HOW TO CONQUER SELF-DOUBT AT WORK WITH POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Have you been in that place when you feel that all eyes are on you and everyone in the room can see you fail?
- Every word that you say is a confirmation of how inept you are at what you do.
- Compliments, if they even happen, ring false in your ears as if charitable gifts of pity.
- Constructive criticism feels like walking barefoot on shards of broken glass.
And, in your mind, there is no convincing that you are good at anything. Because last you checked, you have a solid history of mistakes, missed deadlines, and embarrassing fails.
This is self-doubt at its worse and it can be a crippling experience.
When self-doubt shows up at work, it can affect your career and your overall potential for joy in what you do.
You Can Change Your Pattern of Self-Doubt at Work
One way to change your pattern of self-doubt is through the regular use of positive affirmations.
Self-doubt can show up in your work life in many ways. One common way is in the manner that you speak to yourself.
When the basis of your self-doubt is your own negative self-talk, positive affirmations give you a different and better language to speak.
If used consistently, you can slowly start to reprogram the habit of negative thoughts and words. You can then replace them with truthful empowerment.
This is not an instant process but it can be initiated immediately.
By maintaining a goal to improve your self-treatment, you can conquer your self-doubt and infuse confidence into your work-life.
Positive affirmations can be a significant tool to make this happen.
What Exactly is Self-Doubt?
The definition of self-doubt can be described well by its opposite.
Self-doubt is having a lack of confidence.
It is the opposite of demonstrating self-love or self-esteem in a triggering moment or overall.
When you experience self-doubt, what you are not experiencing is strength, wholeness, or assuredness.
If self-doubt is a chronic condition, you are often on the opposite side of happiness, calm, or personal fulfillment.
With all of this lack, the positive attributes of life can feel far out of reach.
Those who perform the best and enjoy their job the most, feel confident and happy with what they do.
Self-doubt and loving your job just don’t work well together.
Why Are You Talking Negative About Yourself, Anyway?
Self-doubt through regular negative self-talk can seem to have cropped up from nowhere. You may even say that this is how you have always been.
In reality, we often learn habits like this through our life experiences. The more that behavior is reinforced by our environment, the more probable we may make it a part of our norm.
- Do you spend time with other people who complain about themselves externally or who say negative things about other people?
- Are parents and loved ones making it acceptable to talk negative about yourself but complimenting yourself is proud and arrogant? You may begin to internalize that negative self-talk is somehow equivalent with being humble or more realistic.
- Have you made a string of mistakes in your work and feel that it warrants criticism? If you examined yourself from the outside looking in, do you see a failure or someone undeserving of their job?
These are just a few examples of how negative self-talk can be introduced or reinforced within you.
And then, with repeat exposure, it can become your habit of understanding and a major contributor to your self-doubt.
Try looking at your life through a different lens.
This can allow you the opportunity to embrace imperfections, reduce exposure to negative surroundings, and create better outcomes through better internal communication.
Why Is Addressing Self-Doubt and Negative Self-Talk Important?
Self-doubt can keep you standing still when life compels you to move forward.
It can strip the joy from what you do every day and make what could be your dream job feel like a job from hell.
Too often a bad job can be confused with a pattern of internal negativity.
If you do not see the good in what you do, the potential for learning and growth within yourself, then it is likely you will feel that your job is also a contributing factor to your lack of success too.
Nothing is right when all you see and talk about is wrong.
But if you transition your negative self-talk into positive reinforcement of your strengths and opportunities, you elevate your emotional set point and your sense of self.
Through self-awareness and empowerment, you now can…..
- See past mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow, or
- Interpret missed deadlines as flags for problems to solve and opportunities for process improvement, or
- Reevaluate embarrassing moments as necessary and meaningful life lessons
As human beings, we are imperfect by nature.
And when you embrace your personal imperfection you can move away from self-criticism. Instead, you place your attention on positive self-awareness and empowerment.
Your imperfections are what make you unique. And your uniqueness is what makes you special.
And why does this matter when it comes to your work?
When you are able to show your strengths well, demonstrate understanding of your weaknesses, and also project confidence, you are truly well-rounded.
- You confidently know what jobs to take and feel empowered to pass on the ones that will be a struggle.
- You understand what work requires more study and learning and what you can take on without any thought at all.
- You can take on challenges with openness and transparency and feel comfortable asking for support in areas you know are not your strengths.
You can connect with others better, build stronger work relationships, and perform at your best when you embrace the totality of what you are.
How Positive Affirmations Help Conquer Self-Doubt
Positive affirmation can help conquer your self-doubt by supporting you to build a negative self-talk alternative.
When you introduce a new pattern of regular words of encouragement and self-worth, personally-directed negativity no longer has a place in your internal conversation
You stop normalizing thoughts or words of your failure, lack of ability, or fear of new things.
Instead, highlight your patterns of success, your ability to move forward even after setbacks, and your capability to survive and thrive through change.
Positive affirmations can be a powerful support in rewriting your pattern of negative self-talk. With them, you can interject confidence and self-worth into your daily communication.
Used regularly, positive affirmations help to change your internal narrative and also provide you readied alternatives when you are not practiced at saying the best things to yourself.
How to Use Positive Affirmations
The best use of positive affirmations is a self-defined practice.
So long as, in their use, you see movement towards your goals you have developed a good practice.
To help you develop the best practice for you, here are a few commonly used ideas:
Curate Your Perfect Positive Affirmations List
When considering options, think about the attribute that you want to improve.
- Do you want to be more Confident?
- Are you hard on yourself in general and need to speak more Self-Love?
- Do you obsess unnecessarily and need to create more Calm in your work day?
There are thousands of affirmations that exist on all of these subjects and more.
As you read them, examine how you feel. Sometimes you can be immediately empowered. Other times you may feel uncomfortable because you do not feel that it feels like you just yet.
Even the positive affirmations that challenge you may be worth considering for your list.
It can be the hardest ones to say to yourself that you may really need to start hearing on a regular basis.
Examine Your Positive Affirmations List for Best Fit
While affirmations can be of different designs, subjects, and lengths, when new to using affirmations it may be worth considering keeping a common theme and choosing ones of shorter length.
You want to not only find the right words to say but you want to remember to say them.
Shorter phrases on a singular theme can make remembering your positive affirmations that much easier.
Memorize 2 or 3 at first and build your practice of use over time.
You may quickly find that what you thought was a major focus for you really wasn’t that big of a deal after all.
It could also be that one subject of positive affirmation was valid for one week and the next week you need a different focus of attention.
Let the process be fluid but be diligent to attend to your list and to use your positive affirmations daily.
It is likely your negative self-talk had the floor a lot. It’s time to give your positive affirmations as much or more time in your mind.
Create a Positive Affirmations Morning Ritual
Starting your day in the right mindset can be the perfect way to combat self-doubt before it starts.
And positive affirmations can be instrumental to start your day right.
Now that you have curated a list of positive affirmations, keep your list handy. Use them as soon as you wake up from your sleep or while you are getting dressed.
While you may have memorized a few favorites, this is the time to review your whole list.
Take time to say each word. Resonate with the meaning of each phrase. And even create a visualization of yourself embodying the words that you have said.
Confidence, self-love, success, and motivation feel different and create different facial expressions, even presentation, and stance in your body.
Take on all the effects of these new positive affirmations on you.
Remember, you are re-writing all the expressions, thoughts, and bodily impact of negative self-talk. So you want to give yourself as many queues as possible of these positive changes.
Use Positive Affirmation Addendums
When first tackling your habits of negative self-talk, it may be hard to remember to say positive statements to yourself instead.
The reality is that you likely have been saying negative things for a long time and to abruptly start a new pattern is not likely.
Recognizing your negative-self talk triggers can help to begin opening awareness to when and how often you present yourself with negative ideas and self-doubt.
In the midst of your negative comments, you can add on a positive affirmation addendum to steer your thoughts in a new direction.
For example, if you would normally say, “I am not good at this!” you may add on, “But I am capable to learn new things”.
Or if you ask yourself, “Why would they give this for Me to do of all people?”, you may follow up by saying, “I always do my absolute best. Maybe they knew that”.
Instead of leaving yourself defeated, give yourself a breath of fresh air and room to feel better about your capabilities.
Know that change takes time. But inserting positive affirmations into your life is worth the effort for the rewards of positivity, calm, self-worth, and self-confidence that they bring.
Train yourself to conquer self-doubt and become the success you want to be.
Self-doubt is difficult to live with and even more difficult to address at work.
Particularly when self-doubt builds in you due to negative self-talk, it can cloud your judgment about yourself and your ability to be successful at work.
Positive affirmations are good tools to re-engineer your thoughts and internal dialogue and to create an improved self-image.
They can improve not only how you speak to yourself but how you feel about yourself and your overall future.
Choosing the right positive affirmations for you is necessary to not only improve what you say but to feel genuine in the process.
Taking inventory of your emotions and what words resonate with you, can make your positive affirmation practice most meaningful and impactful.
With the right tools in hand, you can build a practice of infusing positive affirmations into your work life and create a more positive and healthy work experience every day.
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