Love Tips to Change Your Life

The practice of self-love will change your life.  

It is the connection between your physical self and your spiritual self. 

Self-love is your relationship with Spirit manifested by you and channeled through you. 

When you are able to focus your attention on yourself and to purposely flow love upon yourself, you have become boundless in your ability to experience love. 

It is for this reason that self-love is the ultimate expression of love for you that can be exceeded by no other.

“Self-love is the ultimate expression of love for you that can be exceeded by no other”

Exploring ways of tangibly demonstrating love towards yourself is both intimate and personal. 

Each one of us defines love in accordance with our own values and emotional definitions. 

We feel love differently. 

We express love differently.

We define love differently.

And because of this we collectively create an expansive experience of love that we can each share.

The ideas are as boundless as the pool of self-love itself.  To connect with this knowing, read through these ideas and tips on self-love and choose what resonates with you. 

This is not a checklist with actions to be completed but an idea bank to inspire your personal expression of love for yourself.

How to Practice Self-Love Through Words & Communication

Communication of love to yourself brings idea, thought, word, and sound together. It is the harmonizing the celebration of you. 

Take a moment when life is not a distraction and say ideas to yourself of why you are loveable. 

Reflect on thoughts of your loving ways as recognized by others. 

Write loving statements to yourself as if writing a love letter. 

It may feel different, but take time to put into written words the love you see in you.

Then take the process a step further. Read your love letter to yourself every day. 

Find a quiet space where no one is around to hear you but you. 

Sit in your car or wait until the house is empty.  Whisper your love letter while the dryer masks your voice. 

But never miss the moment to say loving words to yourself every day. 

Add to your love letter every time you notice another piece of you that is loveable.  

You are an ever-expanding expression of love.

Capture your words, keep them close, and repeat.  Your self-love lyrics will be life-changing.

How to Practice Self-Love Through Taste & Sensual Pleasure

The sensation of pleasure through taste and smell is lifting to the mind and to the spirit; it touches the soul. 

Create your at-home reservation for breakfast, lunch, or dinner where you can intentionally draw out these pleasurable sensations.

Plan ahead for your event. 

What beverage would you drink that would stimulate your senses?

 Is it the cool bubbliness of sparkling water or the warm, soothing sensation of freshly brewed tea? 

Do you crave the calming yet bitter sensation of a dark wine?

Or do you prefer the energy infusion of a sweet carbonated soda?

Ponder your pleasure, take careful consideration of your sensual needs, and provide this to yourself.

Your exploration of self-love through taste and smell is limited only by your imagination. 

Maybe it is a small taste of 10 different pastries or an expansive platter of exotic cheeses. 

A well-prepared steak with herbs and wine surrounded by a brilliantly vibrant bed of greens can be an inspiration to your palette.

The fragrance of your meal may bring you to salivation while it is cooking in your home.  Or you may choose to purchase and bring your meal home, leaving the expertise of perfection in someone else hands.

Your gifts of pleasure through taste and smell are yours to curate. 

The purpose is to experience your gift as a genuine reflection of your points of pleasure.  You know yourself enough and love yourself enough to bring together all that would be perfect for you.

How to Practice Self-Love Through Self-Reflection

Thinking about yourself in loving ways is its own form of self-love.

Bringing together different moments in your life that represent why you represent love is an awakening. 

See your life as if a movie, taking a close-up look at the small, almost insignificant signs, of the love that you exude without thinking.

You are the giving spirit that gives a $20 bill to a homeless man without a second’s hesitation. 

Remember your warm smile cast across the park when you shared an accidental glance with a woman with tears in her eyes.  You didn’t know what hurt, but you thought a soft smile might help. 

You are the one who gave up your place in line, your seat on the bus, your question in class and permitted someone else to have their needs met before your own.

You are the wonder that changes the world every single day in every single way.

Take the moment to recognize the love that you are to your family, to your friends, even to strangers. You are also that loving spirit to yourself. 

Reflect on How Well You Love You

Recall when you didn’t answer the phone as you prioritized making your bath water and preparing to relax. 

Recant the strong but kindly relayed words that you gave to your boss when you declined to sacrifice your weekend for the job.

Relish in the memory of your scheduled spa day after a hectic holiday week of planning, cooking, and hosting. 

You are a beautiful reflection of love to yourself as well as to the world.

Take the time to bring these instances to mind.  Write them down. Reread your notes.  Celebrate your actions. 

Define love by both who you are and what you do.

Claim your self-love by catching yourself in action. 

You define by your actions what love-in-motion is. And true self-love is acknowledging yourself and showing yourself appreciation for your loving nature.

How to Practice Self-Love Through Gifts & Gratitude

You deserve to be gifted.  To be gifted well requires thought, contemplation, and a special knowing of the gift receiver.

A wonderful way to love yourself well is to go through the process of giving to yourself and accepting your own gift with gratitude.

Self gift giving can be large or small.

Save what you can for 3 months, 6 months, or even a year.  Use the outcome of your savings stockpile as a means to acquire a special item especially for you. 

To invest over time permits the opportunity for regular and focused intention. 

See the power in your setting regular intention to invest in giving to you. 

You can also create special gifting moments. 

Create a special morning by placing a bottle of water, bowl of fruit, or scented candle by your bed. 

Wake up in remembrance that you went to sleep with thoughts of making your morning perfect.

Have your favorite treat tucked in your corner cabinet. Put a treasured photo in your planner just to make you smile.

Take a solo drive through a beautiful neighborhood on an early Saturday morning just because it pleases you and gives you peace.

Be creatively kind in showing yourself love with intention.

A Little Self-Love Gift List

  1. Wash your bedsheets with your favorite essential oil or add your favorite scent to your shampoo. 
  2. Gather fresh wildflowers or pine cones in a bowl as your gift of nature to you for your desk or at home.
  3. Take 30 minutes to pull together your favorite love songs playlist that speak to how you love others or, most importantly, how you love yourself. 

Be mindful of the thoughtfulness behind the gifts you give to yourself. 

Let your thoughts reflect what is important to you, what is sentimental to you, and what represents joy in physical form.

You deserve to be seen in love and light and to be shown gratitude for your presence. 

Self-love through gifts and gratitude demonstrates the special knowing of you by you and an opportunity to give self-love in the most special of ways.

How to Practice Self-Love Through Touch and Stimulation

So often it is thought that to enjoy the sensation of touch we must engage something outside of ourselves.  But learning to share kindness with your own body can be the greatest gift of self-love. 

Self-attention through touch can be meaningful and nurturing.

There is an opportunity in each day to slow down, become present, and feel different in our own hands.

Taking a shower provides space to wash your hair and provide yourself a scalp massage. 

Especially using the soft elixir of a fragrant conditioner, both your head and your hands can enjoy the process.

Consider the process of cleansing your body with intention. 

Attending to every part of you can be a lovely way to say that every part of you is important.  Know the feel of each part of your body, especially those parts that may not always get attention. 

The feel of your elbow, different than your knee, or the heel of your foot.  It’s all you and you know yourself inch by inch.

After exiting a bath or shower, you can give time to provide yourself a full body massage with oils and creams. 

A beautiful expression of self-love and personal attention can be had through Ayurvedic self-massage.

Combining the care and caress of your skin with the relaxation of your muscles can be refreshing. 

Placing the kindness of your body in your own hands can be a perfect expression of self-love one touch at a time.

Your attention to every subtle detail is how your self-love commitment comes to life.


The practice of self-love is an important expression of love especially for you by you.

When you are able to define what love is and then extend this to yourself you provide an endless channel of loving experiences for yourself.

Prioritize self-love to know and appreciate yourself more and to provide opportunities for more kindness, calm, beauty, and special memories in your life.

You are the most important person in your life. Take action to show your importance to yourself and see that by being better to yourself you are better overall.

Start applying these self-love tips today and see how self-love is life-changing.

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