Are You the Toxic One?  3 Key Signs that the Toxic Environment at Work is Actually YOU!

Are You the Toxic One?  3 Key Signs that the Toxic Environment at Work is Actually YOU!

Unfortunately, a toxic work environment is far too common of a complaint. 

And equally unfortunate is that it is an experience that many are having every day.

You may immediately say, “yeah, me too!”

But what if You are the reason that the toxicity exists?

We like to believe that toxic behavior comes from the obviously toxic other person.   Someone who is easily angered, constantly complaining, or otherwise creating an unwelcoming environment every day is clearly the problem.

But it may be hard to accept that the “someone” can be you!

The reality is that becoming toxic can sneak up on you.  You may have:

  • Stayed too long at a job that you have outgrown,
  • Bitten your tongue too often with a boss you don’t agree with,
  • Created a safety net of colleagues that are negative all the time or
  • Lost your boundaries between personal and business etiquette for a job you’ve been at forever

And slowly, without realizing it, you have become part of the problem.

Because you have tolerated or participated in unhealthy work experiences and relationships, you have allowed yourself to become a different person as a byproduct of these decisions.

Now, from the outside looking in, you are the toxic one

And you may not even know it!

Here are 3 signs that You may be the toxic coworker creating a toxic work environment:

#1 Constant Complaining

signs of a toxic person at work

You may not realize it but you complain about everything.

  • If your boss addresses the team, it is never delivered the right way. 
  • If the company initiates a new process, it’s never going to work.
  • No matter the action taken, you receive it as poorly executed or just not smart.

In your mind, you may have a perfectly reasonable rationale for this thought. 

IT’S TRUE!

Related Post: How to Survive Working for a Boss You Hate

You have been at the company long enough to see the issues time and time again:

  • A poorly executed communication from the top
  • A completely non-thought-out plan of action from your boss
  • Zero communication with the people who do the job every day before completely changing a process by some random project team

You have seen ALL the signs!

So why would calling it out suddenly be your fault!!

The action may not be your fault. 

But the constant reiterating and complaining for hours, days, or weeks can feel faulty to others and easily becomes another issue on top of everything else.

If the problem is so pervasive, so consistent, and so obvious, others know it without your communicating it. 

You do not have to be the mouthpiece for pointing out what everyone else can clearly see.

How to Kick the Complaining Habit

Instead of frowning, shaking your head, rolling your eyes, or just constantly, excessively, nauseatingly complaining, do something about it.

It is leaps and bounds more productive to create a solution instead of belaboring the problem:

  • Champion a new process so that you can be a key communicator of its progress.  This can give you front-row seats to try something new, give you an opportunity to share positive outcomes, and also a channel to suggest changes based on actual data instead of just opinion.
  • Ask to speak with your boss privately and then ask if your boss is open to feedback on a problem you see.  Share your concerns in a thoughtful manner.  Focus your constructive criticism on the process, not on people, where possible.
  • Carefully consider any new processes, proposals, or communication to see if any positive changes have occurred since your last negative experience.  Look for and be genuinely optimistic for seeing even small positive progression.

In all cases, it is better to be a part of the solution than to constantly reiterate a problem. 

And it is even more productive to share concerns with people who can make positive changes than to complain to those who can only suffer with you and through you.

You can choose to be a solutionist or risk the potential of creating a toxic environment by being a constant complainer.

#2. Accidental Gossiping

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Private business and personal information often turn up in any work environment. 

People talk about and share all facets of their life all the time.

But any version of sharing information about another person in a negative or disparaging manner can be considered much more than just talk. Quite often it can be perceived as gossiping. 

And when this occurs habitually it can become toxic.  

Are you a habitual over-sharer?  Do you feel that when asked a question you must give the most comprehensive overview possible, even if it is not asked of you?

Toxic over-sharing and gossiping can occur as a means to deflect blame, to create perceived superiority over others, or to generate a feeling of self-importance.

Taking these types of actions at the expense of others can create a spirit of distrust and discomfort between you and your co-workers.

How Do You Recognize If You Are an Accidental Gossip

Have you done something like this before:

Other Department: “Hey, can you let me know the status of those entries?  Just want to make sure I am ready for the next step when it hits my desk”

You: “Oh yeah.  No problem.  I’ll be done soon.  Sally had to go to the school AGAIN for her son so she’s behind on her entries and I’m helping her out”. 

What could have seemed like an innocent answer to a question, results in creating a highly uncomfortable situation. 

This can make the receiving party uncomfortable and can make the person spoken about feel violated and exposed should they learn of the disclosure. 

These types of accidental gossiping scenarios happen all the time. And when repeat instances occur and are not redirected, a toxic environment can ensue.

To Avoid Being Perceived as a Gossip, Adopt Communication Sensitivity

  • Never share others’ personal information, even if you were not directly told to keep the information private. Just don’t share.
  • Be friendly but concise when responding to others’ inquiries.  Eliminate unnecessary details that are not asked explicitly to avoid unintentionally disclosing private, confidential, or inaccurate information.
  • Consider others when speaking on their behalf or about them.  Before you make a statement, imagine if the same statement was to be made about you.  Would you find it kind or hurtful?

Being exposed to a gossiping work environment can make others feel embarrassed, unsafe, and targeted. 

Hearing negative things about a co-worker can lead others to disengage with them, distrust them, or consider them incompetent.

These experiences can cause those involved to have poor work relationships, feel disconnected from the business, and overall create a toxic work environment. 

#3 Being Bitter

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All forms of toxicity are not overt.   Regularly practicing a lack of communication, lack of collaboration, or lack of cooperation can be toxic.

But you may feel completely justified for your disposition.

Maybe you received feedback regarding your perceived but inaccurately identified negative demeanor in the past. Or you feel that your input is never listened to or considered so to protect your emotions you decided to stop giving it.

Over time you decide distance and quiet are your best and only resolutions.  But instead of being calm and content in your work, you are noticeably resentful and unapproachable:

  • You shrug your shoulders and turn away when you don’t know an answer.
  • You point to where your boss or co-worker is instead of verbally communicating their location.
  • You make a point to offer zero communication in any meeting or discussion in which you are asked to participate.

It is impossible for anyone to not know that you are mad about something all the time! 

But in your mind, you are avoiding a problem versus causing one. (Since you seem to always cause a problem anyway).

How Do You Communicate When According to Everyone Else You Seem to Always Get It Wrong?

There are times when you may need to be different than the otherwise happy-go-lucky, chipper team member that others expect. 

You may have recently been reprimanded, had a terrible meeting, or even suffered private concerns at home that essentially make you feel bad.

You cannot always put on a happy face when you are internally struggling with something. However, when you hold on too long to a bitter disposition, like it or not, it affects your work.

Part of being at work is showing up fully. 

And if you work in an environment with others, part of showing up fully is interacting with others…..productively.

Even if you keep your interactions brief and to the point, you can still be a collaborative, cooperative,  and communicative team member.

Improve How You Connect with Others

  • Give good eye contact when responding to questions.  Addressing a person eye-to-eye is a sign of respect and attentiveness
  • Speak in full sentences and not with one-word answers or gestures.  This ensures that others are clear regarding your input.  And provides an opportunity for follow-up communication should it be warranted.
  • Be approachable.  If you cannot be warm, at least provide a neutral tone of voice.  Being overtly stern, annoyed, or dismissive can be interpreted as uncooperative. 

While anyone can have a bad day and in severe circumstances even bad weeks or months, the goal is to do your part to be a productive part of your team.

If behaving in a cooperative and collaborative manner just is too much, explore taking time off from work.  Or, if possible, actively work toward correcting the issue(s) that is causing you concern.

Constant isolation and portraying a disgruntled behavior becomes toxic when you become so shut down that others become unproductive and overly distracted by your behavior. 

You may think that you are making yourself invisible and unimpactful but, in fact, you are creating a very noticeably toxic environment.

Consider This: You Could Legitimately Become Toxic Because of a Toxic Work Environment

how to fix a toxic work environment

It may be unsettling to discover that you have become the cause of someone else suffering a toxic work environment.

But there may also have been a time when you were victim to toxic surroundings and could have easily listed these traits in someone else.

If you have started to become a product of a toxic environment, it may be an important time to make a change:

  • Explore and examine how you interact with others and ask for feedback from those you trust to be transparent and honest with you.
  • Track your mental and emotional status at the beginning and end of your work day and see if you have a pattern of being frustrated, annoyed, or disgruntled about work regularly.
  • Watch for the behaviors described in this post or other negative behaviors that you feel are out of character for you.  Determine if work triggers these new behaviors from you.

You can become a product of your environment, but you don’t have to. 

Take Accountability for the Work Life You Want to Have

You always have the ability to decide who you want to be and how you want to experience your work life:

  • Reflect on the type of work environment and work experience that is ideal for you and make changes to incorporate more of your desires into your daily work
  • Examine who you spend your time with at work and consider making changes if you have inadvertently fallen into a negative crowd
  • Confront the reality of whether or not you have become complacent with staying at a job that you otherwise should have left already.  It may be time to make a job change.  Read my post on How to Know It’s Time for a Job Change and start working toward a more positive future for yourself.

No one wants to be part of a problem.  But you can always choose to create solutions. 

You should not create a toxic work environment or be at the mercy of the one around you.  Have a better work-life by choosing to take action to have one.

Conclusion

No one wants to work in a toxic environment.  And, hopefully, no one wants to be responsible for creating the toxic environment that others work in.

We all have opportunities for improvement. 

But if you ignore your bad habits and repetitively adopt poor behavior, you can become the cause of the discomfort, anxiety, and stress in others.  You are the toxic environment at your job.

Reflect on who you are, how you behave, and what you want to be.  Take time to improve what you can or to make the personal changes you need to be part of solutions and not part of the problem.

You do not have to be the toxicity in your work environment.

If you are looking for more ways to reexamine, recreate, or really improve your work life, read these other posts:

How to FEEL YOUR SOUL in Life and at Work

5 Reasons You Want to Quit Your Job When Maybe You Shouldn’t

How to Survive Working for a Boss You Hate

If you have ideas on improving your connection with others at work or would like to explore more on the topic, please leave a Comment below!

How to Change Your Mindset When You’re Just Not Mentally Ready to Work

How to Change Your Mindset When You’re Just Not Mentally Ready to Work

Whether it is after a hard week at work, a beautiful weekend, a vacation, or a leave of absence, sometimes you just don’t feel work ready.

It likely is a mindset thing. And, yes, mindset does matter. 

When your thoughts tell you that work simply is not what you want to do, work can be the hardest thing to do. 

Even if you know you have to do it.

Taking time to focus on your mindset can cure feelings of dread, anxiety, stress, or disdain for your job. 

It can also improve your disposition as it relates to who you work for, who you work with, and what you do.

Left unattended, however, you may question if you should ever go back to work.

Before things go too far, or you settle into a pattern that you can’t get yourself out of, focus now on changing your work mindset for the better.

How Did Your Work Mindset Get SO Bad?

how to change your mindset to positive

There are so many jokes, memes, and therapist offices filled with complaints about work.  The idea of not liking your job or anything related to work is not new.

No matter the reason that work does not work for you, your mindset is always a big part of the equation.

Somewhere down the line, you have permitted a subtle opinion or occasional idea of your dislike of work to become a repetitive thought.

The repetition of thought has now become your belief. 

And once you have developed a belief, you have essentially created a new truth or reality for yourself.

Your job is not where you want to be.

Seamlessly, your thoughts, emotions, experiences, and surroundings support your anti-work belief. 

You have tons of data that validate the lack of alignment with your job.

When you get to this stage, it is hard to just believe something different. 

Your belief is set and your mindset tells you that your job being bad is a reality; it’s just a fact.

Is It Normal to Not Want to Go to Work?

Yes and no.  It is common that people do not want to go to work for a host of reasons that boil down to not enjoying the experience.  And while the reasons may be diverse, the dissatisfied feeling becomes the thread that binds people together.

Work and dissatisfaction is deemed expected, or normal.

But just because complaining about work is common does not mean that it should be accepted as normal. And, therefore, you don’t have to accept it as normal to not want to go to work. 

It is equally possible and probable to enjoy the work that you do, the company you work for, the person you report to, and your job overall. 

The issue commonly is that individuals are exposed to others who do not enjoy their job and therefore normalize it when they are also facing a poor experience. The classic misery loves company phenomenon.

When you decide that not wanting to go to work is an experience you do not want to be normal for you, you can choose thoughts and actions that create an optimistic and productive work mindset.

With the mindset that your work experience can be better than the one you are currently experiencing, you can search for and create solutions to produce a better outcome.

How Do I Get a Better Mindset About Work?

Because every work experience is different for everyone, the best place to start to gain a better work mindset is by understanding your personal vision about work.

In the short term, you may have an opinion that I would be happy if this would just stop or if this person would just treat me better. 

But going beyond your immediate pain point can render you a much better long-term resolution to your anti-work disposition.

Self-Assessment Can Redefine Your Work Mindset

Instead of focusing on your resistance to where you are, take time to learn more about where you truly want to be. 

Even if you cannot change your current circumstances, self-assessment is a healthy means to gain clarity of your goals and feel more in control of your intended outcomes.

When you can envision and understand your goals, you are more likely to achieve them. And to have a positive mindset regarding the job that you prefer.

  • What do you want to gain from working?

  • How do you define success in a job?

  • What skills do you have that you would enjoy using regularly?

  • Are you motivated to work right now? And if not, why not?

The list of exploratory questions related to your work preferences and your work mindset is endless. 

For additional things to consider regarding your ideal job, read my posts on How to Know It’s Time for a Job Change or How to Get the Job You Really Want.

Regardless of the method, develop your picture of what job you want to have and then evaluate what you do now against your ideal expectations.

Undergoing this process will put you on the path to attaining a better mindset by aligning with what you truly want. 

What If Your Ideal Job and Your Current Job Are Close

If your current job includes any part of your vision for your ideal job, use this to create a better work mindset by reinforcing the positives about the job you have.

You may have room to grow toward obtaining the ideal job.

But the experiences that you have available to you now fall in line with where you want to go.

Try to limit your focus on what is wrong or explore ways to improve your current work life.

Accentuate regularly to yourself how much you truly gain from your job and plan your steps forward toward your ultimate vision.

What If Your Current Job and Your Ideal Job Are Miles Apart

If you find that your current job is nowhere near your ideal vision, then at least you have identified exactly where you stand.

You may be in the completely wrong role and need to leave your job. Or you may have the best job but work in a toxic environment.

No matter the reason, you will need to be strategic and plan your way to bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be.

In the interim of your transition of improvement, consider ways to minimize the impact of your current environment on your mindset:

  • Engage with positive, like-minded co-workers who are working toward progression in their career

  • Explore opportunities to learn outside of your core job responsibilities through others, volunteering for projects or committees, or studying in your free time

  • Start working on your exit plan and create a countdown calendar of tasks that lead you to the path you prefer to be on

  • Find other aspects of your job to find interim joy in like the built friendships, special events, mindset mentors, or even your productive use of your commute

And, in the interim, release the need to look to your current job to be better than what you already confirmed it can’t be. 

So stop dumping your emotions and energy into trying to change what it is. 

Until you settle the lack of alignment between the job you want to have and the one that you are currently doing, you will always find some level of discomfort in what you are doing today.

How Do I Sustain a Positive Mindset at Work?

Ironically, no matter if your current job is close to your ideal or not, you can find yourself with a poor mindset regarding going to work. 

A negative work mindset is born the moment you have one seriously poor experience at work, a host of small disconnected moments, or anything in between. 

You must take an active role in deciding that you want to be positive about work and then do what is necessary to achieve it.

Wayne Dyer, a former author and long-time motivational speaker, had a quote that sums it all:

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Wayne Dyer

Changing your mindset about work is essentially changing the way that you look at things at work. No one can change your outlook for you. But you can choose to change it for yourself.

Changing the Direction of Your Thoughts

If you are in alignment (or mostly in alignment) with your ideal work experience, then you may have an easier means to shift your mindset.

Accept first that no work environment will be perfect every day.

And, when reflecting on how close your current job is to your ideal job, really take in the total value of your job to your life.

Other actions you can take to make a difference to your positive work mindset are to:

  • Focus on what you gain from your job instead of what you have lost in a singular moment
  • Communicate your needs and allow others a chance to support you if possible
  • Look internally when bad situations arise and take an honest review if you are being overly sensitive or critical

  • Expect the best from others instead of looking for proof of their failures
  • Practice self-care at work and utilize tactics like healthy use of boundaries, maintaining reasonable work hours, or communicating authentically as a means to reduce stress and improve your optimism

Using these methods and regularly looking for the positive aspects of your job, can reframe your thinking and train you to a positive work mindset.

For a job that is essentially what you want but that is rough around the edges at times, practicing the serenity prayer can do a lot.

Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed; courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other

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How Can I Be Positive If I Am in the Wrong Job?

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If your self-assessment regarding your ideal job has uncovered that you are in the completely wrong place, then consider this as a positive.

You may not have the ideal circumstance today, but you do have the ideal vision.

Now, with a clear model in mind, you can take steps to achieve the dream that you want to have instead of suffering a reality that does not serve you.

Use this knowledge as motivation and a positive outlook that you have a clear goal and means to create meaningful direction.

In the interim of making positive change for yourself, it is also imperative to maintain as much of a positive work mindset that you can muster. 

You take you with you wherever you go. 

That said, you want to project the mindset and disposition to match the place that you want to be, even if it may take you some time to get there.

Until you are in the position to change your job, your department, or any other transitions to put your closer to your ideal working environment:

  • Practice regular self-care of your mental, physical and emotional health. When you are fatigued in any of these areas you are more prone to be dissatisfied and irritable in all areas of your life.

  • Create clear milestones from where you are to where you want to be. Achieving even mini-wins towards your true goals can shift your focus from what is going wrong to what you are doing right.

  • If it’s time, develop your exit plan. Start putting the pieces together to remove yourself from what is not working and feel relief that you are actively working toward better.

For help with tackling your resume, take a look at my guide, Tools for the Best Resume Rebuild Ever.

Conclusion

Changing your work mindset can be difficult when it seems like every day you walk into a headache. And when you take a much-needed break, it can be even harder to get into the mindset to even want to go to work .

Know that the power to change your work mindset always rests in your hands, even if it takes time to build the muscle.

Identify what you want to get out of work, reflect on what may be working for you with where you are today, and plan positively for your future.

Take care of your needs and relieve yourself of the expectation that anyone else will. As you work diligently on hitting the milestones leading to the work-life you prefer, your work mindset will improve and being positive will be much easier to do.

Do you have any special tips and tricks to improve your work mindset? Or maybe you have a unique situation that seems well beyond what a positive work mindset can cure. Leave your comments below so we can share ways to get in a better place today!

How to Accelerate Your Burnout Recovery and Regain Your Motivation

How to Accelerate Your Burnout Recovery and Regain Your Motivation

Are you in serious need of burnout recovery and at the same time looking for some serious motivation to move forward?

Burnout and motivation could appear to be the furthest things away from each other.  But it is possible to transition from burnout to motivation and get yourself back on track.

Any time you put serious effort towards your goals or your dreams, you have a serious potential for burnout.  Balance can get lost when you have tunnel vision on your objectives. 

And when you feel like you have nothing left to give, motivation seems to take more energy than you have.

Take time to reassess your path forward from exactly where you are. 

You can recover from your burnout, build your motivation, and regain your productivity towards your goals.  But you may have to take it one step at a time.

How Did You Get Burned Out from a Goal You Actually Wanted?

It feels like every day another expert is sharing all the glory of working on your goals.

The best methods to create them, how to make them SMART, and all the improvement benefits to your life at the hands of productivity towards what you want.

You followed the proper process, selected the top priority, and put your whole heart and soul into your vision of achievement.

The issue is the very thing that motivated you to move is the same thing that has now forced you to stop.

Burnout does not mean that you no longer want your goal. However, burnout is when you allow your energy output toward your goal to exceed your energy input. 

And be clear that this energy imbalance can be physical, emotional, or mental energy-related.  It can even be all three.

Regardless of what part of you feels depleted, your tank has gone beyond empty. 

When your normal and backup energy reserves fall short, you start to pull from other parts of you in likely unhealthy ways.

As a result, you become even more fatigued and have even less energy to move forward.  

In recognition of your tank depletion and your lack of goal achievement, you now have no choice but to see and accept your burnout status.

So let’s take a look at where you can go from here to initiate your burnout recovery and revive your motivation:

#1  Surrender

how to recover from burnout at work

This may be the hardest step. 

Even when you know that you are in bad shape, something inside keeps you moving forward.

It is that same part of you that has moved you forward this whole time. 

And it is that special spark that is the most magnificent piece of the human spirit.  How can you give up on what you know you are being called to do?

But the strongest people make the hardest decision based on the best logic that they can derive. 

Even if it is not what you feel like doing, surrendering may be the smartest decision to make.

Surrendering is stopping. 

  • Stop moving. 
  • Quit thinking and planning. 
  • Pause the momentum that is moving you forward. 
  • Pull the emergency break.

Just by stopping you signal to your mind and body that you have listened and will tend to its needs. 

Even if not fully relaxed, you permit an opening for ease to slip in, remove tension, decompress and begin the burnout recovery process.

#2 Take Inventory of Your Status

how to recover from emotional burnout

Burnout can be an overused word and an under-explained concept when describing your specific condition.  

You can say that you are burned out and actually be physically fatigued. 

Another symptom associated with burnout is severe mental fog or lack of clear thinking.

You can also be burned out through emotional exhaustion, where feelings like stress, anxiety, hopelessness, and irritability combine and short-circuit your system.

No matter what your version of burnout looks and feels like, you must define it for yourself.

And this can be difficult.  Because you are in the middle of the total burnout phase and likely would rather move away from it than stop and look at it closer.

Burnout recovery starts with recognition and acknowledgment.

You cannot address a problem that you cannot identify. 

And you cannot cure an ailment if you don’t know what it is.

Whether you write it down, say it aloud, or share it with a friend or confidant, it’s time to take a moment and state what exactly is wrong.

When you can identify the exact form of burnout that you are experiencing you will be in a better position to address burnout recovery well.

#3  Heal Your Burnout Wounds

how to regain motivation after burnout

The level of healing and burnout recovery will directly correspond with the level of breakdown you have experienced.

No matter the level or severity, whether perceived as big or small, you must heal.

Healing is filling your cup and replacing what you have exhausted in your energy tanks.

  • Take a period of mental rest
  • Sleep
  • Eat
  • Rally resources for support
  • Exercise for mental clarity
  • Bathe as a form of relaxation

Take any action and as many actions that lead to your physical, mental and emotional replenishment. 

With your base level healing in place and repeated as often as necessary, you can well prepare yourself for reigniting your motivation.

Do not take the position that this process should occur rapidly. This is a statement best served by quality and not speed.

Practice extreme self-awareness in observing your shift from burnout to an improved state of health and well-being. Before you undergo any additional pressures related to moving toward your goals be sure that you are in a state to withstand the journey.

#4  Reset Your Path

While you may be attached to your methods and your progression, you must abandon your past plan and set a new path.  

This may be hard to imagine because it is your plan that you have been diligently following this whole time to reach your goals.

But it is this plan that led you down a path of burnout and the crushing reality of your need for burnout recovery.  

In order to meet your goals, you must have two things:  1) a clear vision of what you want and 2) a clear plan to get there.   Both your vision and your plan must include you.

Start to rebuild your plan with yourself in mind:

  • Is your goal realistic and achievable for you?
  • Do you need other support or resources?
  • Does your timeline give you adequate time to complete all intended steps?
  • Can you execute your plan while maintaining your mental, physical, and emotional health?

Now that you have considered these questions, you can reset your path toward your goal and know that your new plan is fully comprehensive.

Your new trajectory is to achieve your goal, avoid burnout, and to become better through the process of fulfilling your vision.

#5:  Evaluate Your Readiness to Start Again

When you have a goal that you have a strong passion to complete, every moment in inaction can feel like an eternity.

But unless you are ready for the road ahead, moving forward too fast can only serve to set you back.

Evaluate all the tools in your toolbox meant to serve you on your journey.  This includes your mental, physical and emotional well-being. 

Review your plan again and ensure that you have what you need to execute it.

Be accountable to not only your finished goal but your journey to get there. 

Motivation and productivity cannot be achieved with a broken spirit and incomplete plan.

#6  Get Motivated

how to overcome burnout and stay motivated

You are present, and your goal is in hand, but you need one more component to get yourself to the finish line. 

You must be motivated.

Sometimes the biggest casualty of your burnout is the breakdown of your spirit.

And how do you stand on the strength of what has been broken and put back together?

You can gain influence from others and use 101 tools outside of yourself.  But the single most impactful lift to your spirit and renewal of your motivation comes from you.

  • You have to believe that you can achieve your goals.
  • You must have faith that you can recover and thrive after your burnout.
  • The vision you have created must be real to you.

How Do You Motivate Yourself ?

Motivation is built on your beliefs.  You are motivated when you believe in yourself.

To build confidence in what you are capable of, you must see yourself first as capable.

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.

helen keller

Take the time to take inventory of yourself, your accomplishments, your skills, your vision, and your drive. 

  • Why did you create your goal to begin with?
  • How did you get motivated to start on your path the first time?
  • What challenges have you already overcome?
  • What did you learn from past failures?
  • How did you manage to heal from your burnout?
  • What have you learned about yourself and your will to start again?
  • Why are you still pursuing this goal?
  • How will you feel when you achieve it?

You are the key factor that fuels your motivation.  It is your drive that moved you forward before and even propelled you past your limits.

And while you want to move forward in better balance this time, you have living proof that you possess motivation, passion, momentum, and unbelievable drive at your core.

Believe in what you can do because of what you have done

And realize that your past is only a part of your story.

You have serious motivation within you. 

And at any moment on your journey when you need to be reminded, revisit these questions, proclaim your answers, and reclaim your position as being good enough and strong enough to move ahead.

Conclusion

Burnout can be the nemesis of motivation and drain you of your will to move forward.

Take the time to focus on yourself, engage in a burnout recovery plan, and surrender to the pause of your goal progression.

When you allow yourself to reboot and reset your objectives, you can create an even stronger plan toward your goals that keeps you healthy, whole, AND accomplished.

As you review the milestones that you have already achieved and continue to hit more of them, you will fuel the motivation needed to accomplish your vision with pride.

Did any recommendation stand out to you on burnout and motivation? If so, I would love to hear your input. Please share in the Comments section below.

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You May Be Casting Spells at Work (even a little Black Magic) and Don’t Even Know It!

You May Be Casting Spells at Work (even a little Black Magic) and Don’t Even Know It!

Casting spells and other works of divination have had a resurgence of interest by many. 

Some have a devotion to these practices.

Now you may not be one to cast a spell or have any interest in magical ways, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t practice them.

Actually, you may have been spellcasting even today, and didn’t even realize it!

People often do things without realizing the power in what they do.

Mindlessly you can fall in with the crowd and not know the origin of the things that you think, do, or say.

Do you know the difference between affirmations and incantations?

Funny how they both involve repeating, almost chanting, words to promote a specific outcome.

How different is the definition of visualizing and conjuring

They both take a form of concentration, focus, and bringing things to mind, right?

Magic may be surrounded by ritual, ceremony, and mystery. 

But many of the basic steps are ones that we do every day.

Take into account the true power of your thoughts, words, and actions. 

When you do, you will see that you do a lot more than what you think you do.

For this reason, it is important to be mindful. Pay real attention to your daily practices.

Seriously, you may literally be casting spells.  Even at work! And have no clue that you’re doing it.

# 1 Projecting Negative Images (or Talking Negatively Behind Someone’s Back)

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The power of mental projection or manipulating reality can be considered a magical power.

Not everyone possesses this gift and ability.

In its simplest form, it involves altering the thoughts and impressions of others and changing what they see as true.

You are the wielder of this power when you reconfigure others’ thinking to match your own.

Have you been casting this spell?

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There is an art in creating imagery and using it to influence others. 

Even if what you share is based on fact, the real power is in your use of the details and application of your influence.

Steps you may take without even thinking are things like:

  • Capturing others’ individual attention privately so as not to have others muddy the opinions you share or offer counter opinions

  • Establishing how wrong a person is against what others believe to be an irrefutable wrong or right. This method makes it completely logical for others to agree with you in condemning the other person.

  • Invoking emotion regarding the perspective. Anger, shock, sincere disappointment. Once a specific person has had their character demonized, invoking emotion will further align others with your negative imagery.

  • Stating your argument repeatedly. The more you repeat the concern, cite more evidence, and stir the pot, the more people see things your way. The key here is acting repeatedly until the new imagery is cast and accepted by everyone that you intend to convince.

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In short, create an image, demonstrate convincing proof, invoke emotion, and repetitively inject the new imagery you desire. 

Poof! You have put your spell in motion.

You may see these steps as simply telling the truth or venting out your concerns.

Opening others’ eyes to the reality of someone else’s ill-doing is only serving the greater good.

In reality, you are wielding your power to influence others, changing their thinking and focus, and making them align with your point of view. 

Is this spell casting? Or just a normal day of gossip in the office?

Be mindful of what you do or, possibly unintentionally, you could be doing much, much more.

#2 Cursing Someone (or Wishing That Someone Gets What They Give)

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Have you been subject to someone treating you poorly at work?

You may have had rumors spread about your, been set up for failure on a project, or actually tattled on for coming in late. 

And, yes, all of this at work and not in high school!

Once you identified your nemesis, you may have wished for karmic consequences for their actions:

  • “That’s okay.  They’ll get what they’ve got coming to them”

  • “Her day will come”

  • “It’s all fun and games until it’s your turn”

  • “Someone will give them just what they gave me”

These statements alone are not powerful enough to create an immediate effect (unless you are more practiced than you realize!)

But when you seem to be almost at war with a co-worker or higher up, you may find yourself making these comments over and over again.

You may even envision a perfectly negative outcome that they well-deserve.

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Seeing them make a mistake, you may silently wish that someone important finds out.

Hearing them lie, you may quietly pray for the truth to come to the surface and you watch them fall from grace.

Just tired of their presence, you may wish for them to get fired.

You may feel completely justified because of their behavior, but not realize that you have gone well beyond their negativity with your own.

You may not be chanting in the corner or picturing them in physical harm, but you subconsciously stay fixated on their karmic lessons coming to the surface.

But this makes it no less of a curse.

If you believe that this is not your nature, be mindful of your thoughts and actions. 

Be careful of what you wish for because you might just get it!

If you really feel in conflict with someone else, be brave enough to confront it.

Don’t wish the worst, but work toward the best outcome.

Otherwise, you may be putting bad intentions on their path without even knowing it.  

3. Incantation (or Problem Obsession)

If incantation involves the repetition of words for the purpose of creating a specific outcome, what happens when you obsessively say negative things to yourself?

  • Why am I terrible at this? Why am I terrible at this?  Why in the world am I so terrible at this?

  • This always happens to me.  This always happens to me.  This always happens to me!

  • I know they want to fire me.  I know they want to fire me.  I know they want to fire me.

And the list can go on and on.

The power of incantation, in this way, can be the same as drinking a slow-acting poison.

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Each time that you recite your words you create another slice of life that is similar to the words you say.

At first, you develop your pattern. 

You find a series of words or phrases that identify well with the negative thoughts and emotions that you want to express.

Then you start creating an evidence trail by restating your words every time a like situation or emotional status occurs.

Soon you find yourself in a worse and worse position.  Otherwise meaningless events now have substantial meaning and prove your lack of worth and failure.

You begin to believe in your words and phrases and they define the life that you live at work.

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You may not fail at your project, but you also do not do your best.

You’re still employed, but your performance steadily declines.

The fearful image of your demise becomes your frightful reality.

You have effectively cast a spell upon yourself through the power of incantation.

Take the opportunity to become aware of these unproductive patterns.

Mindfully change the direction of your thoughts and, most importantly, your words.

Use the power of repetition and create a pattern of positive, hopeful, and optimistic words that encourage you instead of breaking yourself down.

4. Casting the Evil Eye (or Spreading Your Bad Attitude)

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This likely is an event that happens to everyone.

You cannot hide the look on your face when you see someone you sincerely do not like come into the room.

Some may do it intentionally, but, honestly, others just wear their emotion all over their face. 

The person who burns a hole through your soul walks by, and casually talks to other people, and your eyes follow them with a piercing gaze.

On one hand, you say you could care less that they are in the room.  On the other hand, you feel compelled to watch their every move until they are completely away from you.

In addition to the cold silent stare oozing from your eyes, your mind cannot be controlled from remembering all the reasons you cannot stand this person.

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It may not even be anything that they have done to you. 

You simply don’t like what they are about.

Your thoughts, your emotions, and most of all your glance upon them, all invoke a stale, displeasure that borders between disgust and hate.

You have cast the spell of the evil eye.

And potentially without realizing you have projected negative images, cursed their very existence, and wished the worse through incantation all at the same time!

This is the power of disfavor, it can control you and change the disposition of the person on whom you place your focus.

But realize, it didn’t have to!

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What you may not realize is that you are projecting your emotions through your energy, your posture, and your facial reactions toward another person that they then absorb.

This may have never been their intention but they, unfortunately, took in what you feed them repeatedly.

Now, you feel a sense of distance and disdain because the other person is reacting to your attitude and displeasure.

In fact, you are receiving exactly what you’ve been giving.

Be mindful of what you would prefer to happen instead of concentrating on what has already happened.

Put forth effort in promoting a new future that will include peaceful interactions at work.

And see if you can cast your vision in a different, more productive, direction that benefits everyone.

Conclusion

Casting a spell is not just for witches and warlocks. 

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People who follow no ceremony or dogma whatsoever may still be invoking and projecting power upon themselves or others.

The reality is that you may possess and use power without even realizing it on a daily basis. 

And the location does not matter.  It could be at home, within your neighborhood, or even at work.

Ignorance of an action does not mean that it cannot happen.  

And lack of intention does not render the action powerless. 

You may just have no idea what you are doing and the power in the actions you take.

So be mindful. 

Be intentional. 

And most of all be aware of what you think, do, or say. 

Accept that you are powerful and play an active part in the life that you live.

When you do, you can choose the best version of the life you want and do it on purpose.  

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5 Highly Effective Ways to Overcome Self Doubt at Work

5 Highly Effective Ways to Overcome Self Doubt at Work

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Even when you feel utterly uncomfortable, it is possible to overcome self doubt at work.

But when you are in the clutches of discomfort, it can make you feel like it will never end.

Self doubt can come to you like a silent storm. 

At first, you sense a small gut feeling that something’s not right.  And then, all of the sudden, you are caught in a downpour of self-sabotage, negative self-talk, overthinking, and second-guessing.

Even if you are not someone who often gets off track, when true self doubt comes you can feel completely scattered, unfocused, and defeated.

Self doubt is normal. But it doesn’t have to be your norm.

Don’t let self doubt hold you back from accomplishing what you set out to accomplish.

Here are some tips to overcome self doubt and become more confident in your work.

“Our doubts are traitors,

and make us lose the good we oft might win,

by fearing to attempt.”

William Shakespeare

1. Be Honest with Yourself

You can attempt to give a confident impression to the outside world (and sometimes you should).

But you always want to admit to yourself when you are experiencing self doubt. 

Being authentic with yourself gives you the opportunity to assess the full situation. Pause, inquire within about the source of your concerns, and attempt to address them.

  • Have you been given a new project and just aren’t sure where to start?
  • Do you know what to do, but are afraid you may fail?
  • Is it that you have an idea that you believe is solid, but you are concerned others will not approve of it?

Knowing your core issues of concern can give you an opportunity to focus and address the problem head-on. 

If you don’t know where to start, maybe reflect on a project you did well in the past and examine why and how. 

Speak confidently to yourself and know that even if you don’t know, you are competent enough to figure things out.

And sometimes it is simply worth taking the risk on yourself, moving forward, and learning from your experience.

Do your best and you can always feel satisfied that you put forth your best effort regardless of the outcome.

Be honest with yourself regarding fears, concerns, or areas of opportunity.  Then work diligently to respond, react, and resolve your concerns. 

By taking productive action to calm your fears and resolve your worries, you can remove self doubt and build better confidence in yourself.

2. Get Support

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When you are suffering from self doubt, look to others you trust to support you through it.

You may have an entire resource bank of family members, trusted friends, or co-workers who can help with the issues that you are confronting.

Other people may have dealt with the exact issue that you are facing and minimally can make you feel as if you are not alone in your dilemma. 

You do not want to lean on a “misery-loves-company” campaign. 

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Even your best supporters can be a contributor to your problem if all they do is confirm your problems.

Instead, look for those who inspire a sense of hope from people you respect and admire. You may be surprised to learn that they have insecurities too.  

Through these positive influencers, you may find evidence that it is possible to move from self doubt to self-empowerment.

In addition to those you know personally, it can be tremendously impactful to lean on different motivational speakers, social media influencers, podcasters, and more. Often they will remind you that self-doubt is commonly an ingredient of success. So put your focus on learning from the experience instead of suffering through the experience.

To gain the right support for your self doubt from others, it is important to be open about your concerns. 

And, also, to be receptive to the guidance that you are provided to soften your anxiety.

Even if you are not sure that others’ advice is applicable, be patient to listen. You may learn a new method for calming your self doubt that you never considered on your own.

3. Take Small Steps

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step

Lao Tzu

Challenging work can be the cornerstone to feelings of self doubt.

Have you found yourself with more on your plate than anyone could conceivably do?

No matter if you have loaded your own plate or someone else did, the outcome is the same.  You lose confidence, fill yourself with doubt, and even give up before you start.

When the pile is high and the list is long, it is important to start small.  

Don’t try to tackle everything at once.

Instead, take baby steps toward your goal.

Start with one thing at a time.

The goal then is two-fold.  One, get the small things done, And, two, feel the benefits of momentum and building confidence by getting things more and more things done.

It is hard to have self doubt when you are on a winning streak. 

So create a path of small steps that keep you winning and erase concerns of self doubt at the same time.

4. Keep Learning

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If you have self doubt because you don’t know something, then figure out the best way for you to learn.

Never before have there been so many ways to learn new information and skills.

Sometimes the information or practice that you need is very specific to your current place of business. Take a vested interest in spending time with others who are more knowledgeable that work around you.

So long as others have time to share, most people love when others take a real interest in their job. 

Simply ask questions and gain answers.

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There are many who will take the route of formal education with college courses, certifications, conferences, or training in certain fields.

These are excellent options for learning and broadening your network of individuals to learn from and share what you have learned.

There are also other vehicles that are more easily accessible and less costly depending on your field of interest.

  • Skillshare is an online educational platform with thousands of classes on a wide range of subjects for those interested in creative fields.  With an active membership, you have an open field of opportunity to try different courses and complete as many as you want.

This is an excellent opportunity to gain new skills or to expand upon existing skills. 

And what truly helps is that you can browse and find the right personality, teaching style, and instruction type that fits you personally.

  • MasterClass is another online educational platform boasting an impressive list of courses and a wide range of subjects from economics to writing to business strategy and personal branding. 

In addition to gaining access to a diversified field of subjects with well-crafted course content, you have the added benefit of learning from the absolute leaders in the respective fields. 

Pulitzer Prize winners, Nobel Prize winners, best-selling authors, Grammy Award winners, and more.

The curated information is presented in an engaging style and often marries the share of information with a more in-depth and behind-the-scenes view of the presenter.  This not only makes the information shared more intriguing but makes learning that much more engaging, entertaining, and fun.

Choose the method of learning that best suits you.  As you learn more and adopt your learnings to what you do, you will increase your confidence level along with your skill and abilities. 

Learning is the key to expanding your knowledge and also to diminishing your self-doubt concerns.

5. Give Yourself Permission to Fail

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

Thomas A. Edison

The hardest thing to do when you fear failing is to admit to yourself that you really may fail.  But self doubt becomes stronger when you avoid the truth.

In reality, even experts can fail.  And most often the biggest successes have learned the most through their failures.

So learning to fail and then continue to move forward can be one of the best skills for you to learn.

Do not let fear stop you from trying new things.

Work to overcome self doubt if it leads you to hold yourself back.

Manage your negative self-talk if it distracts you from your goals.

And learn to take risks so that you can teach yourself all the ways that you succeed.

You will succeed by working hard, and you will succeed by making processes easier.  It is possible for you to fail and also to recover. 

Or you may fail and never do that same thing ever again!

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.

Napolean Hill

All the roads that you take after risk and failure lead you to know yourself better.

You can conquer self-doubt when you know yourself well enough to believe that you can thrive in any situation.   

Conclusion

Self doubt is something we all face at some time. 

However, to gain the success that you desire at work, it is important to find ways to conquer it when it comes.  

Gain better insight into yourself by exploring the specific reasons you feel doubtful.  And discover ways to overcome self doubt by finding support from others or challenging yourself to address your concerns.

Self doubt can be diminished by actively working to build confidence in yourself. 

You can build confidence by learning more through others, studying independently, or even picking yourself back up after a failure.

While the road to success may include failure, stress, and self doubt, this does not mean that you must suffer through every challenge.  Trust that self doubt is truly something that can be overcome.

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How to Find Yourself Again When Your Job Has Changed You

How to Find Yourself Again When Your Job Has Changed You

A Journey of Self Discovery

How did you get here? 

You work at a job you don’t like, for a boss you can’t stand, and look in the mirror and don’t recognize yourself.

The conversations you have at work include fake smiles and mindless commentary.  You never feel safe enough to express your real opinions.  And you entertain people, meetings, projects, and events that you could care less about.

When did you make the decision to sell out who you are in exchange for what you could have?

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And, worse yet, have you been fake for so long that you no longer remember who the real you is?

Some people fall into this category and are simply annoyed with themselves.  Wishing that they had never let things get as far as they have gotten. Others, however, are devastated. 

You realize that in exchange for money, a title, an office, or holding down a job, you have completely lost your sense of self.

Who are YOU right now?

If for the sake of work you have gotten too far away from who you know yourself to be, don’t worry.  You will never lose your opportunity to choose to be different.

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
― Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

You can choose who you want to be AND have a job that makes you proud of who you are. 

You do not have to compromise what you are in order to please anyone.

You can reclaim the real you that you want to be and change your work life for the better.

How Do You Begin Finding Yourself?

First, let’s be clear.  You may think the goal is finding yourself. But, in fact, you cannot really lose yourself

You may believe that you are not being the real you, but the real you is exactly who you are right now.

That’s because there is only one you.

You may not like all the parts and pieces of you at the moment.  Or you may feel disconnected from the you that you have become. But who you are is defined by how you show up every day.

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If you have a negative relationship with the real you, it is because there is a noticeable gap between who you are and who you want to be. This negative space can leave you feeling imbalanced, disingenuous, and just not real.  But do not beat up on yourself for getting to this place. 

The reasons you got here were at one point likely sound and reasonable but don’t fit you today.

How did you lose yourself?

We all have compromised before in order to create peace.  Peace for others and peace for ourselves. 

It is important to feel a sense of harmony, acceptance, and security in our environment. Gaining what we need in life can become easier when we are in the good favor of others.

And so we work to create positive experiences with those with whom we share space.

These are all good intentions.  But also risky decisions when repeated for too long or too intensely.  When you continually morph yourself to be in alignment with outside standards, you may begin to forget the standards that you hold solely for yourself.

It is possible to reclaim this self awareness and to put yourself in alignment with what is important to you.

Make a commitment to yourself today.  Who you want to be and who you are will be the same person starting right now

Finding yourself involves taking steps to rediscover the essence of you. Then to exercise your freedom to move forward as the person that you really want to be.  

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
― Carl Gustav Jung

Finding Yourself Through Self Discovery

Self discovery is the result of examining yourself and, independently, identifying who and what you are. 

While you may have been influenced by societal standards, the influence of those in your circle, or your observation of the world, you make the final decision of what definition applies to you.  To know who you are at your core and what you stand for requires internal assessment and willingness to be a quiet observer of oneself.

There are innumerable approaches to embark on the journey of self discovery. 

If you are a beginner in undergoing this exploratory examination, here are a couple methods that you can try:

Self Discovery Method #1:  Personal Value Assessment

A personal value assessment provides a means to examine, interpret, and choose what you consider to be most valuable to you.  Your values affect how you interact with the world and also how you react to others’ responses to you.

Many forums, such as the Values Centre, offer assessments of this kind.  See their free example HERE. It takes minutes to complete and the outcome is a comprehensive report in response to your values selections. 

You can learn what your core values say about you and how they impact your connection with others.

Participating in this type of assessment is valuable, but not only for the report that you receive.  More importantly, it is the experience that you can gain from the questions that are asked.

In the process of considering one value over another, you can start to reflect on what is truly important to you and why. You may find that when forced to choose and rank importance, your philosophy and practical application of your values are very different.

No matter the outcome of your assessment, determining your true core values will help to bring clarity to your self-discovery and personal identity. 

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You will discover that your core values shape your behavior and your interpretation of the world around you.

You make decisions on how you live, who you have in your life, and what drives you every day based on the principles that you have.

When you are conscious of your core values, you then can consciously choose how you want to incorporate them into your daily life.

Self Discovery Method #2: Core Values Journaling

Another self discovery method is to independently and thoughtfully consider your core values.

No report or outside opinion, just you thinking about you.

You can do this through self-dialogue, meditative thought, or journaling.  You may find this Core Values Journal to be a useful tool to guide your self-exploration process.

This particular journal offers a mixture of questions, self discovery journaling prompts, and open journaling pages to draw out an inner dialogue around your values.

Unlike an outside assessment, you serve as the primary navigator towards learning and interpreting what is most important to you

Core values journaling is not an all-inclusive means to determine your personal identity and self-definition.  However, the journal content can help you to create meaningful internal dialogue and to point your mind in the direction of self-discovery.

The most important takeaway from these exercises is that you start to consider your own opinion.

And once you identify your opinion, you can then examine if ,in your opinion, you live in accordance with your core values.

To reach the outcome of being the true self you seek to be requires a genuine pursuit of your independent self discovery. When you know and can define who and what you are you can more easily create a definition for the authentic life you choose to live.

How Can You Move From Finding Yourself to Being Yourself?

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Now that you have identified who and what you believe yourself to be, it is necessary to express yourself authentically. When you present to, communicate with, and engage with others in alignment with your true self you are at the same time honoring your self-expression.

This is being yourself.

To express yourself as the real you is to further clarify to yourself and others how your authentic self lives in everyday life.

It can take bravery, vulnerability, and openness to shift from being overly outward-focused to including your inner self’s thoughts and opinions and sharing them outloud. 

This can be particularly difficult at work when you may fear the consequences of what authenticity and self-expression could bring. However, if you continue to hide your authentic self, you may continue to feel a disconnect with or loss of your true self.

  • Are you restless with your job?
  • Do you feel disconnected with your work?
  • Are you unsatisfied with your boss?

Any and all of these scenarios may be the result of your job, work content, or boss being misaligned with your core values. And in response, you align with the job instead of standing up for yourself.

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Honoring your authentic self-expression as it pertains to your work is another form of affirmation and acknowledgment of who you really are.  To maintain the legacy that is you, you must keep the core of you intact. 

Don’t allow yourself to do the heavy lifting of finding yourself, only to abandon who you are for your job or those you work with

5 Ways to Express Yourself Authentically at Work

Here are some ideas on how to live and work in accordance with who you are;

1. Be Honest

Find comfort in speaking your truth versus trying to please the crowd at work. 

This not only demonstrates your genuine self but also allows those around you to learn and become acclimated to the real you. 

Honesty can be a breath of fresh air when conformity can leave many wondering if real responses are a thing of the past.  Feedback given with respect and thoughtfulness is appreciated, versus being considered rude or disharmonious. 

Honesty creates the opportunity for engaging dialogue and shows consideration.  

2. Speak Up

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Be transparent with your thoughts, ideas, or recommendations. 

When you are inspired to share, take confidence that your voice matters and your input is important.   Rather than an intrusion, consider that you are a valuable asset to others. 

When you respect what you have to say often others will as well. Speaking up when you feel called to share trains you to feel safe when letting the real you show.

3. Follow Your Gut

You may not always have the facts and figures to back a decision, but you know your internal gut feeling. 

Permit your senses to guide your actions and trust in your ability to rely on your sixth sense.  Likely it is derived from past experiences, gauging the current climate, and even an emotionally based inclination that makes sense to you. 

All of these queues combined can provide you with your own unique read on a situation.  You only sharpen your intuitive skills when you practice using them regularly.  And you honor your authenticity when you recognize and respect that your gut instinct exists too.  

4. Respect Your Boundaries

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You do not have to always be everything to everyone.  And you do not have an obligation to share space, time, or resources with others just because.

Respectfully declining work beyond your scope or an after-work event you have no interest in is not a dealbreaker.  Instead, setting boundaries is an opportunity for you to honor your priorities and self-care

Make a practice of saying no so that you can affirm your self-awareness of what is right for you.

5. Expect Respect

Everyone has their stressful days at work. 

This does give license for you to be the recipient of another’s stress release.  When things go too far, respectfully let the other person know. 

You also can take time away from those that seem to be in a toxic rut for days or weeks.  Respecting your personal space, your mental space, and your heart space is honoring your authenticity at the same time.

The real you is an authentic you.  And the practice of authenticity permits you to stay connected to the full definition of who you are at the heart.

Practice living and interacting authentically to ensure you will not let unintended conformity remove the essence of the real you.

To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person

BRUCE LEE

Conclusion

The real you is a part of you no matter where you go, including at your job.

However, in order to maintain a harmonious or successful experience at work, you may have felt that you had to leave the real you behind. When you fake who you are in order to appease others you can feel as if you have lost yourself and suffer the outcome of feeling disconnected or disingenuous.

But don’t worry. You can always choose to let who you are and how you show up be aligned each and every day. You can be 100% yourself without sacrificing your career goals. 

Whether you use tools like a personal value assessment, a core values journal, or just quiet discussions with yourself, take time to explore self discovery.  Use what you find as your personal priorities and core values as your means to infuse your unique expression into your daily work life.

By finding yourself, developing your self-definition, and showing up fully as you are, you will feel real once again!

Have you struggled with comfortably being yourself for the sake of making other people comfortable? Share your story in the Comments section below.

How to Feel Your Soul in Life and at Work

How to Feel Your Soul in Life and at Work

Is it possible to feel your soul?

And what does feeling your soul mean anyway?

The soul of you travels with you no matter where you are.  Your highest self represents the cord of consciousness that connects you and the Divine.  And the soul of you expresses this connection.

Your soul shows up when you are living all the normal and basic segments of your life. You can be soulful everywhere you go.

You display the soul of you no matter who you are with.

And, yes, you able to feel your soul at work.

It is almost impossible for you to be in flow and have your soul not shine through. 

But your question may be how?

First, before we can answer this question, let’s define the path that you are on.

Knowing first the composition of your soul leads to understanding your soul’s expression. Before you can confidently know you can feel your soul, you have to first identify what it even is.

What is the Soul?

There are many definitions of soul.  And there are many reasons why this is.

More than religion and dogma, the idea of the soul represents an intangible experience that cannot be singularly defined.

For this reason, if asked, we each likely will give a different interpretation.

However, despite this, there are many that come together in like-mindedness.

Soul is the expression of our spiritual connection with life.  It is the experience of being, doing, receiving, or emoting while at the same time ascending to different levels of ecstatic joy.

Soulfulness, therefore, is to be full of soul and to allow the dams to break with the emotions that arise because of the experience.

It is a form of bliss and also a oneness with whatever form of the world with which you have connected to synergize your joy.

The power of tapping in with your soul is uniquely significant based on your interpretation and for this reason important. 

It transcends logic and practical understanding and instead connects with our higher level receiving of intuition, spiritual guidance, and exploration through emotion.

It is a Divine power and one that each of us possesses if we choose to honor the connection.

Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.

Democritus

Can You Exist Without Soul?

If you define the soul as your spirit, you may then state that it is impossible to live without your soul. 

For some, these terms are used interchangeably. 

In this definition, the soul becomes the spark of life that exists only when the breath of life is still in you.  When you lose your breath of life, your soul/spirit ceases to exist.

However, if soul and spirit are not intertwined in this way an alternative conclusion can evolve.

If spirit is itself the breath of life, then the soul is the joyous expression that exists because of it. 

In this case, spirit becomes the signal that ignites the soul to shine through the body. 

And the body is the vessel that acts as transmitter of the soul. 

In this alternate definition, you have a spirit that resides within the body and the soul that is the expression of this connection through emotion.  

This emotion is stimulated and called through by our observation and connection with our internal or external world, or both.

However, even though the soul connection is wholly present, it is possible for you to exist without the soul’s expression.

Many live their lives in absence of honoring this connection. 

You can willfully deny yourself the acknowledgment of this soul connection and therefore disallow its transmission through you.

It is also possible to break your soul connection with your highest self.  This occurs by becoming more attuned to the pain or mundane aspects of the world.

When you abandon your desire to feel your soul’s connection you can live in its absence.

But the question is whether this is a life well-lived.

To permit your soul’s expression you must be a willing participant.  Only in this way, can you feel the magnitude of the power of your soul’s full expression.

In your exploration of life and all that the world contains, you can find what ignites your soul.  But to reach your soul’s full expression, you may be led on a journey.

Until you find what sparks the soul connection for you, it may feel as if you are living in absence of your soul.

How Do You Feel Your Soul?

You can feel your soul in willing consciousness to absorb the potential of joy around you.  It can be as simple as exploring experiences that you like.

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.

Napoleon Hill

There is a reason why there is soul food.  Or that you may say something touches your soul.  You can claim someone as your soulmate.  And feel a sense of belonging with others at the soul level.

It is the deep resonance with your internal knowing of self, the external stimulation of the world around, and a significant emotional connection that defines the feeling of soul.

The trail of positive experiences brings with it an understanding of what stimulates joy in you.  This definition of joy is unique to you as only you can fully experience the emotion that comes through you in life.

The soul expression is a deeper and more vibrant emotion than all others.

Here is where you feel transcended from the awareness of all aspects of life and become fully attentive to that which ignites your soul only.

The power of the connection with your spirit, your body, and your experience creates an ascended emotion that transcends joy or normal pleasure. 

It is in this a complete absence of the sensation of separation.  All things are one, spirit, soul, and life experience.  And the experienced emotion is what could be described as the highest good through this synergy.

Can You Feel Your Soul at Work?

The experiences that can cause you to personally transcend and your soul to come alive can happen anywhere including work.

It is also possible and acceptable to express yourself in a soulful manner in the workplace.

Don’t worry of conflict. 

You can experience your soul’s expression and simultaneously abide by any rules or expectations that your job may place upon you.

Your soul is a gift.  And when the interactions or content of your work invokes joy within your spirit, it can be a gift for many to share in.

You can find your soul at work when you are being creative.  It can be sparked through artwork, design, new ideas, and bold innovation.

You can discover your soul through other people, in meaningful and compassionate interactions, and even through share of your knowledge.

The soul can be ignited when you present, when you draw out emotions like excitement and motivation, or when you allow yourself to be the source of inspiration.

Your job can become a wonderful playground of different experiences that create a soulful exchange with others or soulful experiences for yourself.  

How Do I Ignite My Soul at Work?

Your job can be a great place to connect with your spirit and to call out new definition of soul expression for you.

In the very beginning when you are searching for a job, it is important to look for more than just a source of income.

What calls to you as the right place for you to be?  How are you inspired to think, create, share, or build? 

Who feels like family to you (if that is meaningful to you).  And who, at the same time, feels like a team of collaborators toward something greater together?

You can only know what job is right for you when you listen to how your spirit speaks to you through your soul.  Logic can only take you part of the way.

It takes time to learn how to listen to something more.

Any work environment can be your stage for soul connection and expression.

You may find new interests or experiences that bring out new emotions.  Or you may be able to deepen your interest and find new depths to your soul expression.

It is important to make your emotions as important as your other goals and objectives.

Be open to try new experiences, talk to new people, or even have different types of discussions than what you have had in the past.

Search for what is truly important to you.

You may not always be motivated by money or titles or travel.  And following the advice of others who do not share your motivations can inadvertently lead you away from your soul’s calling.

Follow your intuition and let your spirit be your guide. 

You will know that you are on the right path when your soul glows an unexplainable but good feeling upon you.   It is as if you just smile for no reason at all.   

You don’t have to find your soul at work but there is nothing that limits you from finding it there.

Can You Use Soul Language at Work?

The language of the soul is one that steadily becomes more familiar but not necessarily wholly accepted.

When you speak about your desire to feel at a soul level it can feel out of place in some work settings.

But take heed. When on your journey to learn your internal language with your spirit, it is not necessary to communicate it with others.

Your connection with your soul’s expression is one that is personal to you and only you.  While others can identify with the feeling, no one but you can sense your own emotions.

Because of this, it is important to be selective with whom you share your soul’s journey.

What you may elect to do instead is to be more transparent about how you feel.

Be open to say when you agree with a direction or a thought someone shares.  Be equally open to say when you disagree.

Honor your own opinions and be willing to respectfully disagree with others.  Or champion ideas that you love and support those that have them.

Practicing self-expression is one method to attune yourself to your internal voice.

Validating to yourself what you think and feel allows you to become more genuine when identifying your independent perspective.

When you master this understanding of yourself, it becomes easy to then follow the path of what truly makes you happy.

Speak authentically and by default you will be speaking your soul language.

Conclusion

Your soul is the means to express the connection that exists between your body and your spirit by way of emotion.

The soul of you represents the depth of you and acts as an indescribable knowing and resonance when you interconnect with the world around you and within you.

There is no limitation to what can stimulate the feeling of synchronicity and joyfulness that comes from the soul.  And it can exist anywhere including in your work.

Be authentic and willing to express yourself genuinely and fully.  Take on new experiences or find new ways to enjoy past experiences with new eyes and renewed interest. 

Explore your work environment with the expectation that your soul can be ignited by what you find around you. 

And feel comfort that your opportunity for soul connection is limitless at work and anywhere else your journey takes you.  

Do you know what makes your soul sing? Have you stumbled into a blissful moment? Do you have a soul connection with the work that you do? Share your story in the comments below and ignite the soul’s expression in someone else.

How to Be Social at Work

How to Be Social at Work

Being social at work can feel impossible when you are naturally an introverted person. 

It is even harder when the culture in many work environments is to highly praise, reward, and promote the most interactive and engaging people. 

If you are a quieter personality, does that mean that you are not a team player?  Or, if you are uncomfortable with conflict, does that mean that you can’t earn a promotion?

When making the choice of whether or not to be social the impact can be bigger than you. It plays a part on you and everyone you work with.

And once you are sold on trying, where do you begin?

The path to becoming more social starts with you.  You decide what’s right for you and what is purposeful.  Even if it is not comfortable.

Own where you are and decide where you would like to be.  And if your goal is to be social, or at least to attempt to be a little more sociable, you can.  And you will.

What Does It Feel Like to Be Social?

Being social is hard.  For those who don’t feel the struggle of connecting with people, it may not be easy to understand.

Somewhere inside it feels as if everything that you would do or say does not fit in the book of “how it should be done”.

Eye contact is wrong.  Words said are wrong.  The way you stand is wrong.  If you even think of a way to enter a conversation, you definitely are coming up with the wrong idea.

And when all you see is the wrong path, you cannot find a right one.

Also, let’s be clear. The idea of taking a leap of faith and just be more social sounds and feels terrible.

No one wants to feel as if others will judge them in their wrongness.  Or to wonder if someone really thinks they are weird behind the smile meant to mean that everything is okay.

Bottomline you can feel awkward when you try to be social. And when you try to fit in, the problem can feel like it can’t be fixed.

Where do you begin to be social? And should you even bother to try?

First, Is It Actually Important to Be Social?

The short and potentially unsatisfying answer is that it is up to you.  

While there are many points of view and study that indicate the benefits of socialization and being social, it is not a requirement of life.

However, there is evidence of how it may enhance life. 

Through interaction with others you can gain insight to yourself, an increased opportunity to learn new things, and access to resources and even affection. 

In absence of connection with others, the reverse can be true.  You can be disconnected from social norms, have reduced access to learn, and feel more isolated and lonely.

However, neither the presumed positives nor negatives are guaranteed and very much depend upon to what degree you are exposed to or restricted from others.   

So Why Do YOU Think Being Social is Important?

Being social is important if you deem it important to you.

If you are anti-social but at the same time looking for ways to be social, you likely are not completely happy with your current state.

When you are less social, it may be harder to interact with people at work. Being anti-social results in increased anxiety, having access to less information, or being less productive, for some people.

Many work environments lean on their employees communicating with each other as a form of on-the-job training, establishing communication systems, or increasing productivity and problem-solving.

Therefore, when you don’t talk or connect with others, your job may not get done to its full potential.

Another perspective is when you are not social, others do not know how to connect with you.

When others attempt to connect and you engage very minimally or inconsistently, co-workers may seek alternative sources when possible. 

Work can be demanding enough not to have to pull information from someone who would rather not speak.

Also, extroverted people tend to gain the favor of others more often that those who are introverted.

An outgoing personality can be deemed as charming, charismatic, or simply fun.

Alternatively, introverted people can inadvertently come off as standoffish, unapproachable, or unfriendly.  This image can give others the indication that your presence is more of a burden than an asset.

The problem with these misinterpretations is that they can lead to missed opportunities.

Introverted people at times can have fewer opportunities for promotions, special projects, or presented interface with higher-level leadership.

It’s just harder to sell the attributes of a person who is not willing to engage or show themselves.

For these reasons, it can be important to be social.  Even if acquiring the skill for use only on certain occasions, the dividends can be worth the struggle.

What Is Your Brand of Anti-Social?

Every person is not anti-social in the same way. 

Some people can talk up a storm with their family, but become quiet as a mouse at work.

Others can speak well in front of a crowd of strangers but clam up in a one-on-one conversation.

Still, others can feel physically ill at a networking event but can be comfortable in a meeting with a new client.

Being social can be no problem one day and become a crisis the next.

For this reason, it is important to know what exactly takes you out of your comfort zone when you attempt to be social.

Alternatively, knowing what puts you in your comfort zone is good.

You may be more comfortable with your team because you work with them often, are accustomed to their personalities, and feel that they know you well.

This can let you know that familiarity versus unfamiliarity is a place of comfort for you in social situations.

Also, when you script or plan things, particularly with work assignments, it may feel better to you.

For example, you may be fine to deliver a presentation because you have an outline readied and prepared in advance.

However, you may be highly uncomfortable if a higher-up walks to your desk for an impromptu status report on your project.

This lets you know that having more control and predictability can increase your comfort.

Knowing what situations trigger you to be more or less social can give you a blueprint of your path toward being more sociable.

How to Use Your Comfort Zones to Be More Social

Your comfort zones function as a solid base to attempt more exposure to being social. 

Rather than jumping into high anxiety situations to combat being anti-social, ease into new social situations.  This will be less anxiety-producing and likely more sustainable.

Here are a few softer approaches to give being social a real try:

Stay in your comfortable space, but try something new. 

If your office space is a safe haven for you, try to stay in it when handling a new social situation. 

For example, ask a co-worker that you need to speak with to visit your desk when free.  Or, attempt a Zoom meeting instead of a live face-to-face discussion.

Be open to starting conversations with new team members, if only to say your name and what you do within the department. 

If you are asked a question, instead of giving a short 3-word answer, be more detailed.  Or simply ask a follow-up question to ensure understanding. 

Either of these could lead to lengthening the interaction and sharpening your conversation skills at the same time.

Partner up with close colleagues when trying new things. 

You may already have a strong relationship with a co-worker or two in the office. 

If you need to hold a meeting with members of another department, have your friend stay in the room.  Even if they are just a silent partner, their presence may give you the confidence to facilitate the meeting well.  

Talk to your co-workers about their social anxieties and learn how they overcome them.  You may learn new methods you have not thought of before.  

Extend yourself to friends of your co-workers.  Tag along on your co-workers’ lunches, meetings, or other engagements with the intention of meeting new people and speaking with them. 

Having a partner to deflect to when you get increasingly anxious or run out of conversation can take the pressure off of handling these situations alone.

Do research in advance of new situations. 

Attending a business networking event? Know the guest list and then learn about your guests. 

What department or business are they in?  What new launches or projects might be happening in their area of expertise? 

What are the current events in their industry? 

Now that you are familiar, you will have a conversation starting point should you be approached or if you feel bold enough to approach them. 

This method is gold for those who rely on planning to gain comfort.  Study before engagement and feel prepared for the “being more social” test.

Be in the best mood possible before you engage 

Bad nerves are bad no matter what your status may be.  But they tend to be amplified if you are already in a bad mood. 

In advance of a pending tension-producing social situation try to relax yourself with good vibes. 

Eat food you enjoy. 

Listen to music that lifts you. 

Talk to friends and family not about your tension, but about the potential positive aspects of your pending event. 

Smile.

Focusing your attention on more positive things versus agonizing over your soon-to-come social interaction can take the sting out of the event. 

You also may loosen your posture, facial expression, and tone of voice through these exercises. 

This may lead you to appear less tense, more approachable, and even to look like a more social person than you really are.

A good mood can go a long way to creating a great social interaction.

Conclusion

Whether or not to be social is completely our own decision.  However, we have to acknowledge that it will impact how we are perceived in the world and certainly at work.

Being more outgoing does not guarantee you a better job or more money, but can have impact.  If others do not know you or find it hard to interact with you, it likely is also hard to determine your true value.

Challenge yourself to be social but don’t feel that you have to stretch way out of your comfort zone to do so.

Take small steps and lean on friends and co-workers if you need to.  Above all try to stay calm, be optimistic, and focus on what you would like to gain if successful.

Each of us possesses our own anxieties but also possesses our own gifts and attributes.  Learn to be comfortable to share yourself more and to be social.  As a result others will learn the real you.

You will gain more and suffer less in the long run and overall know that the challenge was worth it.

Do you have a social anxiety different than the ones reviewed in this post?  How do you deal with it?  Or do you deal with it at all?? Share your experience in the Comments below.

Looking for more ways to reduce anxiety and increase your balance in your workspace.  Read our posts on 3 Ways to Change Your Work Life for the Better NOW and How to Create Your At-Work Sanctuary.

Top 5 Skills That Only the Best Bosses Know

Top 5 Skills That Only the Best Bosses Know

Whether you are a boss or you report to one, most people have an idea in their mind of what a good boss is. 

Better yet, most know exactly what’s what a good boss is not! 

When dealing with a bad boss, you can feel the impact. Even if you are just watching someone else going through it.  Bad bosses can inspire fear, create tense environments, and overall make work a terrible place to be.

If you carry a title of leadership, it is an excellent opportunity to inspire the best in others. And to create an atmosphere or culture that makes the job a place others want to be.

Let’s examine a few exceptional skills that can make the difference in your being the best boss you can be!

Best Boss Skill#1:  Give and Then Give More

As a leader, you may expect to give direction or delegate assignments. But you may not always think specifically to give of yourself.

A boss who is willing to truly be elbow-to-elbow with their team creates an environment of teamwork, loyalty, and approachability well beyond expectation.

People respond better to collaboration than dictatorship.  And, if given a choice, would prefer to have access to a supportive personality than an indifferent one.

Related Article: How to Survive Working for a Boss You Hate

While every employee may not jump at the chance to spend time with their boss, those that need you most will. 

Giving of yourself can show itself by spending extra time to provide training.

Or being open to answering questions, big or small.  It can also be key when another set of hands helps to knock out a huge project on time.

Giving more can include support outside of business when life issues arise.  An empathic ear one day can make the difference for the entire week.  

You can also be a better giver when sharing your expertise.  Volunteer to mentor a rising star employee or a new leader in the company.  Or schedule time with your own staff who are looking to expand their skills.

Consider giving as a key component of your job and be prepared for the return on investment to become limitless.

Best Boss Skill#2: Listen More Than You Speak

Great bosses are exceptionally good listeners.

While you may be the final say on certain decisions, great bosses know they are not the only voice worth hearing.

Regardless of age or tenure, people respect having their thoughts and opinions included in the process.

Providing opportunities for open forum shared ideas and entertained proposals are crucial to fostering creativity and innovation in any environment.

The more that people are heard, the more they feel included and valued.

Becoming an excellent listener not only gives another speaker the floor. It also signals that you actually want to hear what they have to say.

A good listener demonstrates active listening with engaged eye contact, repeating content for clarity, and affirming with body language. 

We all have an interpretation of what looking like you are listening looks like.   Great bosses do that!

When you build the habit of listening, you also benefit yourself. 

Listening well trains you in the skills of perception, interpretation, and assessment. 

As you listen you gain insight into those you speak with. 

You learn what motivates others, how they interpret their world, and what causes them to become demotivated or distracted. 

Some employees like to talk more than they like to do.  Others have great ideas but don’t know how to execute them.  Still others are brilliant problem solvers and result achievers. 

And all of them can switch places based on the situation or even the day of the week.

Listening well keeps you tapped in to those around you. Now uou can better connect with them personally and gain the most from them professionally.

Learning others better and others sharing openly with you can improve the communication and connectivity with those whom you lead.

Best Boss Skill#3: Show Up As Yourself

Authenticity is the new black. 

Everyone is calling for it and, yet, so many still fear owning their true selves for public consumption.

Do you have a work-self and a home-self?  Why?

Okay, there are times when you at your most relaxed could most certainly get you fired.  Understood.

But there is also such a thing as traveling so far away from your center that you become a completely different person.

Your job should require the share of your skills not the shedding of your soul.

And for those who report to you, it can be hard to fall in sync with someone who becomes a different person every time someone new comes through the door.  

When you are consistently your genuine self, those who work for and with you know and learn you better.

Knowing your boss allows you to fall in sync with both their personality and their expectations.

As a boss, it is important to know that you direct people both by your words and your actions.  Your facial expressions, tone of voice, and impromptu reactions are all indicators that can be interpreted as how you really feel.

A falsely represented boss will often change these traits due to the work environment, their boss, or their perception of what a boss should be.

The problem, inevitably, is when you are a fake you, the real you shows up too.  And that is just too many people for your staff to figure out.

This carousel of characters leads to you being one person one day and someone else the next.

And what does that mean for your employees???

They have no idea what boss they are getting any day of the week.

Your lack of authenticity can lead to employees feeling disconnected, unstable, and unsure in response to you.

But when you are authentic, even on your bad days, you can create the best environment.

Reading Your Boss is a Real Thing

When you are the same person every day and you are genuine in your thoughts and opinions, your people can learn how you tick. 

Knowing the real you, they also know what to expect. 

And over time, those who are invested in getting their work done well, will know the signals from you of what you like and don’t.

In the world of work, knowing what your boss prefers gives everyone peace. 

Your authentic self also has other benefits. 

You become more approachable and relatable when you are not wearing a façade. 

The benefits of this is not only in how others work for you.  It can even impact others to want to be like you. 

If you appear as a relatable and real figure others can see themselves as you and feel that what you have achieved may one day be achievable by them.

Be a better boss, mentor, and person by making a practice of being yourself.

Best Boss Skill#4: Be Accountable to People Not Business

While this may be a hard truth to digest, you do not work for your business.  You are employed by your business, but, as a leader, you work for your staff.

If you are not sure how this works, let’s look at the facts.

Your employer has provided you with a scope of responsibility and an expectation of output or productivity in your area of command.

You are not meant to produce independently but to properly direct others and yourself to reach the assigned target.  Ok. Got it.

Now, in your day-to-day, you have to execute to make it happen.

And you cannot make it happen without your people.

Even with all of these facts, many will still not see where the accountability shifts from the business to the people.  But let’s look at why this is also reality.

Your people need you to direct them on what the goals are.  They need you to explain tasks that they do not know or objectives they would not otherwise have gotten if not by you.

When they don’t understand, you need to answer their questions.  If they make an error, they need to know how to communicate to you so that goals are still met.

Even if you do not directly impact your area’s process flow, your oversight can make the difference in how things are run.

If you are not accountable for being the boss that oversees, leads, directs, and responds to your people, you are not being the best boss you can be.

Further, the closer in touch you are with what your people do, the better you are able to be a resource to them overall. 

Knowing their work, their struggles and obstacles, and the subtle nuances to get through each day makes a difference.

This is more than leading, it’s integrating in a meaningful way.

When you display this level of accountability to the team you become a solid resource for them.  You are now doing what you are employed to do.

And just like that accountability to your people makes you the boss that wins over and over again.

Best Boss Skill #5:  Be a Fearless Failure

Failing is a part of life that no one likes but everyone does. 

The best failures are those that prepare you for future success.

As a boss, being brave enough to admit your failures can be crucial to bonding with your team.

Most fail more often on tasks that are new for them in some way.  It could be something never done before, a new process, or a higher volume than in the past.

Less often people fail on things that they have done a million times but make a random mistake.

In either scenario, admitting failure provides the opportunity to see what rising from failure looks like.  As a boss, it is an excellent opportunity to demonstrate honesty, integrity, and fearlessness in the process.

Doing too much and failing can create a new opportunity of working collaboratively with others in the future.

If you have failed from a lack of knowledge, asking others for input can show how ingenuity and innovation are formed.

When a new process flow breaks down, you can learn better ways to evaluate effectiveness, thoroughly audit, or measure performance.

Failure can be of benefit when you learn from it and become better as an individual or as a team.

A boss who fails fearlessly and recovers gallantly can be a role model to others. 

Both relatable and admirable, a boss who falls with grace can inspire others to take on challenges with confidence.

Conclusion

Whether you have recently been promoted or have been leading others for years, there is always an opportunity to be the best boss you can be.

Being boss is more than telling others what to do, but owning all aspects of influence that you have on your team.

Being authentic, accountable to others, and fearless when facing failure are all ways that you can connect with your team and create a culture of openness and comfort.

When team members feel empowered and supported to succeed, they will see you not only as a boss but as a mentor and trusted colleague.

Give the best of yourself to your team and reap the benefits of success that only the best bosses get to achieve.

Are you a boss that gives the most with the best skills? Share your best practices in the Comments below and help someone else become the best at being boss too!