5 Reasons You Want to Quit Your Job When Maybe You Shouldn’t

5 Reasons You Want to Quit Your Job When Maybe You Shouldn’t

No one will know you better than you.  And for the same reason, no one will know when it is time to quit your job better than you.

However, knowing when to quit a job is not as easy as it seems. 

One bad meeting, a couple of bad co-workers, and a highly irritating boss and you are ready to throw in the towel. 

Sometimes, before you quit, it makes sense to take a closer look.  Define what you want, remove the emotions from your point of view (if only for a moment), and see what you have.

You could be amazed that everything you are looking for can be found right in front of you. 

Or, you could confirm confidently that you have no choice but to leave your job.

 Regardless of the outcome, take a clear look before you make a move. 

Look at these 5 Ways You Quit Your Job When Maybe You Shouldn’t (and the 16 Solutions – S1-S16 – to keeping the job you have on purpose):

1. You Keep Thinking About Quitting

It is uncommon that a person who loves their job, sees their future with a job, or feels they are working their dream job, is also constantly thinking of quitting.

However, not every thought that you think repeatedly is one you want to listen to. 

You should at least notice when a repeat thought is happening and why.

We tend to be hardwired to repeatedly think thoughts that we are emotionally tied to.  These emotions can be good or bad, but they intensify the impact of any thought in our minds.

When thinking of quitting a job, on one hand, you can be hopeful about the prospect of a new experience. On the other hand, you can be miserable with the experience you are living and want it to end.

In either case, you are not settled or satisfied with where you are and are more focused on something different.

Don’t ignore what you are already telling yourself.

Something about you and your job is not aligned.

But you do have choices. Don’t allow your current unsettled feeling to lead you to believe that your only option is to leave.

There can be times when we become our own worst enemy and harbor on the negative

This negativity compulsion can be bigger than your job.  It can be your total disposition about the world in general.

When we do this for too long, we can create a negative lens for all the things around us.  

Make a conscious effort to recognize if you have a pattern of negativity within yourself and choose to see things differently(S1).

You can create new enjoyable experiences with others at work (S2) or make a conscious effort to improve your work environment (S3).

But if this is truly not possible, you can also release yourself from your discomfort and simply look for a new job.

It is possible to find a job that you really want and one that you would not dream of wanting to leave.

2. You Feel STUCK, TRAPPED, or UNMOTIVATED at Work

Like a broken elevator, some jobs leave you right where you are standing. 

While sometimes we want to run before we walk, other times a job can make you feel as if you are at a perpetual crawl.

You can’t expand to learn new things, so you are stuck doing the same old thing.

There is no way to move up or you repeatedly get passed over for promotion, so you feel trapped in a dead-end position.

You are bursting with ideas and suggestions, but they are not listened to or supported.

The summary of it all is that you feel unmotivated to attempt to do anything more.

Before you give up on your job, explore ways to make what you want happen.

Look for inspiration and ideas from others around you who have been successful in what you want to do (S4).  Take advantage of your insider access to talented co-workers who may love to show you what they do or share how they gained their skills.

Professional growth is not limited to changing your position.  You can grow by learning people and processes and practicing different forms of communication(S5).

Try talking and connecting with your boss in review of your professional needs and interests.

Every company and every manager has their own way of building their staff to become more.  You may need to learn how to connect with their vision before forcing yours onto them.

Create a win-win by drawing clear lines between meeting your needs and the needs of your department. You may find that you and your manager have a common interest and as a result a shared enthusiasm in your career development.

There is always a way to approach your goals from a different angle and to achieve success. 

Another thing to consider is whether or not you are truly being passed by.

It is important to acknowledge that there are times when you actually get what you want. And even more when your voice is truly heard. 

Sometimes we get so addicted to winning that we fall apart whenever we lose or get told no.

No job will take your every suggestion or implement your every idea.

Celebrate your wins and learn from your losses (S6).  And remember you can experience both at any job.

Identify your role in your success

When it comes to promotion, note that this type of change can require time, experience, and a particular level of talent.  Not every single person is capable to attain what’s required. 

Take an honest evaluation of whether you truly meet the requirements for the work that you seek to do. If not, see what opportunities you have to grow both inside and outside of your business (S7).

You may be putting full responsibility on your job to give to you when you have not yet invested in yourself.

Now, if you feel that you have turned every stone, tried every angle, explored every avenue, and are still standing still, it may be time to move on.

Your company is not the only answer to your growth, but it should meet you on your professional journey.  If it is unable to do this, then it may be time to find a company that will.

3. You Struggle to Come Up with Good Reasons to Stay

Looking for the positive in a situation is an excellent starting point in taking responsibility for your life experience.

You cannot control the world, but you can control your opinion of it.

However, when a job is just a bad fit, it can feel impossible to come up with the positive end of the stick.

  • You are working.
  • And you are able to earn an income.
  • Plus you know how to do your job well.

Then suddenly your list of affirmative statements ends, and you are left wondering why you are still here.

It is important before you make a big decision like quitting a job that you evaluate if things are really as bad as they seem.

Particularly when you build a negative expectation or negative emotional pattern related to your job, it is extremely difficult to see things differently.

Take time to write a pro and cons list about your work (S8).

Have discussions with others at work with tenure and casually ask what made them stay all their years (S9).

Seek out the positive instead of expecting it to just show up. 

Look at what you have learned, what relationships you have built, and the comforts you have gained from being in a familiar environment (S10).

But if with all of your searching, you still struggle with finding positive to be found, you may simply be in the wrong place. 

A good place to work, like any good relationship, is not a struggle.  You should know easily why you would want to be there even if occasionally you are not happy with the day-to-day.

If all that comes to mind is the hardship of staying, then make your life easier and start your plan to go.

4. You Are Emotionally Disconnected from Anything “Important”

The pace and energy of a job are as important of a factor as the actual work that you do. 

Every business, and even the departments within them, have a different culture and manner that each part interacts with the other.

At one time you may have been a part of that natural rhythm.  But now you are no longer part of that flow.

Deadlines come and go with an urgency in the air.  Must-do projects sail through with pressure and intensity.

You may even sit in the middle of all the calamity, but you just don’t care.

When you lose your passion for your position, it shows. 

The days become longer.  The work becomes meaningless.  And your internal fire is impossible to light.

This type of dwindled energy can occur for many different reasons and not all lead to leaving your job.

You may have had a recent negative experience at work that is too fresh for you to ignore.  Or a blow to your ego too big for you to be enthusiastic about work at the moment.

When problems like this arise, remember to consider that it may be a long-term disruption or simply a temporary discomfort. 

When experiencing pain from your job, let time heal before you decide you need to leave (S11).

Another reason you can lose interest in the usual work frenzy is that you are burned out. 

You want to have more enthusiasm, but your cup is empty and has been for so long there is nothing to pull from.

Give yourself the opportunity to replenish and see if with proper rest, self-care, and rebalancing you return to your normal energetic self (S12).

Still another reason for the disconnect is when things other than work have your attention.

You may have a sick parent, experienced a recent death, or even a break-up.  Your emotional ties to other parts of your life may leave you empty at work.

The reality is that while it is not necessary to pour your emotions into your work when you do you feel more connected.

Allow yourself to be different when life requires you to be.

Permit yourself to attend to other parts of your life and to limit your emotional attachment to work priorities(S13).

You can still be productive and yet emotionally disconnected.  And if you are comfortable, let your boss or co-workers know when you have distractions that may make the way you do your work seem different.

You may find in being transparent that others become more helpful and supportive until you are able to bring yourself back to center (S14).

No matter the obstacle, when all the dust settles and you can see and feel clearly, take another look at your job.

If even with a clear mind and filled emotional tank you still lack passion for where you are, then it may be time to look for a new work love in your life.

5. You Just Do Not Like What You Do

A job is more than a paycheck.  And it can be disturbing when this realization shows itself each and every day at work.

You may have started your job because you had to pay the bills.  But after time you are looking for more.

Loving what you do may seem like a privilege.  But you would appreciate it if you at least liked what you do. 

If you struggle with having an interest in your job, it can make getting through your day feel like crossing a desert.  The dry reality of completing meaningless tasks can be torturous.

This realization does not always mean that quitting your job is the answer.

Many companies have a number of positions and would love to hire someone who has tenure with the business that they know and trust.

Look for other internal job opportunities (S15).  Or, if you feel you can support the company in a unique way, consider proposing a new position (S16).

There is no harm in being creative or expressing your interests openly. 

The worse that can happen is that you are told no. 

And then you can decide if quitting is the only option that you have left.

See yourself as a valuable asset capable of learning and taking on new challenges.  You may be just what your company needs.

And if not, another company will be happy to bring you onboard.

Conclusion

No job will last forever.  But before you leave the one that you have, make sure that it is really a new job that you need.

If you quit your job, you don’t want to look back and feel that maybe you really shouldn’t have.

Remember to look for solutions to your discomfort before you decide that quitting is your only resolution.

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S2: Create new enjoyable experiences with others at work

S3: Make a conscious effort to improve your work environment

S12: Give yourself the opportunity to replenish and see if with proper rest, self-care, and rebalancing you return to your normal energetic self.

The best thing that you can do for yourself is to take personal responsibility for the happiness you desire in your job. 

And, if even in your diligence you cannot find a resolution to the problems you face, then choose to prioritize your happiness and find a job that you love.

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7 Ways to Create Balance in Your Imbalanced Life

7 Ways to Create Balance in Your Imbalanced Life

Create balance in your life and live a better life. Seems simple enough.

It is energizing to live each day in flow. It is empowering to feel that no matter what comes there is a comfort that awaits you.

Knowing that you are in balance gives both a sense of relaxation and excited anticipation to any day. 

However, imbalance is also a part of life. At times it can seem like the only part of life that you are living. 

The days strung together when it feels that nothing is in flow.

The moments when nothing goes as planned and the worst scenario seems to just keep showing up. The days when you just want the day to stop and start over.

Know that you don’t have to work to remove the experience of imbalance to have a good life.

You couldn’t even if you wanted to.

So instead make peace with your times of imbalance and learn ways to regain balance once it has been lost.

Take a look at these 7 Ways to Create Balance when imbalance has become your way of life. See what you may be able to add to your list of remedies to put you in a better place:

Grace | Positive Speak | Self Chivalry | Rest | Sacred Space | Nature | Special Connections

1. A Little Grace Goes a Long Way

Sometimes the easiest way to regain balance is to release trying to have it. (Yes, you read that right).

Sometimes life is just hard

Give yourself grace and permit yourself to simply be human when things fall apart

Be angry, cry, feel defeated and frustrated. It is hard to skip past the ugly parts of imbalance when your emotions are running strong and your focus is blurred. So let it be.

Create a starting point of acceptance before you forge ahead trying manically to feel better.

Acknowledge where you are.

This gives you the opportunity to actually pause and see where things have gone wrong. This is the point where your knowledge of self becomes your power.

Otherwise, you can be lost in your emotion and directionless in your actions inspired by your discomfort.

Too often, you can be painfully in imbalance and not even realize it.

In these moments you turn on yourself and everyone and everything around you. Spinning your wheels you try to fight or fix everything and that is just too big of a challenge for anyone to take on.

When everything is out of control, maybe it’s time to stop trying to control it

Instead of looking for the world to be fixed so that you feel better, focus on bringing yourself to a better place – in time. Own your personal state and feel empowered that you know yourself enough to realize when you are simply momentarily off.

Self Knowledge is Not Wasted Effort When Working to Feel Better

Imbalance is a part of life and one that you and most others will experience frequently.  It is not a failure to be imbalanced.

But it is a failed assessment to believe that your current disposition is somehow wrong.

The goal to be in constant balance is one that can never be achieved.  So let it go.

An attainable goal is to seek more self-awareness. Note when you fall from your balance and develop ways that consistently help you through your challenges. 

Know yourself enough to truly believe that you can get through this

Even with imbalance there are positive gains when you grow to build more and more trust in yourself.

You will learn that you can find ways to resolve your life’s conflicts and bring balance back to your life.

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2. Say the Right Words for the Right Outcome

Words are powerful.  Therefore, there is good reason to choose your words wisely or suffer the consequence of self-created imbalance. 

As if a mantra, you can at times repeat over and over again all the negatives about you or your experiences.

  • This is a horrible day. 
  • Why is everything going wrong? 
  • Here we go again! 
  • I’m an idiot. 
  • I can make a mess of everything!!!

The list of imbalanced words and phrases has no end and so with it no end to the problems that come with it. 

What you say to you matters. Think before you speak

The words that we repeat become the reality that we live. When we speak negativity to ourselves then a moment of discomfort can become a full day of regret.  

Change your self-talk and live differently. 

You are the key to the life that you manifest and your words are instruments in the making of it. 

In the midst of imbalance, you may not be able to change what you are facing. But you can change the words you say, think, or repeat.

Choose to soothe yourself instead of aggravating your frazzled nerves more.

Start small but purposefully. Try affirming to yourself, “it will be okay” or, “I know I am doing my best”, or “it can only get better from here”.  

Better yet, sing a song that you enjoy or recite a prayer or poem that brings you peace. 

Kind words and a smile can be life-changing

Choose words with emotions that represent where you want to be even if you feel very different in the present.

  • “I’m far from happy now, but I know that things will get better and I will get happier
  • “I can’t wait until I’m excited to wake up in the morning”
  • “When I get home I am going to have a peaceful and relaxing night. I need it”

Say the words that you need to hear to become the balance you need to have.  

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3. Champion Your Own Chivalry

Protect your needs for well-being and your right to balance

To take care of another before oneself is only one form of chivalry. 

Do not hesitate to become the champion of mastered courtesy and honor for yourself.

Put a gallant effort toward defending your right to peace when imbalance has seemingly taken over your life.  

You can be your own knight in shining armor. Take the necessary actions to smite the sources of the imbalance that confront you. 

Make choices that honor your personal needs for importance, priority, and self-care. And be proud to take your balance as a reward.

You are allowed to pull away from what drains you and relax back into focus

If you can leave work early, do it. 

If you can leave a phone call unanswered, do it. 

If simply going to the bathroom for a moment of peace is the only solitude you can capture, take it.

Give yourself the freedom to stop the world if only for a moment.

Your life shouldn’t feel like bondage

Make decisions that serve you and become an ambassador of your sanctity and sanity.

When life becomes too much it is okay to pause what you can so that you are in a better place to handle what comes. 

Be chivalrous to yourself regularly and you may thwart many occasions of imbalance on the horizon.

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4. The Requirement of Replenishment

Within the most basic human functions lays the most critical of needs, replenishment.

Rest, relaxation, and sleep each serves to provide replenishment to the body.

Recharging your battery gives you the energy to stay strong when you need it most

Replenishment of the body secures a foundation whereby you are in the best condition to perform at your highest capacity. 

The pressures, stresses, and frustrations of the day are regular occurrences that place a demand upon your physical and even your mental disposition. 

Replenishment is a defense against these attacks on your balance and provides you the strength to carry on.  

When feeling imbalanced examine your rest, relaxation, and sleep schedule, and if poor, address immediately and with urgency. 

Fighting the internal war of fatigue will invite imbalance and potentially subject you to even more, leaving you without the strength to find your way to norm.  

Take Your Rest Before It Overtakes You

Replenishment is more than sleep, though getting the length and depth of rest through sleep is important. Other forms of replenishment exist too:

While replenishment will not always cure imbalance by itself, it can provide you with centeredness that can support your return-to-balance journey.

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5. Own Your Space

When your whole world has toppled and there is confusion everywhere you look, finding respite in your sanctuary away from the storm can immediately make you feel better.

Create a space that provides you balance, even if only temporarily.

10 minutes of peace and positive focus can feel like a miracle

You may find that at work, it is your desk, your locker, even your screensaver. 

You can place positive messages, photos of family, or a memento that has special meaning to you.

Create a space for your inspired peaceful vision and gain the power to provide calm through your line of sight.

Let a simple image transport you to another place

At home, it may be your bedroom, a spare room, a small corner of your basement, or even your laundry room where you can place a candle, incense, or a bouquet of flowers.

Simplicity can bring balance in an instant

Visiting your sacred space or creating one for the first time can represent giving to yourself when it feels like the whole world is only taking. 

Having a display of items that have special meaning solely to you can provide a sense of grounding and control in an otherwise chaotic existence.

Your sacred space is whatever you want it to be but it’s yours

Imbalance can seem to walk with you no matter where you go, but having a space for peace can provide an opportunity to release your burdens and to step into balance when needed.

Keep your sanctuary intact at all times, never commingling your pressure points with your peaceful place.

This pattern of separation will help to train your mind, body, and spirit that once you have connected with your sanctuary all is well and balance is again accessible to you.

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6. Connect with Nature

No matter the season or time of day, it may be a perfect opportunity to step into nature when you feel that imbalance abounds.

Peace and balance is everywhere you need it to be

There is almost always an opportunity to experience nature if you choose to prioritize the experience. 

When the walls feel as if they are closing in and the place you stand feels unstable, take time to walk outside. Experience fresh air, solid ground, and the expansive view of the sky. It can be the best way to regain stability.

Look to nature when you need a balancing experience

Nature represents simplicity but also manifests in substantial ways through different forms of life and that which supports life. 

Water, sun, insects, soil, trees, flowers, grass, and animals, our world is surrounded with the sights and sounds of balance and natural synchronicity in abundance.

Not only can the mere experience of nature create a flow into balance but also the observation of the world’s simplicity in motion. 

  • Watch the movement of life around you, birds in the trees, squirrels running across the ground, people busseling to their destinations
  • Feel the breeze against your face on a hot or brisk day
  • Take in the unique smells of flowers and trees
  • Listen to water and its rhythmic tones whether from a nearby creek or a public fountain
  • Take a break from flourescent lights and cellphone screens and see the world through natural light

Allow the problems that you face to become small in comparison to the insurmountable wonder that is life on this planet.

Sit and take in the beauty that abounds

Go out and experience the abundance of eternal balance that surrounds you. And reassure yourself that your personal balance is literally only steps away at any moment.

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7. Find Your Tribe

There is no rule that your road to balance must be traveled alone. So when you find yourself in the thrusts of imbalance make use of your resources.

Surround yourself with loved ones when you need it most

If you do not have that tried and true relationship with a family member, friend, or co-worker today then start investing time now into building these relationships.

When you are fortunate enough to have special people in your life, trust in the strength of your relationship that they are willing and wanting to support you when you need the help.

To have loyal companions who will always have a positive disposition and a helping hand to lend is a treasure.

Good people with good dispositions are great resources to have.

When your path has gotten too dim for you to find your way home alone, a good friend will act as a lighthouse across your dark sea and guide you back to balance.

Let your friends be a source of healing for their benefit and yours.

When you don’t have the energy to create your peace, a good friend will offer encouragement and insight. While it is important to be your own source of comfort when facing imbalance, acknowledge when you need help.

A burden shared between two people can be much lighter weight than a crushing problem held by one

Remember also, you may not always have access to live support every time you need it. Late-night hours, travel, or just life can make it hard to connect with family and friends at times.

So it is important to also build a tribe of indirect connections and influencers to guide your journey toward balance.

The vehicles of peace are endless. Search for support and know that it is always there.

These resources can come in the form of musicians, artists, writers, podcasters, YouTubers, bloggers, and more. At a moment’s notice, no matter the time day or night, you can tap into their message and be transported to a better place.

  • Listen to music. Create playlists designed to lift your spirits when needed
  • Read a book or your favorite highlighted passage
  • Watch a motivational video or a heartwarming movie
  • Learn a new way to ease your stress or bring order to your life

Your favorite artists, creators, and entertainers can be your lifeline in bad times.

Curate your tribe with care and reap the rewards of partnered effort towards balance. Invest in creating your team for balance and see the fruits of your labor flourish with positive connections and peace.

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Conclusion

While imbalance is a part of life and not always an enjoyable part, balance also exists. 

The path of moving from the discomfort of imbalance to better balance can be challenging. Find comfort in knowing that any struggle is only temporary by nature. 

The goal then is to make your way through the tougher times. Ready your tools and resources so you can be in better balance and, overall, in a better state of mind and life experience.

Take command of your ability to create balance in your life. And know that no amount of imbalance can keep you from living the quality of life you choose to live.  

When you prepare ahead for the imbalance you know to come, you can be in the best position to bring yourself back to the balance that keeps you whole.

Remember Your Way Back to Balance

The balance that you seek is in your hands to create. You will always feel better in time.

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