YouTube Influencers You’ll Love that Help Make Household Management Easy

YouTube Influencers You’ll Love that Help Make Household Management Easy

You don’t have to be a YouTube influencer to prove your mastery of household management but these YouTube influencers definitely have gained real social proof!

Social media has exploded with influencers of all types and many are bona fide experts in their respective fields.

Many people have the opinion that the depth of their expertise is real because it’s live for you to see in action and it comes across genuinely from the heart.

These well-practiced household organizers, decorators, caretakers, and more are genuinely living the life that they portray through their social media channels.

At a time when many women find themselves balancing personal care, household management, childcare, work, and personal relationships every single day, having a little bit of expert influence on holding it all together can be critical.

This is my personal go-to list of YouTube influencers, broken down by area of expertise, that have been most impactful to my daily life. You may find them incredibly useful for yours too:

Family Meal Planning


This fitness-focused, happily married mom of 4 has been in my kitchen for a few years now and I find her entertaining, REAL, and informative.

Her real-life expertise is in a variety of subjects:

  • Budget-friendly grocery planning
  • Freezer meals and prepared meal planning
  • Family, couples, and single-person meal planning
  • Kitchen tool recommendations
  • Homemade bread and other baked goods making
  • Being a hysterically fun mom!

Even if I don’t make what she conjures up with her seemingly effortless rummage through her pantry and fridge, I love watching her do it.

She seems to master any low-budget challenge, but also keeps to the fundamentals of pleasing her family with their favorites. I mean, she may be trying to entertain the world, but her family still has to eat!

While she has tons of videos, I particularly love this classic where she goes through a frugal meal plan for one person. I believe it gives an excellent snapshot of her genuine and caring personality, her informative and resourceful nature, as well as her talent for pulling a meal together in the clutch.

(Sometimes I keep her videos just running while I cook for just pure entertainment value and fun company!)

Home Organization


I stumbled into heaven when I found this channel. And because my house seems to birth paper, mismatched socks, random toiletries, kitchen tools, and all types of clutter like a bunny rabbit, I needed some household management and declutter expertise to get my life in order.

Cassandra (or Cass – since she has been broadcasting through my living room for years now, I feel I can call her that) is a Canadian decluttering genie. And she has perfected her process so much so that she actually went big time and got a show on HGTV (!) called Hot Mess House.

But again, I, virtually, knew her back when.

And genuinely have had life-changing organizational improvement as a result.

She fits my YouTube watching standards of being Real, informative, and entertaining.

But what I love is that she is practical and flexible in her solutions.

She has even given little precious buggy categories to your organizational type to help you find your way to your personal cozy, homey, organized system just for you. But rather than give you that whole breakdown, I will just encourage you check it out for yourself and find your organization style.

Here is an example of her real-life expertise of household management through order and decluttering that will give you real insights to her skill. Selfishly, I am sharing her review of the Ladybug style of organization because, well, this is totally me!

(Oh, and one more tip. If you want to really hurt your face laughing, stay to the very end of her videos. More times than not she has a hilarious real-life story to share that is absolutely priceless!!)

Daily Household Management


A home cleaning and organization channel may not be your entertainment of choice for binging on a Saturday afternoon, but when I watch Hamimommy, I am in pure bliss!

I am not sure if it is how she makes household management look like a dream.

The ASMR-quality of every single movement through her home.

Or the pleasant music that she adds from time to time for just a bit of variation in the symphony of sharing her life.

I just love watching her!!!

And what I also love is that even if I don’t have time to read her captions, I can learn from her just in her doing.

(But don’t be fooled. There is magic in her captions.)

Not only is she thorough and thoughtful in what she does and how well it works for her in her daily processes, but she is also extremely transparent.

This transparency in her household management methods allows you to learn from her mistakes and grow with her when trying other options. Priceless!

This channel reviews all elements of life, cooking, cleaning, home repair, childcare, husband care, all of it. And it is simply beautiful as well as her lovely home.

In fact, I do not think words do this artwork of homelife captured on video justice. And if you don’t believe me, just watch:

Let’s just pause as I get more and more excited going through this list of gurus!

You will find no other article like this on my site, at least not at the moment. Because this is not my usual writing style.

But I am sharing these champions like a proud family member, and it is because they ARE like family. I truly watch, follow, subscribe and listen to their advice like I actually know them. #facts

So let’s continue….

DIY Household Management & Organization


Kathyrn is a joy and the official Dollar Tree aficionado.

Because of her, I have a whole new respect for what I can do with every dollar I spend.

Kathryn is a married mom of 2. And I have followed her long enough to watch her family grow, her residence change, and for her to apply all of her DIY expertise throughout all the changes.

Her areas of expertise include:

  • Budget-friendly organization
  • DIY household organization and decor
  • Small space organization
  • Kitchen organization
  • Child’s room organization
  • Pretty much every room organization
  • Low-cost meals
  • Look-a-like, budget-friendly DIY projects

While Do It on a Dime covers many different stores, thrift items, and repurposing of household goods, the pillar of education and resource comes from her Dollar Tree knowledge.

Watch her Dollar Tree content for a solid day and you will feel like you earned a diploma on the subject.

What is uniquely special is that Kathyrn has genuinely lived life as a mom on a budget, helping her family and her friends with doing the most with just a little. And she takes the time to create options and outcomes that, while inexpensive, look stylish and trendy.

You never feel that you have to settle for discount but instead that you made style for a discount! (I need to copyright that lol).

Here is one of her classic videos that I believe well demonstrates the layers of details, resourcefulness, and creativity that she shares all the time:

Household Cleaning


When trying to figure out your way in all the things that make you a mom, it’s nice to see a good mom in action and feel inspired.

That is the experience with Amanda as she opens her home and all the real-life breakdowns and clean-ups that come in the process.

Her channel covers all the details of household management like home projects, home organization, and room decor.

But my binge of choice is her Clean With Me videos. All the rage on YouTube, I only watch Amanda. And it is with good reason.

  • Her music selection is soothing or softly upbeat enough to run in the background while you’re cleaning away

  • She offers intermittent commentary sharing her day-to-day challenges and ideas for real problem resolution

  • She has a variety of Clean with Me videos that also include meals, seasonal decor, or household management routines. It leaves you feeling like you are learning as you go, like a really, really good best-selling audiobook

Here is a sample of the best of what This Crazy Life has to offer when you need a cleaning buddy and so, so, so much more:


Household management can be overwhelming. Finding help along the way to make it easier, manageable, and achievable can be life-changing.

This list of YouTube influencers are genuine, real people, who share themselves, their homes, their families, and their expertise all from the heart. Each of them are invaluable for what they know and share but also are remarkably incredible people whose kindness, warmth, and I’m-in-it-with-you-ness shines through. Even Hamimommy whose voice you don’t even hear (just another reason why she is so amazing)!

Spend some time with these wonderful individuals and take your household management systems and routines to the next level. Or find your own influencing guru that fits your lifestyle and expert resource needs.

Search and enjoy being influenced in a meaningful and positive way. YouTube is an awesome resource full of awesome people to love and with lots to share.

If you are looking for other ways to improve the place you call home, check out these posts:

7 Tips for Creating a Home Sanctuary That Feels Amazing

Home Organization Affirmations for When You Don’t Feel Like Organizing

6 Methods on How to Use a Planner After You’ve Thrown Away the One You Had

6 Methods on How to Use a Planner After You’ve Thrown Away the One You Had

Get a planner is the organizers’ anthem on how to stay organized.

But somehow this simple solution did not work for you.

You picked one that looked good to you or you got one as a gift. And you really committed to getting your act together with it.

Try as you may, it only became another piece of clutter in your house and, next thing you know, you’re basically over it.

You put a few alarms and calendar events in your phone and decided that you will just muddle through your other chaos as usual.

This does not have to be your life. You can learn how to plan effectively and how to use a planner effectively. But the key is to learn instead of picking up a random planner and believing it will work like magic for you.

Throw away that planner that never worked anyway. And read these tips on how to use a planner when starting fresh:

#1 DECIDE: What parts of your life require documented organization?

A planner specifically is a tool structured for documentation.

In order to be an effective tool, your planner must serve you well to document the parts of your life that are unorganized and that you want to make organized.

If your planner does not solve this fundamental problem, you likely will not use it, or at least not well.

A common planner will include a calendar and space for monthly, weekly, and daily goals.

This structure can be applied to almost anything, from your broad daily life to a specific subject, such as your formal studies, extra-curricular activities, or travel.

Alternatively, you may choose to select a planner for a specific project or subject.

how to use a planner

Planners exist for things like weddings, event planning, childcare and entertainment, or work.  

These types of specialty planners may include special lists and prompts to trigger more extensive thought on the subject(s).   

Because of their customized structure, specialty planners can be of particular help because they are perfectly suited for the task at hand with minimal need for adjustments.

No matter what planner you choose, decide first on what your ultimate goal is for its use. 

This should occur well before purchase, download, or installation.

Or you likely will have one more piece of clutter lending to your disorganization.

Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now

alan lakein

#2 CHOOSE: What planner style is your style?

You may think that it is a minor point, but a planner that matches your style compliments you more than just in its look.

The most common issue people have when starting to plan is that they do not use their planner.  That said, any additional incentive that you can use to keep your planner in mind is worth consideration.

Planners come in all types of materials, colors, and sizes. 

Even the weight of a planner will have an impact on whether or not you will carry it with you everywhere you go or only use it when sitting at your desk. 

Consider that style will affect whether or not you:

  • Use it at work due to its formality or lack of formality
  • Carry it with you because of its size
  • Open it or store things in it regularly because of its durability
  • Use pen, pencil, or marker in it because of its pages, and more

It may seem like a lot of detail to put into a planner selection. 

But in reality, any and all of these components can lead to a planner being ineffective or simply unused.

Before committing to a particular planner, it is worth considering your style and the planner that will match it.

Strategic planning is worthless – unless there is first a strategic vision


#3 COMMIT: Do you have a plan on how to use a planner regularly?

Another consideration in your planner selection and process is when you will use your planner. 

No matter if your planner is meant for daily use or regular use on special occasion, you want to ensure that you use it every time it is needed.

Your planner should be stationed wherever you have any other materials related to your organization of the subject.

how to use a planner for beginners

If your planner is for daily use, then you may want to have it at your desk, in your workbag or purse, or on your nightstand.

For infrequent but specialty use, your planner storage may simply be a special drawer or shelf in your home or office.

The critical point is that the location lends to remembering the planner’s presence and encourages its use.  And most importantly you are committed to both remembering and using it when you need to so that you stay organized.

A good rule of thumb is to keep a regular schedule related to using your planner, reviewing its contents, and updating its content. 

Same times and same places tend to get the routine engrained in your life well.

Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort

paul j. meyer

#4 SET-UP: Do you have a place to plan?

In addition to storing your planner for use, you should also create a space conducive to planning.

Yes, it actually matters. 

Planning in a space that is full of chaos, clutter, and distraction will likely lead to a poor process of creating order. 

This does not mean that your space needs to be flawless, but it should be organized enough so that your mind is not pulled from your task of planning.

To use a planner effectively, you want to attempt to record as much detail as is valuable on the subject you intend to keep organized. 

Distractions that lead to interrupted thought and inconsistent documenting will likely lead to an ineffective planning process.

Location, location, location is everything for a reason and it even applies to creating an effective planning process.

Plan for what it is difficult while it is easy, do what is great while it is small

sun tzu

#5 DOCUMENT: Are your top priorities going into your planner?

To feel in better control of your life, you may be drawn to the idea of documenting every little detail in your planner.

If you have time to do this and it serves you well, then document, document, document.

However, more often than not, the practice of over-documenting leads to a labor-intensive process. 

This then leads to an inconsistent practice in what you record or a total lack of use of your planner altogether.

It may sound fun to use every piece and part of what your planner has to offer. 

Or you may be called to utilize every suggestion you have heard regarding planning. 

In reality, less is more. 

Choose the most critical priorities and the most frequently missed details and ensure you have a plan around keeping on top of them. 

You can then decide if you have time or room for anything else.

Be a selective sifter of all the data you take in every day and try not to clutter the very tool that is meant to keep you organized.

If you are putting anything more in your planner than what you had planned to record when you bought it, then you should seriously consider if it really needs to be documented at all.

The more time you spend contemplating what you should have done… you lose valuable time planning what you can and will do

lil wayne

#6 EVALUATE: Before you throw out another one, do you know how to use a planner effectively?

A planner is effective when you say it is.  No other input is more valuable than your own.

It is important to be honest with yourself. however, and determine if the planner is faulty or if it is user error. 

Did you purchase the right planner for your needs?

Are you using the planner regularly?

Evaluate the tips in this post and see if you may need to reassess your effective planning strategy. 

You may need to pick another tool or method to master your planning.

Also, consider if a planner is really the best method to solve your organization problems. 

While planners are a common solution suggested by many, they do not work for everyone.

Bottomline, do not force the process. 

If you have set yourself up well, selected well, and put an honest effort into regular use of your planner and still do not see results, it may be time for a totally new solution.

But if the planner has helped even in small ways, you may want to adjust for improvement where you can and keep moving forward.

Effective planning is definitely a circumstance where practice can make perfection in a planning process meaningful to you.

By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail

benjamin franklin


Not everyone knows exactly how to use a planner even when they already have one.

The process may not be as simple as it looks. Before you decide that a planner will solve all of your organizing needs, take time to consider what specific needs you have.

Commit to the right planner, the right space, and even the right times to use your planner. And then embark on the journey to see if your decisions actually worked. With the right success plan in place, you may find that using a planner is a whole lot more effective than you originally thought.

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And if you have any suggestions for using a planner effectively, please share them in the Comments section below.

7 Things You Should NEVER Do If You Actually Want a Good Morning Routine

7 Things You Should NEVER Do If You Actually Want a Good Morning Routine

A good start of the day morning routine is worth your weight in gold if you can find one and keep it.

Problem is that there are so many choices, recommendations for best practice, and just so much to do. And taking in all that data can be completely overwhelming.

If you want to start a new morning routine and get the most out of it you may want to take a different direction.

Instead of trying to see what you can add to your morning, it may be time to look at what you can eliminate.

Some things you should actually NEVER DO!

If you can stop even one bad morning habit that you have and turn it around for the better, you may see that your morning routine was already in a pretty good place.

You just need the right tweak to make it a great morning routine.

Take a look at this list of morning routine no-no’s and start your day better:

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1. Stop Starving Yourself

Not every person is hungry in the morning. 

Many people will intentionally fast for a certain number of hours before they take their first meal of the day.

You may have heard the word breakfast interpreted as “break fast” or a means of breaking the fasting period from one meal to the next.

That said, a “morning” meal is not critical to health, energy, or a good routine. But the importance of breakfast is well established.  

Eating when your body requires it and eating well helps to improve your cognitive abilities, maintain your physical health, and boost your energy. 

These are all key components that will contribute to you having a productively good day.

Your morning meal may not happen as soon as you wake up. 

But be sure to prepare and have food available for whenever your first meal of the day should occur for you.

If you are looking to be both quick and healthy, then you may want to explore on-the-go snacks or frozen meals that you can heat up and then keep running. Thrive Market is an online food market that offers tons of healthy, organic, sustainable food options for all types of diets like Paleo, Vegan, Keto and more.

You don’ have to be on a speciality diet to enjoy their food, but it does give you a much better option than poor quality food or no food at all! Use my link for a discount to check them out first-hand.

No matter what you decide is the right meal for you, eating right is the best option for you. Starving yourself regularly can lead to fatigue, decreased mental clarity, and making poor food choices just to get by. 

So it’s best not to make no food a practice if you want a good morning routine.

2. Don’t Move Before Your Body is Actually Ready to Move

Being stiff and sluggish in your movement after sleeping can happen to anybody.

But not every body can just spring into motion when in this condition.

If you sense that your body really rejects taking on your weight as you rise from bed or is particularly achy while you walk to the bathroom, maybe it’s time to consider other options.

Morning stretching or even a morning yoga routine can go a long way to support the start of your day. 

And it doesn’t have to take more than 5 or 10 minutes in your schedule.

Allowing your muscles to wake up and building flexibility in your joints, just makes movement better.

A good morning routine is likely better with a good stretching routine.

3. Stop Trying to Multi-Task

Multi-tasking, or the art of fooling yourself into thinking that you are doing many things simultaneously, can prove to be a bad habit any time of day.

After you first wake up, it’s even more of a fool’s game.

Your brain does have the capacity to transition focus rapidly and even to set certain tasks to an almost auto-pilot state. 

However, the more things that you give your attention, the less attention any one thing gets.

This equates to a lot of movement AND a lot of poor execution.

Make a habit of eliminating as many tasks as possible out of your morning. 

Keep your start of day super simple.

Instead of starting a brand new practice of meditating, yoga, journaling, walking, AND making smoothies, try 1 new thing and keep everything else the same.

Doing too many things and doing too many things at once, can be the absolute opposite of a good morning routine.

4. Stop Doing Things That Make You Lose Track of Time

Time is precious, particularly in the morning.

The last thing that you would want to do is to lose the precious time that you have.

However, there are tons of things that can easily get you distracted.  And they change depending on who you are and where your interests lie. 

Examine and then eliminate your time killers in the morning.  It could be cellphone alerts, your work email, the morning news, or even your kids’ cartoons. 

Before you know it you have become so engrossed in this one thing (or several) that you no longer have time for what’s truly important.

Rushing, running, and scrambling are all components of a terrible morning and an unproductive start to your day.

A good morning routine gives time to the tasks that are key to starting off your day well in a seamless, organized way.

5. Stop Prepping EVERYTHING in the Morning

Another time killer is attempting to prep everything that you need in the morning actually in the morning.

Now, morning prep can happen if you have put the time in your schedule to accommodate this. However, you are also taking the risk that your plan is executed flawlessly every day.

The mother of a family should look upon her housekeeping and the planning of meals as a scientific occupation.

eleanor roosevelt

An alternative option for heavy morning prepping is to plan in advance. 

This does not have to only occur the night before, though this is at least a start.

Clothes can be ironed days in advance, hung, and ready for whenever you want to wear them. Meals can be prepped ahead and placed in the fridge, frozen for reheating, or entail a bowl of grab-and-go fruit and healthy snacks.

School bags and work bags can be packed and readied on a Friday night and left in a ready-to-go space until Monday.

You can even make a morning routine toiletry caddy with your full-body prepping materials. 

Basic items like toothpaste may not need special attention.  But think of things that somehow get lost that you can’t afford to lose like deodorant, lotion, hair ties, or even your favorite perfume.

Make your morning routine seamless by prepping ahead for your day or your week and feel more in control of your mornings.

6. Stop Thinking You Can Muscle Through Too Little Sleep

Sleep is an important part of your morning routine. Most time you don’t even want to start your morning without it.

Alarms, kids, and pets aside, ideally you want to wake up all on your own, refreshed and ready to start the day.

Build a sleep routine the night before that is meant to support your morning routine. Being well rested makes the simple task of getting out of bed easier. 

It can also provide you with a more optimistic outlook on your day instead of regretting having to leave your bed.

Even if you have reasons outside of your control such as your own health condition or a sick wakeful child that disrupts your sleeping pattern, take ownership of exploring ways to improve your sleeping ritual.

You want to be your best for yourself and for anyone else that you support in your life. 

Start your morning routine with great momentum towards your goals by building a solid sleep routine.

7. Stop Losing Your Essentials

Does your morning start with a full house overhaul searching for your keys?

Did you somehow miss your first morning meeting because you spent 30 minutes searching for your child’s homework before you left the house?

Not only do you lose time but you can slowly start losing your mind when missing critical pieces are a part of your morning routine.

Likely every other suggestion in this post can assist with rectifying this issue.

But even if you do nothing else, take 5 minutes to consider all the things you may have misplaced, lost, or even accidentally destroyed in the last month and vow to never have it happen again.

Special things, important things, critical things all deserve a home.

                        Special things, important things, critical things all deserve a home!

Decide ONE place for important things to go and ensure anything labeled as “important” gets put there immediately.

This action accomplishes two things:

1) you know where to put the important things and

2) you know where to look for important things. 

When you are first building this practice, put an important thing that you don’t regularly lose in the special spot. This will train your brain to use the “important things” location all the time. 

If you plan on having many things, big and small, or everyone in the house’s things in one spot, make sure your location can easily accommodate necessary space needs.

But don’t make 100 different places! 

Only ONE place and only ONE process:  All Important Things GO HERE!

Create an Important Things space in your home and eliminate the morning frenzy from your morning routine.


There are many things that you can do to create a good morning routine, but sometimes it’s easier to stop doing a thing.

Streamline your morning routine by reducing unnecessary actions, prepping what you can, and catering to your body so it is ready for your day ahead.

The big goal is to do less and focus on the most critical objectives that start off your day the best.

Your morning routine is important so eliminate anything that isn’t important and elevate your day.

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7 Tips for Creating a Home Sanctuary That Feels Amazing

7 Tips for Creating a Home Sanctuary That Feels Amazing

Is your daily life starting to become anything but an amazing experience? It may be time to invest in creating a home sanctuary that symbolizes exactly how you would prefer to feel.

When it seems like the whole world needs a change for the better, it may be better to start with what you can change.

Your home.

Make your home into a home sanctuary and find a place that you find amazing and look forward to experiencing every day.

What Exactly is a Sanctuary?

home sanctuary defines sanctuary in two ways.  One is as “a consecrated place”.  In this way, the space is looked at as one that is sacred, holy, and deemed for a special purpose.

Another definition is “a place of refuge and protection”. From this perspective, the inhabitants are otherwise exposed to negative experiences or people, and a sanctuary provides a respite from this exposure.

In both ways, a sanctuary can provide a place for its guest to be brought to a safe place of peace, calm, and opportunity for an elevated point of being. 

A sanctuary is a special place of focus, care, and healing.

So Why is a Home Sanctuary Important?

making your bathroom your home sanctuary

Your home sanctuary is important because it serves to honor you, protect you, and elevate your state of being with peace and internal harmony.

When you designate space and regular intention to restore yourself and realign with your center, you

  • Create a healthier mental state and mindset
  • Promote a more peaceful emotional state of being, and
  • Influence an improved condition of your physical body

When you use your home, or a space within it, as your home sanctuary, you are inviting all these benefits of wholeness and centeredness into your daily life.

The result is easily an amazing experience.

You are surrounding yourself with an emotionally, physically, and mentally healthy environment specially curated by you.

Where Do I Begin to Create a Home Sanctuary?

your home sanctuary can be anywhere, even on your outside balcony

An important first step in creating your home sanctuary is to determine the exact space you will designate as your sanctuary.

This can be your entire home.  Or, if this is too much of an undertaking, you can use a certain room or even a corner of a room.

The amount of space is not as important as the designation of a specific space that will be retained for your sacred purpose.

Each of us has an inner room where we can visit to be cleansed of fear-based thoughts and feelings. This room, the holy of holies, is a sanctuary of light.

Marianne Williamson

Once you have defined the space to be used, here are some tips:

How to maintain your sanctuary’s elevated purpose

  • Regularly refer to the space as your sanctuary.  Naming your space is claiming your space.  It reinforces that you have redefined its purpose differently than what it was before.  If you reside with others, remind them to also honor this space as special and sacred to you.
  • Keep your home sanctuary neat and orderly.  Regular use of any space can lead to clutter and disorganization.  However, keeping your space in its best form demonstrates your honoring of its bigger purpose. 

Also, viewing clutter and messiness tends to keep your mind overly active on needing to take action.  Eliminate clutter from your view. Even doing so temporarily (i.e. covering it up!) allows the mind to calm and slip easier into relaxation.

  • Determine your intended use of the space.  If your home sanctuary is your entire home, create an inviting, calming, or invigorating atmosphere in every room. 

If you have designated a room or specific space, reserve creating a special atmosphere in that location only.  

  • Decide how often you will visit your sanctuary. Will you intentionally schedule time in your space every day or use it as a respite when you have had particularly tough days? There is no required frequency. Just ensure that it is always ready to receive you for its intended purpose.

No matter what space you designate as your home sanctuary, consider the entire space and the state of being you intend to have once you are within it.  

Choose soothing colors, pleasant décor, and even adjust the temperature to ensure that you are comfortable. The goal is to regularly feel welcomed by the space when creating a home sanctuary.

7 Tips for an Amazing Home Sanctuary

#1 Dress in Honor of Your Sanctuary

woman wears long flowing robe honoring her home sanctuary

Often when people enter a sacred place, they will come wearing special garments that serve to honor and recognize it with reverance.

You may choose to adopt this practice.

Wear special clothing to remind you that you have created your home sanctuary with special intentions.

Honor your sanctuary simply by immediately changing your clothes once you arrive home from work.  Envision that you are removing the stresses of the day and embracing the love and relaxation of your home.

Make a daily practice to bath, put on your most relaxing clothes, and then visit your sanctuary immediately after. 

Imagine that you have washed away anything that did not serve you in your day. 

Your clothing then symbolizes the first step towards you covering yourself with all things that lead to you becoming whole again.   

#2 Incorporate the Benefits of Sound Healing

singing bowls create relaxation and healing in your home sanctuary

Sound healing or sound therapy uses sound as a means to improve physical and mental health and well-being. 

Try different variations and instruments for sound and see what form promotes a sense of personal healing for you.

Regular practice of sound healing can elevate the effectiveness of your home sanctuary by creating peace and balance.

Explore sound through instruments

Singing bowls have been used since ancient times for ceremony and healing. 

Depending upon their size and method of use, you can generate soft or very intense sound waves that fill the space substantially.  The effects of using singing bowls as a means of sound therapy can include a reduction in stress and anxiety or improved mood.    

Wind chimes are whimsical, light-sounding instruments that can be used inside or outside of your home.

Any movement of air will cause the chimes to sound, so don’t feel limited to only outside wind. 

When choosing the right wind chime for your space, test before you buy. As they each sing a melody with every air blown, choose a melody that inspires calm and relaxation in you.

Tuning forks are handheld instruments that you can use to create a sound of a certain frequency. 

tuning forks create healing energy in your home sanctuary

Unweighted tuning forks are best when you look to create a more audible sound. 

Strike your fork to initiate your relaxation practice in your sanctuary. Or strike them walking through your space to cleanse stress or the unwanted energy from the atmosphere.

You can also gently move the forks all around your body as a means of cleansing yourself with sound.

Use music to enrich your experience

Playing relaxing music is a common method of introducing sound healing to your home sanctuary. 

Incorporate your connection with nature by playing sounds of ocean waves or singing birds.

Envoke a sense of ceremony and sacred presence by playing Gregorian chanting .

Use any music that is pleasing to you such as instrumentals, soft jazz, or your favorite love songs. 

Your choice of music is endless and is beest applied when it inspires a lifted feeling for you.

Affirmation music is a specific form of sound healing that blends positive words and intentional affirmation with pleasing music. 

In the growing arena of affirmation music, there are many artists to choose from such as Toni Jones, Beautiful Chorus, or Mayestra. These artist blend thoughtful, high-vibration lyrics with penetrating music.

Try any of these forms of sound healing or auditory stimulation to enhance your home sanctuary environment.

#3 Use Visual Stimulation to Create Calm and Focus

beautiful visual elements make your bedroom a home sanctuary

You can create a home sanctuary mood based on how you decorate your space.

  • Hang pictures or place photos of serene, nature-filled views. 
  • Post affirmations or quotes that remind you of the state of being you choose to regularly possess.
  • Surround your space with family photos that spark joy and recall pleasant memories.

Candles can also be an excellent visual stimulus for your space. 

Not only can you decorate with beautiful candles that are visually pleasing.  But you can also light your candle and use its flame to practice attentive focus.  

candles and fragrant herbs are perfect for your home sanctuary

Candle gazing is a meditative practice that helps increase your attention and awareness. This can train your ability to release unwanted thoughts by practicing mindfulness on intentional positive thoughts.

#4 Take an Opportunity for Positive Reflection

Creating a home sanctuary will often include reserved quiet time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings.

You receive thoughts and opinions about your life from others every day. But it is even more important to explore your own interpretations. Give yourself the space for this internal exploration.

  • Create a serene environment free of noise, alarms, ring tones, or alerts
  • Inform others in the home of your need for quiet and no distractions
  • Use your time to reflect intentionally on the positives within your day. What happened that was important to you? How was your day pleasing or memorable?
  • Challenge yourself with ways you could have improved your day if things did not go well
  • Reflect on how you could see or approach things differently to create positive out of perceived negative events

Seeing your day and interpreting its meaning to you can provide you with more insight. 

With this insight, you can choose different actions in the future.

Feel empowered to purposefully create more pleasing moments and overall focus on an elevated sense of being.

use your home sanctuary as a quiet space to journal

Using a journal can serve as a means to record your thoughts, feelings, and insights.

Capture learnings and patterns in your thoughts and behavior that would otherwise go unseen.

If you find using a journal difficult or foreign, use journaling prompts to assist with the self-exploration process. See this post on using journal prompts for self worth as an example.

Practice positive self-reflection daily. It will attune your sense of optimism and positivity with life within your mind and when interacting with the outside world.

#5 Meditate

meditate in your home sanctuary

Meditation has become a commonly referred to practice for achieving improved well-being. 

It is said to improve relaxation and focus, reduce anxiety, reduce stress, and stimulate creative ability.

If you have not explored meditation before, it can be difficult to sit in quiet and remove all thoughts.

There are different tools that can assist with learning the meditative process.

  • Guided meditation is a form of meditation where a skilled practitioner guides you through the meditative process. You will listen and follow their words and phrases to help quiet and clear your mind.  Your guide may also instruct you to bring positive images and situations to mind as a form of relaxation.
  • Sound machines or meditative music can be used to provide a point of focus.  When focusing on these sounds intently, you will abandon other thoughts and more easily reach a meditative state.

As with all things, meditation takes practice and developing your own personal form to do it well. Your home sanctuary can be a perfect place to develop your discipline and perfect your practice.

#6 Reprogram Your Mindset

Use your home sanctuary as a place to reset negative thought patterns or a negative self-talk habit.

  • Use affirmations to build a practice of positive word patterns in place of your otherwise unproductive thinking. defines affirmation as “a brief phrase which is spoken again and again….to plant seeds of happy and positive notions, conceptions, and attitudes into one’s psyche”. Regular use of affirmations is thought to create new thought patterns thereby increasing positive speech, actions and interpretations.
  • Mala beads or japamala are another means of creating new thought patterns and improving your mindset.  These beads can support you to be more methodical, organized, and intentional with the repeating of words, prayers, or mantras for better well-being.  
Use mala beads in your home sanctuary

Mala beads can serve as a compliment to your affirmation or positive thought regimen. 

You can use your mala beads as a means to encourage positive repetition. You can create a ceremonious practice by restating your words at the touch of each bead on the strand.

#7 Perform a Relaxation Ritual

use your home sanctuary to perform your relaxation ritual

The act of ritual is to create a consistent and repeated set of actions for a defined purpose.  

Creating a relaxation ritual within your home sanctuary brings purpose to your space. It also sets an intention of relaxation in performing the corresponding actions.

Any of the suggestions throughout this post can be combined to create your relaxation ritual.

As example, you can

  1. Take a relaxing bath
  2. Adorn yourself with a robe or special garments
  3. Enter your home sanctuary space
  4. Light a candle
  5. Meditate to clear your mind
  6. Journal for 5 minutes to note any positive impressions
  7. Say a positive affirmation while using your mala beads
  8. Strike a tuning fork to close your relaxation ritual

With purpose defined and taking specific actions, you have created a relaxation ritual.

Elevate your practice by adding sacred elements to the process

Choose the perfect tools for your relaxation ritual
  • Dedicate certain soaps or bathing salts for your cleansing
  • Use a particular scent or color for your candle
  • Choose a particular form of meditation
  • Find a special journal or writing utensil for your journaling practice
  • Use a pillow or chair specifically for your ritual or practice

Your home sanctuary should feel like a relaxation ritual itself. And the actions you take within it can further engrain its purpose into your daily life.


When the stress and anxiety of day-to-day life weigh too heavily on your shoulders, creating a home sanctuary can be a much-needed means to replenish yourself and your spirit.

A home sanctuary is a designated space that is meant to protect you from unwanted interactions and provide you with a space for calm, relaxation, and healing.  With regular use and engaging in practices supporting this goal, you will experience life benefits that expand well beyond the walls of your home. And you will feel amazing!

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The Practical Guide on How to Improve Your Work Life Balance Today

The Practical Guide on How to Improve Your Work Life Balance Today

Are you looking for methods of how to improve your work life balance quickly and consistently? 

Do you have a definition of balance that works for you today?

Let’s take a closer look at what defines work life balance, whether or not it really exists, and if so, how you can make it a part of your daily living.

What is Work Life Balance?

The Cambridge Dictionary defines work-life balance as “the amount of time you spend doing your job compared with the amount of time you spend with your family and doing things you enjoy”.   

The practical definition of work life balance will fluctuate for each individual based on several factors.  These factors can include

  • the type of job that you hold
  • the level of responsibility and demands from your job
  • the amount of time required to work
  • the personal importance of your job to you

  • the priority of family and family time in your life
  • the size, structure, and needs of your family
  • your personal preferences for how you want to live

These are just a sample of the different perspectives and details of your life that can contribute to your definition of work life balance. 

There are thousands of different circumstances, expectations, and requirements around work and personal life that can impact your definition of balance.

And for this reason, the subject of work life balance is completely unique and customized based on you.

Additionally, while the Cambridge Dictionary focuses its definition on the balance between work and family, there are other components of life balance that can be impacted by the time you spend on your work.  This may include your:

  • physical health
  • spiritual health
  • personal time with yourself
  • time to connect with friends

  • time to contribute to the community
  • continued education
  • time to explore hobbies or entertainment
  • ability to manage your household, finances, and other components of self-sustainability

For some, you could easily exchange any of these subjects in place of family as part of the work life balance. 

And for many, you seek to juggle all of these subjects and work, and possibly even more.

We each only have 24 hours each day. 

And each day it becomes a bigger and bigger focus of our attention to feel that we are spending adequate time with all of the things that are important to us in our lives. 

Ultimately the goal is to feel fulfilled.  Work life balance in its best form serves to provide this personal fulfillment.

Why is Balance Important?

Woman with family with no work life balance

Work life balance is important just as living in balance is important.

Even if you do not work, a balanced life is an important achievement. 

The goal is to ensure that all things important in your life receive the time and attention that you deem as required. And in providing the time and attention required, you feel personally fulfilled, happy, or well-sustained.

  • Spending time at a job you enjoy and where you feel that your contribution matters may be personally fulfilling. 

  • When you are engaged in caring for yourself, spending time with family, or serving your community, you may feel happy. 

  • Paying your bills, making repairs on your home, or performing car maintenance may keep your life sustained. 

And managing your time to attend to all of these subjects is an example of work life balance.

In this way, work life balance becomes important because you prioritize using the hours of your day doing what is important to you.

Truly showing up for your life and all of its different aspects can provide you a host of positive feelings and outcomes that defines what makes life worth living to you.

Work life balance is important because it contributes to and inspires the best part of living, including:

  • Personal well-being
  • Spiritual connection
  • Appreciation for others and life around you

  • Feelings of accomplishment, achievement, self-pride, and self-respect
  • Safety, stability, and a centered sense of self
  • Love and gratitude for the life that you are able to live

Work life balance may not be a priority for everyone, but for those who prioritize this subject, it is the positive outcomes that fuel the focus to achieve it.

Is Work Life Balance a Myth?

Work life balance is only a myth if you choose for it to be. 

Conversely, work life balance is real and achievable if you decide that it is what you want to have in your life.

As with many terms used to define our life and lifestyle, work life balance is another way to describe how all the pieces and parts of our life interact.  And more importantly how we want to feel in that interaction. 

In this way, the core part of work life balance is the inherent desire to experience the feeling of balance

how to improve work life balance

When interviewed by Business Insider in 2018 Jeff Bezos made comments regarding work life balance. 

Searching the internet, you will find many authors who have translated his words to indicate that work life balance is a myth.    

Jeff Bezos’ quote from the Business Insider website is as follows:

 “I get asked about work-life balance all the time.  And my view is, that’s a debilitating phrase because it implies that there’s a strict trade-off. And the reality is, if I am happy at home, I come into the office with tremendous energy.  And if I am happy at work, I come home with tremendous energy.  It actually is a circle; it’s not a balance. And I think that is worth everybody paying attention to it”.

This perspective shares one man’s vision of a more apt definition and understanding that fits his belief system. 

To abandon balance in exchange for a circle could be interpreted as abandoning the unachievable goal of absolute equal time between different parts of life and instead embracing an ever-connected, continuity of life.

Don’t Let Work Life Balance Become a Myth

To dispel the myth of work life balance, I think it is necessary to well-define the true meaning of balance as it applies to work and all other aspects of our life.  

It may be time to create a more accurate and achievable definition of work life balance.

Oxford Languages dictionary through Google search defines balance as “a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions”.

To apply this definition of balance to work life balance, it could be said that it is not the goal to achieve an equal distribution of time or focus on work and life.  Instead, the importance is in balancing in correct proportions.

The correct proportions equal balance. 

But as the architect of your own life, you define what a correct proportion is for all aspects of your life.

Therefore, work and all aspects of life blend together in continuity. Based on your personal needs and the parts of life that you care about you will apply attention in the proportion that you define as correct. 

You decide and apply your work life balance.

But, what does this look like in real-life application?

How does work life balance work for you?

Let’s look at an example of a problem faced when work life balance goes wrong and seek definition in its possible solution.

Work Life Balance Problem and Solution

Common Challenge: 

You have taken on a new job and unexpectedly have over-extended hours impacting your time with your family.

Solutions for Your Challenge

  • Evaluate what today is most important.  Are the requests of your new job reasonable and necessary or the result of poor planning?  Is the time missed with family critical at this time or simply inconvenient? Your job helps you to support your family and your family supports your personal well-being which contributes to you being a good employee.  Both are important for different reasons but only one can take center stage right now.

  • Communicate the value of starting strong at your new job to your employer and the value of quality time to your family, regardless of who gains or losses.  Both should know where you stand.  Also, both should be informed of the compromise to the other.  This is not sharing guilt but educating of what could be an unknown circumstance. Simply explaining the status can make either party part of the solution.

  • Create expectations. If you need to scale back on time to your new employer, be honest and upfront.  Discuss compromise and mutually beneficial solutions, clarify expectations, and be straight forward regarding your limitations.

If you need to scale back on family time, also be honest and upfront.  Be creative with ways to connect in absence of face-to-face contact.  Provide expectations of the length of time the new situation will last or develop plans for a long-term new family time schedule. 

  • Re-evaluate regularly to see that all parties’ needs are met, including your own.  In this case, both emotional and financial stability are important to your total well-being.  Achieving sustainable work life balance includes being flexible, adaptable, and attentive to the goal of balance both short- and long-term. Review to ensure that you are achieving the goal you seek.

There can be many resolutions to this challenge beyond these answers.

The goal is to define in your response the values that you hold and stay consistent in keeping them in the forefront.

Related Post: Are You Broken Because Your Life is Not Balanced?

How to Maintain Work Life Balance

I believe that being successful means having a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles.

Zig Zigler

As with many subjects, the hope is to find the one answer that solves the problem.  

Many will say, if I gain what makes me happy, in this case work life balance, I don’t want to lose it.

How do I maintain my balance now that I have it?

Work life balance,

life balance,



everything and all forms of what we want come and go. 

Therefore, the way to maintain your balance is to enjoy when you have it and find peaceful acceptance that you will lose it. 

But do not feel defeated in losing the state of being that you want because it is able to be attained again.

Make Work Life Balance Attainable

Some methods that can make the process of the work life balance ebb and flow easier are to:

  • Settle your mind and focus on hope when you are challenged with a lack of balance.  Only with a steady mind can you achieve peace and develop solutions. Hope, or the knowing or expectation of a future positive outcome, creates a means to emotionally sustain yourself until a better experience comes.  Be consistent with both a steady mind and a hopeful spirit and you will sustain balance more often than not.

  • Re-evaluate based on current circumstances what is most important now.  Your life is filled with many things that are important to you.  But they cannot all take priority at once.  Be prepared for making the tough decision of what is most important now and put your time there. Build trust in yourself that even in the face of hard decisions, you move forward with your best intentions.  With the best intent and thoughtful reevaluation, you can create balanced decisions.

  • Learn and practice ways to reach calm.  Even if you are fueled by tense situations, you become calm once you focus on an objective.  If you become more frazzled and disorganized by chaotic and tense moments, it is even more important to find your calm.  This is best determined before a crisis of conscious or personal well-being comes.  Keep your calming tools and people close and practice using them when needed to maintain your balance.

  • Be planful.  Maintaining work life balance comes with avoiding creating your own imbalance.  Schedule time for what is important.  Rest well, eat well, and perform your tasks to the best of your ability.  Great self-care promotes great balance.  Know that you have your cycles and your moods.  You will not always feel your best, do your best, or be at your best.  Give yourself grace to be less and recognize this as being in balance too.  

  • Keep record of your strengths.  Whether you use a gratitude journal or a daily planner, keep a record of what goes well when you achieve work life balance.  Learn from your own successes.  This provides means to create repeatable processes.  And, also, a method to acknowledge and recognize your positive achievements when you have juggled everything successfully.  Work life balance is possible.  And showing yourself that you balance well is the best way to know with certainty that you have achieved and maintained work life balance.


Work life balance is attainable.  You choose your definition of work life balance and you grade yourself if you are successful in achieving it.

Examine what is most important in your life, give your time and attention where you see best fit, and have confidence that you are making the right choices to keep it all in balance.

Ultimately the goal is to live a life that is worth living, one where you are personally fulfilled, happy, and well-sustained.  You have the power to achieve this.  You need only to see that work life balance is a reality for you.

How to Master Being in the Zone

How to Master Being in the Zone

No matter if you are a writer, an athlete, an artist, or a super mom, you know the benefits of being in the zone.

There is magic in the synchronicity of your knowing what you can do, what you want to do, and this invisible force moving through you to execute it all perfectly.

The rhythm of perfectly timed movements, the energetic spark of effortless ideas and innovation, or the seamlessly balanced juggle of 100 different things.  You feel in harmony at a soul level and it brings out the best in you.

This is being in the zone

And it is a means of experiencing your personal gifts and desires to their fullest.

But how do you harness this magic? 

How exactly do you get in the zone? 

And when you are particularly in need of this boost before a deadline, in midst of a challenge, or simply because you want it, how do you create flow?

Use these methods as a means to generate or recapture your flow state and get in the zone right when you need to.

Define Your Flow State

As with anything, it is hard to hit a target that you have not defined. 

When you want to get in the zone and gain access to your flow, start by defining exactly what that means to you.

How do you want to feel? 

In what way do you want synchronicity to occur…specifically?

Getting in the zone is synonymous with gaining your flow.

Flow is typically much more than the outcome, but a state of being that defines your journey.

State to yourself every word and emotion that you want to experience as part of your flow state.

Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.

Oprah winfrey

Here are a couple of examples:

When you Think in Flow

  • You may feel ideas just seem to burst from the darkness. 
  • You can see concepts form and feel a certain rightness to your conclusions
  • Ah-ha moments repeat in what feels like rapid succession and an internal energy fuels you to feel that you are on the right track
  • There is an excitement that is generated as never-before-seen ideas come to fruition.

When you Create in Flow

  • You may experience the concepts of color, shape, definition, and curvature in all new ways
  • The subtle hues and vibrance that come with the congealing of new aspects, ratios, and directions can reinvigorate and create new meaning
  • It is as if your vision and creative idea is actually generating new life forms
  • And you are not only falling in love with the product of your creativity but with the creative process itself.

These are just examples of knowing what being in your flow state means to you and defining it with detail.

Use your words, ideas, or images to define the flow state target you seek to achieve.

Then use your own definition as a means to spark the outpour of flow at any moment you need it.

Supercharge Your Positive Emotions

Getting in the zone or being in flow is a feel-good moment.  Therefore, it is a much easier state to reach when you have feel-good momentum.

If your physical space or your headspace has you feeling negative, take intentional steps to make a positive change.

Create or listen to music playlists

  • Choose music that penetrates your mental state no matter what mood you are in and lifts you. 
  • Enveloping yourself with rhythm can bring you closer to feeling that everything around you is in rhythm with you and you with it. 
  • Let the energy of the melodies match the energy that defines flow state for you. 
  • Whether this is ease, high-energy, hard and intense, or soft and subtle, let your playlist become the musical score to your gifts in action.

Reaffirm your strengths to yourself

  • It is okay to compliment yourself and sometimes necessary to build confidence in your gifts. 
  • You know you can get in the zone when you trust that you can be in flow. 
  • Tell yourself what you do well and replay in your mind when you have excelled in your space before.
  • Become your own hype man (or woman) and let that confident energy propel you into your flow state.

Take in any form of nature that inspires you 

  • Take a walk. 
  • Bring cut flowers into your home. 
  • Invite yourself to a beautiful view from the tallest building or piece of land that you can get to. 
  • Be amazed by nature and let the opening of your heart invigorate your flow state into being.  Embracing the magnitude of life can often spark inspiration and ignite your flow state.

Practice your gift

  • Touch, feel, move doing exactly what you know how to do.
  • Enjoy the parts of your gift that are effortless to you. 
  • Remember why you love what you do. 
  • Before taking on a challenge spend a moment just basking in what comes naturally.  Then when your flow starts to come, move forward into new territory.   

 Your emotional state has a direct impact on your ability to reach and maintain your flow state.  So make a priority to build your positive energy and create space for your flow state to flourish.

Empty Your Mind and Promote Focus

When your mind is cluttered with too many things that do not align with your goals, it can feel as if you have a million blocks to getting in the zone.

Even worse is a repeated thought and acknowledgment that you are blocked. 

When it feels like your own mind is sabotaging your means to gain flow, it’s time to empty your mind and regain focus.

Try guided meditation

  • While meditation is often thought to encourage the absence of thought, guided meditation can be used to be intentional with your thoughts.  
  • A guided meditation practice can be used to focus your mind on the exact thoughts and feelings that represent the mental state you are seeking to have, versus the one you may be suffering at the moment. 
  • You can also release focus on the negative self-talk, self-doubt, and other general mind clutter.  And replace these thoughts productively with inspiring guided visualization, relaxation techniques, or words of calm, relaxation, and fluidity. 

Go to sleep

  • Rest and relaxation can help settle anyone’s mind.  But sleep serves as a full reboot to your system.
  • Particularly if you are suffering from sleep deprivation, you may find that you cannot find flow because you are too fatigued to achieve it.
  • Sleep can be a power boost that puts you in the best position to be refreshed, alert, and fertile ground for positivity and for achieving flow state.
  • If you need support in maintaining a regular sleep routine, read this post on Creating a Sleep Ritual to encourage consistency and thorough preparation for better sleep.


  • Writing down your thoughts and feelings can serve as a means to release the need to overthink issues. 
  • It also serves as a more tangible act because you can move from purely mental activity and add a physical component. 
  • Your journal serves to support you as not only a place of release but an information repository.  With that, you can revisit what you have released at a future time when you are ready to do so. 
  • If you are new to the journaling practice, you may find help in reading this post on How to Journal Effectively.

Exercise your body

  • Physical movement can increase your heart rate, promote better circulation and mental functioning, and overall give you another point on which to place your focus. 
  • Whether you are playing a sport, doing yoga, or even having sex, you can transition your attention from your mental activity to a physical one. 
  • Especially when you engage in activity that works your muscles and builds a sweat, you are less likely to focus on anything other than your body. 
  • Exercising, like meditation, can help to reduce or eliminate distracting thoughts and create a blank canvas to get in the zone.  

Create Your ZONE

Being in the zone is the flow state anthem. 

While for some this can happen anywhere, for others, location matters, atmosphere is critical, and support is required. 

Make a flow state ritual

  • Wear a certain pair of socks, play a particular song, eat a certain meal just before go-time. 
  • Create a pattern of activity that says to your mind and body that flow state begins now. 
  • Training yourself to be in the zone can strongly support getting there quickly because you build all the mental queues to say it’s time.

Build the flow state atmosphere

  • Schedule time in just the right studio, use the room that captures just the right lighting, have all essential tools at your fingertips organized with precision. 
  • Make being in your zone a place that you step into. 
  • The more that you fall into the zone in the same space under the same conditions the more likely your mind will go on auto-pilot and expect flow state to happen.

Have a flow state team

  • Getting in the zone is a personal state of being.  But that does not mean that you need to be alone to achieve it. 
  • Some people just inspire creativity within others.  Others are motivators to press beyond your limitations and challenge you to become more. 
  • The flow state status is always your alone.  But the right support can be the perfect trigger to build the best momentum to get you there. 


It is possible to master being in the zone.  In addition to possessing the passion for what you are doing, there are many ways to prep yourself to get in flow.

Increase your focus, decrease mental clutter, and hype yourself up for the task at hand.  Remember that you have been in this state before and build a thirst for exemplary, harmonious performance in perfect rhythm.

You can create an atmosphere that signals getting in the zone, a ritual for flow state readiness, and even pull together the right partners to set you on your flow journey.

Trust that you have the power to get in to the zone and can harness this power when needed.  Make it a practiced and expected event, and know that you can generate your flow state whenever you say it’s time.

Did you develop a new idea on how to master getting in the zone? Do you have past methods that get you to your flow state fast? Share your experience of being in flow in the Comments section below.

How to Feel Your Soul in Life and at Work

How to Feel Your Soul in Life and at Work

Is it possible to feel your soul?

And what does feeling your soul mean anyway?

The soul of you travels with you no matter where you are.  Your highest self represents the cord of consciousness that connects you and the Divine.  And the soul of you expresses this connection.

Your soul shows up when you are living all the normal and basic segments of your life. You can be soulful everywhere you go.

You display the soul of you no matter who you are with.

And, yes, you able to feel your soul at work.

It is almost impossible for you to be in flow and have your soul not shine through. 

But your question may be how?

First, before we can answer this question, let’s define the path that you are on.

Knowing first the composition of your soul leads to understanding your soul’s expression. Before you can confidently know you can feel your soul, you have to first identify what it even is.

What is the Soul?

There are many definitions of soul.  And there are many reasons why this is.

More than religion and dogma, the idea of the soul represents an intangible experience that cannot be singularly defined.

For this reason, if asked, we each likely will give a different interpretation.

However, despite this, there are many that come together in like-mindedness.

Soul is the expression of our spiritual connection with life.  It is the experience of being, doing, receiving, or emoting while at the same time ascending to different levels of ecstatic joy.

Soulfulness, therefore, is to be full of soul and to allow the dams to break with the emotions that arise because of the experience.

It is a form of bliss and also a oneness with whatever form of the world with which you have connected to synergize your joy.

The power of tapping in with your soul is uniquely significant based on your interpretation and for this reason important. 

It transcends logic and practical understanding and instead connects with our higher level receiving of intuition, spiritual guidance, and exploration through emotion.

It is a Divine power and one that each of us possesses if we choose to honor the connection.

Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.


Can You Exist Without Soul?

If you define the soul as your spirit, you may then state that it is impossible to live without your soul. 

For some, these terms are used interchangeably. 

In this definition, the soul becomes the spark of life that exists only when the breath of life is still in you.  When you lose your breath of life, your soul/spirit ceases to exist.

However, if soul and spirit are not intertwined in this way an alternative conclusion can evolve.

If spirit is itself the breath of life, then the soul is the joyous expression that exists because of it. 

In this case, spirit becomes the signal that ignites the soul to shine through the body. 

And the body is the vessel that acts as transmitter of the soul. 

In this alternate definition, you have a spirit that resides within the body and the soul that is the expression of this connection through emotion.  

This emotion is stimulated and called through by our observation and connection with our internal or external world, or both.

However, even though the soul connection is wholly present, it is possible for you to exist without the soul’s expression.

Many live their lives in absence of honoring this connection. 

You can willfully deny yourself the acknowledgment of this soul connection and therefore disallow its transmission through you.

It is also possible to break your soul connection with your highest self.  This occurs by becoming more attuned to the pain or mundane aspects of the world.

When you abandon your desire to feel your soul’s connection you can live in its absence.

But the question is whether this is a life well-lived.

To permit your soul’s expression you must be a willing participant.  Only in this way, can you feel the magnitude of the power of your soul’s full expression.

In your exploration of life and all that the world contains, you can find what ignites your soul.  But to reach your soul’s full expression, you may be led on a journey.

Until you find what sparks the soul connection for you, it may feel as if you are living in absence of your soul.

How Do You Feel Your Soul?

You can feel your soul in willing consciousness to absorb the potential of joy around you.  It can be as simple as exploring experiences that you like.

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.

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There is a reason why there is soul food.  Or that you may say something touches your soul.  You can claim someone as your soulmate.  And feel a sense of belonging with others at the soul level.

It is the deep resonance with your internal knowing of self, the external stimulation of the world around, and a significant emotional connection that defines the feeling of soul.

The trail of positive experiences brings with it an understanding of what stimulates joy in you.  This definition of joy is unique to you as only you can fully experience the emotion that comes through you in life.

The soul expression is a deeper and more vibrant emotion than all others.

Here is where you feel transcended from the awareness of all aspects of life and become fully attentive to that which ignites your soul only.

The power of the connection with your spirit, your body, and your experience creates an ascended emotion that transcends joy or normal pleasure. 

It is in this a complete absence of the sensation of separation.  All things are one, spirit, soul, and life experience.  And the experienced emotion is what could be described as the highest good through this synergy.

Can You Feel Your Soul at Work?

The experiences that can cause you to personally transcend and your soul to come alive can happen anywhere including work.

It is also possible and acceptable to express yourself in a soulful manner in the workplace.

Don’t worry of conflict. 

You can experience your soul’s expression and simultaneously abide by any rules or expectations that your job may place upon you.

Your soul is a gift.  And when the interactions or content of your work invokes joy within your spirit, it can be a gift for many to share in.

You can find your soul at work when you are being creative.  It can be sparked through artwork, design, new ideas, and bold innovation.

You can discover your soul through other people, in meaningful and compassionate interactions, and even through share of your knowledge.

The soul can be ignited when you present, when you draw out emotions like excitement and motivation, or when you allow yourself to be the source of inspiration.

Your job can become a wonderful playground of different experiences that create a soulful exchange with others or soulful experiences for yourself.  

How Do I Ignite My Soul at Work?

Your job can be a great place to connect with your spirit and to call out new definition of soul expression for you.

In the very beginning when you are searching for a job, it is important to look for more than just a source of income.

What calls to you as the right place for you to be?  How are you inspired to think, create, share, or build? 

Who feels like family to you (if that is meaningful to you).  And who, at the same time, feels like a team of collaborators toward something greater together?

You can only know what job is right for you when you listen to how your spirit speaks to you through your soul.  Logic can only take you part of the way.

It takes time to learn how to listen to something more.

Any work environment can be your stage for soul connection and expression.

You may find new interests or experiences that bring out new emotions.  Or you may be able to deepen your interest and find new depths to your soul expression.

It is important to make your emotions as important as your other goals and objectives.

Be open to try new experiences, talk to new people, or even have different types of discussions than what you have had in the past.

Search for what is truly important to you.

You may not always be motivated by money or titles or travel.  And following the advice of others who do not share your motivations can inadvertently lead you away from your soul’s calling.

Follow your intuition and let your spirit be your guide. 

You will know that you are on the right path when your soul glows an unexplainable but good feeling upon you.   It is as if you just smile for no reason at all.   

You don’t have to find your soul at work but there is nothing that limits you from finding it there.

Can You Use Soul Language at Work?

The language of the soul is one that steadily becomes more familiar but not necessarily wholly accepted.

When you speak about your desire to feel at a soul level it can feel out of place in some work settings.

But take heed. When on your journey to learn your internal language with your spirit, it is not necessary to communicate it with others.

Your connection with your soul’s expression is one that is personal to you and only you.  While others can identify with the feeling, no one but you can sense your own emotions.

Because of this, it is important to be selective with whom you share your soul’s journey.

What you may elect to do instead is to be more transparent about how you feel.

Be open to say when you agree with a direction or a thought someone shares.  Be equally open to say when you disagree.

Honor your own opinions and be willing to respectfully disagree with others.  Or champion ideas that you love and support those that have them.

Practicing self-expression is one method to attune yourself to your internal voice.

Validating to yourself what you think and feel allows you to become more genuine when identifying your independent perspective.

When you master this understanding of yourself, it becomes easy to then follow the path of what truly makes you happy.

Speak authentically and by default you will be speaking your soul language.


Your soul is the means to express the connection that exists between your body and your spirit by way of emotion.

The soul of you represents the depth of you and acts as an indescribable knowing and resonance when you interconnect with the world around you and within you.

There is no limitation to what can stimulate the feeling of synchronicity and joyfulness that comes from the soul.  And it can exist anywhere including in your work.

Be authentic and willing to express yourself genuinely and fully.  Take on new experiences or find new ways to enjoy past experiences with new eyes and renewed interest. 

Explore your work environment with the expectation that your soul can be ignited by what you find around you. 

And feel comfort that your opportunity for soul connection is limitless at work and anywhere else your journey takes you.  

Do you know what makes your soul sing? Have you stumbled into a blissful moment? Do you have a soul connection with the work that you do? Share your story in the comments below and ignite the soul’s expression in someone else.

How to Commit to Your Commitments

How to Commit to Your Commitments

Some people live by keeping their commitments. Unfortunately, others suffer through them.

When breaking promises go from an occasional mishap to a regular occurrence, it can create havoc in your life.

Before you know it your integrity becomes questionable, your promises become meaningless, and your good intentions are forgotten.

What’s worse is that keeping commitments can be a real challenge for you.

It may not be as simple as just starting to commit better. But instead, it may take more extensive time to understand your flaws and create new and better habits.

For those who do not suffer with keeping commitments, it may not be easily understood why it is hard for you. Some people just keep commitments naturally.

So try not to get too focused on others when trying to figure out yourself.

Instead, focus on yourself and your desire for personal improvement as most important.

Work to overcome your commitment challenges and create a real change in your life for the better.

Why Is Keeping Commitments So Hard?

Keeping commitments is hard when you don’t have the desire, ability, or motivation to do it.

Particularly when you have options that are easier or feel better than the commitment in front of you.

You may have committed to getting up early and helping someone move. But staying in bed and sleeping longer is much more attractive and easier than any of that.

When you commit to things that you really don’t want to do, you essentially are forcing your body to move through what your mind does not accept.

Some may say your commitment is more important than your personal pleasure. But tell your mind and body that when you are fighting your way out of bed.

There can also be times when you make a commitment that you simply shouldn’t have.

You may have over-extended yourself or misjudged your capability or availability. Therefore the structure of your commitment was faulty from the beginning.

There is also the occasion when you commit as a courtesy. Even when you don’t want to do it, your compassion for the other person persuades you to say you will.

The issue here can be that your emotion is short-lived. And when faced with taking action, your momentum has already died off.

You may still have love and compassion for the person you made the promise to. But that emotion does not transition into fuel to do the task or motivation to keep the promise.

Desire, motivation, availability of time or energy, and even a lapse in memory can all contribute to broken promises and failed commitments.

And with all these obstacles on the trail, it can simply be hard to keep up.

But that doesn’t mean that commitment isn’t important. Or that you should be resolved of having or keeping commitments because it is difficult to do.

Benefits of Keeping Your Commitments

Keeping your commitments can benefit you with an overall sense of increased life satisfaction.

When you make a commitment and see it through, you will gain more self-respect and self-confidence.

Repeatedly failing to keep commitments, however, can cause you to feel like a failure, unreliable, and undependable to you.

Remember, not all promises are to others. You also can make and break promises with yourself.

This can impact your confidence to try new things, take on challenges, or make decisions without the co-sign of another person.

You simply don’t trust yourself more than you trust another actually reliable person.

It is important to know that you can rely on yourself and your own capabilities.

Believe that you have the ability to generate the mindset, thoughts, and behaviors to achieve your goals.

There are also benefits to others of your learning how to keep commitments and following through on what you say you’re going to do.

Keeping commitments will impact the feeling of safety and security others have with you. Others trust you to honor your word, be present when needed, or essentially walk it like you talk it.

A person who honors their promises is honest and possesses integrity. At least this is a common perception. Adopting this behavior extends this perception to you.

It can also be the way that others interpret you as loving and caring towards them.

Committing to tasks, requests, and obligations is not easy and even harder to do with regular consistency.

But learn to appreciate the personal and interpersonal benefits of changing your habits and keeping commitments.

Experience greater optimism in your ability to self-improve and confidence in taking on new responsibilities. Really know and believe yourself to be a person who gets things done.

Examining If You Are Ready to Be More Committed

As with any habit or behavior change, to become more committed you first need to acknowledge your obstacles.

Are you disorganized?

Do you suffer from people-pleasing too much?

Do you make too many commitments?

Are you easily distracted or have trouble saying no?

It is important to be honest with yourself in order to find the root of your problem.

From there, you can develop a plan on how to improve.

Take some time to sit down and figure out what is holding you back. Once you know your obstacles, you can start to work on developing solutions.

Examining who you are as a person and how you manage your life, in general, can help you gain an understanding of how your keep on top of your usual daily tasks.

You can also learn how you already address unexpected or adverse situations.

Do you tend to figure things out on your own?

Or do you lean on others to get your objectives done?

These details make a difference.

Because if you are not always equipped to keep yourself in order or honor your personal commitments to yourself, you likely are not going to spontaneously develop this skill for others.

Once you have a better handle on who you are and how you handle your life, you can put this knowledge to use in building your new “keeping commitments strategy”.

How to Improve Your Commitment Skills

No matter where you are on your readiness scale, there are some tips that you can put into place today to help you be more committed and conquer keeping your promises more frequently.

  • Set smaller goals rather than making grandiose plans that are difficult to keep up with
  • Review your intended commitment, with yourself or the other person, to determine exactly how you will get the task accomplished before making a promise to get it done
  • Visualize the successful outcome of keeping your commitment
  • Talk about your commitment out loud to assist with memory recall of what’s on your to-do list
  • Find an accountability partner who will help you stay on track
  • Write down all significant details of your commitment in a prominent place including the deadline
  • Set reminders in your electronic calendar

A Bonus Tip on Using Planning to Improve Commitment

If you find that you often start projects with the best of intentions but then fail to follow through, planning may be your issue.

Using a planner can be an excellent way to record all of your intended tasks, keep them organized, and serve as a reminder when your day gets busy.

Organizing your planner by separating out your priorities can also be helpful.

For example, you might have a section for work commitments, family commitments, and personal commitments.

This will help you see at a glance what needs to be done, when, and for who.

It can also help to keep your non-negotiable commitments in one place so that you can easily refer to them.

Using a planner on a regular basis, reviewing it at regular intervals, and checking off your tasks when completed can create significant order in your life.

For those that suffer with meeting commitments due to disorganization or frequent memory lapses, using a planner can be a game-changer!

Transitioning Into a Committed Person

If you have been pretty poor at keeping commitments for some time, it is likely that you not only have a poor image of yourself around commitment but others do too.

It is important not to lose your momentum for improvement because of your past. And even more important is that you don’t let negative self-talk or others’ comments take you away from your goal.

Keep focused on your end-game and reflect on any positive changes that you make in keeping commitments along the way, big or small.

If you feel that your past broken commitments have caused tension with others that you care about in your life, let them know that you are actively working on improvement.

Listen to any suggestions that others may have for you on your new commitment journey. And don’t shy away from taking responsibility for your past actions so as to work actively on rebuilding trust.

No one is perfect in all aspects of their life, but take heed that working on improving yourself and improving your relationship with others is worthwhile and commendable.


Keeping commitments is an important way of showing up for yourself and others. By committing to your commitments fully you demonstrate integrity to others and build self-confidence within yourself.

Being honest about what you are capable of doing and understanding how you manage your life obligations overall can support you in your endeavors to be a better-committed person overall.

Start small, be consistent, and share your intentions and your wins with others. Building the habit of commitment may take diligence but the wins are worth the effort.

What are your thoughts? Have you come up with ideas to improve how you commit to your commitments since reading this blog post? Let us know in the comments below!

How to Claim and Keep Your Built-In Best Friend

How to Claim and Keep Your Built-In Best Friend

Not everyone has to go on a pilgrimage to find their best friend. Some situations and circumstances create the opportunity built-in.

Built-in best friends have the good fortune to know that they already share a basis for potential true friendship. They already share space, an interest, or even family members to start.

However, it is up to them to cultivate this potential into a reality.

Yes, even right now you may have a potential built-in best friend right in front of you. 

Recognize your built-in best friend in your life. See why their relationship is important for you. And learn how to nurture your connection.

Growing friendships is an important aspect of your overall social and mental well-being.

Acknowledging your built-in best friends cannot only demonstrate to you the richness of connection that you already have. 

It can also give opportunity to further expand on the great relationship you already know.

What Makes Your Best Friend Built-In?

A built-in best friend is a special edition best friend friendship.  The relationship may be somewhat similar to other best friend scenarios.

But what makes it just a little different is that you are already bound to this individual for another separate reason.

Fate brought you together to be in close proximity, spend extensive time, or otherwise be connected for things that did not require a close friendship. 

However, it inadvertently created a fertile ground for friendship just the same.

This built-in connection can be a close family member like a brother or sister, a favorite cousin, or even your mom or dad. 

It can also be a teammate, a co-worker, a mentor, or your boss. 

These relationships have been established because of other life circumstances. 

You already have a basis to connect with this person more than others in the world.

But this connection did not necessitate that you would become more.  Again, it simply served as your fertile ground of opportunity.

Friendships grow from much more than proximity, however.  You become friends because of:

  • Shared trust
  • Mutual respect
  • Love, compassion, and care
  • Supporting and encouraging each other
  • Listening and being attentive to each other, and
  • Finding more and more opportunities to connect in unique and special ways

All of these attributes and more create friendship bonds. 

Now add your close proximity AND that you share these connections with no one else in the same way.

This is how built-in best friends are formed.

How Do I Know If I Am My Best Friend’s Best Friend?

In any close friend relationship, it is not always necessary to put names, titles, or other labels around it.

 You can simply enjoy the closeness for what it is.

However, like any other title of honor, it can feel special to know that your best friend will name you in this way.

If you haven’t heard the words, check for other indications that your feelings for each other are mutual:

  • Do you talk regularly about highly private or sensitive subjects?
  • Are you the first one called for special events or accomplishments?
  • Is it automatically assumed that if one of you shows up for an event the other one is likely there too?
  • Do other people refer to you both as best friends?

While this list is not exhaustive, they are each good indicators that your relationship is pretty strong.

It is uncommon that a person will share all of these actions with more than one person.

But Am I “THE” Best Friend?

There may be a small part of you that wonders if you are the one and only best friend.

No matter your age or your background, there is something about that number one spot that makes anyone feel extra special.

The reality is that it is very possible for a person to have more than one uniquely close relationship. 

Many married couples will call their spouse their best friend and still have another best friend in their life as well.  (There has to be someone to complain about their spouse to!)

That said, being the one and only may not happen.  But it doesn’t mean that your relationship is not valuable or needed.

Take queues from what you see as the strengths in your relationship.  And if you still have doubts, muster up the courage and just ask.

You may find that by putting your feelings on the table openly you reach yet another level of bonding with your best friend.

How to Nurture Your Built-In-Best-Friend Friendship

Anything that you want to keep alive needs nurturing and care.  A best friend friendship is no different than anything else.

Built-in-best-friend friendships can sometimes be neglected because they appear to come into your life easily and seamlessly.  

You already live with your best friend, for example, so why would you need to schedule any additional time to spend with them.

Or you already work together, so why would you need to talk to them about work goals or stresses when you’re at home too.

While your relationship may be strong, it is never a bad idea to continue to nurture your relationship to ensure it stays strong.

  • Be attentive to your best friend and their needs beyond just the ones you usually talk about

  • Schedule time outside of your automatic habitat and explore how your friendship functions in different environments

  • Be willing to support their healthy relationships with other people in their lives and be a trusted confidant when other relationships struggle or break.

  • Most of all, be loving, caring, compassionate, thoughtful, and present as any good friend would be

You are best friends for a reason. 

You already share a unique closeness and resonance with each other and unparalleled with other people in each other’s lives. 

But don’t rest on it being automatic that you will maintain that level of closeness as you both evolve on your separate life journeys. 

Be mindful to nurture your relationship so that you can continue to ensure its closeness for a long time to come.

How to Mend a Broken Built-In-Best-Friend Friendship

Built-in-best-friend friendships are a little different than your average friendship. 

You are tied in with this person beyond your friendship alone.

Siblings may still live together at their parents’ house.  Boss and co-workers have to see each other every business day no matter what. 

You can imagine that a friendship gone bad can have damaging effects, both on the couple and others in their environment. 

No one wants a war where you have to pick sides between one sister or another.  And you certainly don’t want a broken-hearted boss doing your annual review!

While there are many who would suggest choosing your friends wisely to avoid these cumbersome backlashes to friendship, avoiding these relationships altogether is not always the answer.

Best friends fight.  That is just a fact.

And who else can hurt you more than someone you truly love.

When going through tough times, it is important to remember that not only the two of you but others can be affected.  To minimize the collateral damage, try to deploy a little diplomacy:

  • Try not to share your ugly details with others who share space in your same environment, such as at home, at work, amongst team members, etc.
  • Remember that all emotions including anger, disappointment, or betrayal are fleeting.  Try not to say or do anything that will be regretted once the emotions pass, such as quitting a job or breaking a lease.
  • Be understanding that others may also have care and love for your friend so do not try to create a smear campaign
  • If you do share the dirty details with others and they sympathize with you significantly, remember that others may not get over what your best friend did to you.  So, when your friendship is rekindled, they may still harbor ill feelings for your best friend and it may tarnish everyone’s shared environment

Aside from being considerate of those who share a similar environment with you and your best friend, it is ultimately important to focus on the friendship.

In any broken relationship, it is important to consider the bigger picture and not just the immediate incident.

You have a unique and special bond with your best friend.  Is it worth throwing away all that you have become together for the problem in front of you now?

Speak to each other with love.  Be open-minded and willing to listen.  Acknowledge if you need space or silence to heal. 

And above all things, try to work through to a resolution based on the best of your relationship and not the worst.

This is a friendship meant to be built-in.  There is nothing gained in tearing down the house you live in.  


A built-in best friend is one where you have been given a unique opportunity to create closeness with someone already in your world. 

It didn’t have to happen.  But you and your best friend became open, shared deeply, and from this grew a love and a special bond.

And all of this was fortunate to have happened in a shared environment or circumstance. This permitted you to spend more time, share more experiences, and to take your relationship further faster.

Nurturing your friendship, even outside of the ready-made environment that you share, can help your relationship deepen and grow.  Be conscious that the ups and downs of your relationship can have impact on you and others in your environment too. 

Remember even built-in best friends go through the occasional tough time.  But no small dispute is worth diminishing the bond you have that should be treasured. 

You are family, co-workers, teammates, or parent and child.  Whatever the relationship, you are more than just best friends and that will forever make your relationship uniquely different and special.

Life brought you together so that you both could benefit from knowing each other.  So mend any broken fences quickly, treasure all your special moments, and remember always that you have a unique and loving friendship….specially built-in.  

Do you have the special gift of a built-in best friend? If so, share this post with them and laugh over how much this sounds like you two together! Or post on your feed and see how many other built-in best friend twins are out there beside you and yours.

Are you looking for ways to enhance other relationships in your life? The most important relationship to nurture first is your relationship with yourself. Check out The Perfect Self-Love Tips to Change Your Life or 7 Ways to Create Balance in Your Imbalanced Life and explore ways to love yourself more.

Both you and those you love will blossom as you grow to become more.