Create balance in your life and live a better life. Seems simple enough.
It is energizing to live each day in flow. It is empowering to feel that no matter what comes there is a comfort that awaits you.
Knowing that you are in balance gives both a sense of relaxation and excited anticipation to any day.
However, imbalance is also a part of life. At times it can seem like the only part of life that you are living.
The days strung together when it feels that nothing is in flow.
The moments when nothing goes as planned and the worst scenario seems to just keep showing up. The days when you just want the day to stop and start over.
Know that you don’t have to work to remove the experience of imbalance to have a good life.
You couldn’t even if you wanted to.
So instead make peace with your times of imbalance and learn ways to regain balance once it has been lost.
Take a look at these 7 Ways to Create Balance when imbalance has become your way of life. See what you may be able to add to your list of remedies to put you in a better place:
1. A Little Grace Goes a Long Way
Sometimes the easiest way to regain balance is to release trying to have it. (Yes, you read that right).
Give yourself grace and permit yourself to simply be human when things fall apart.
Be angry, cry, feel defeated and frustrated. It is hard to skip past the ugly parts of imbalance when your emotions are running strong and your focus is blurred. So let it be.
Create a starting point of acceptance before you forge ahead trying manically to feel better.
Acknowledge where you are.
This gives you the opportunity to actually pause and see where things have gone wrong. This is the point where your knowledge of self becomes your power.
Otherwise, you can be lost in your emotion and directionless in your actions inspired by your discomfort.
Too often, you can be painfully in imbalance and not even realize it.
In these moments you turn on yourself and everyone and everything around you. Spinning your wheels you try to fight or fix everything and that is just too big of a challenge for anyone to take on.
Instead of looking for the world to be fixed so that you feel better, focus on bringing yourself to a better place – in time. Own your personal state and feel empowered that you know yourself enough to realize when you are simply momentarily off.
Self Knowledge is Not Wasted Effort When Working to Feel Better
Imbalance is a part of life and one that you and most others will experience frequently. It is not a failure to be imbalanced.
But it is a failed assessment to believe that your current disposition is somehow wrong.
The goal to be in constant balance is one that can never be achieved. So let it go.
An attainable goal is to seek more self-awareness. Note when you fall from your balance and develop ways that consistently help you through your challenges.
Even with imbalance there are positive gains when you grow to build more and more trust in yourself.
You will learn that you can find ways to resolve your life’s conflicts and bring balance back to your life.
2. Say the Right Words for the Right Outcome
Words are powerful. Therefore, there is good reason to choose your words wisely or suffer the consequence of self-created imbalance.
As if a mantra, you can at times repeat over and over again all the negatives about you or your experiences.
- This is a horrible day.
- Why is everything going wrong?
- Here we go again!
- I’m an idiot.
- I can make a mess of everything!!!
The list of imbalanced words and phrases has no end and so with it no end to the problems that come with it.
The words that we repeat become the reality that we live. When we speak negativity to ourselves then a moment of discomfort can become a full day of regret.
Change your self-talk and live differently.
You are the key to the life that you manifest and your words are instruments in the making of it.
In the midst of imbalance, you may not be able to change what you are facing. But you can change the words you say, think, or repeat.
Choose to soothe yourself instead of aggravating your frazzled nerves more.
Start small but purposefully. Try affirming to yourself, “it will be okay” or, “I know I am doing my best”, or “it can only get better from here”.
Better yet, sing a song that you enjoy or recite a prayer or poem that brings you peace.
Choose words with emotions that represent where you want to be even if you feel very different in the present.
- “I’m far from happy now, but I know that things will get better and I will get happier“
- “I can’t wait until I’m excited to wake up in the morning”
- “When I get home I am going to have a peaceful and relaxing night. I need it”
Say the words that you need to hear to become the balance you need to have.
3. Champion Your Own Chivalry
To take care of another before oneself is only one form of chivalry.
Do not hesitate to become the champion of mastered courtesy and honor for yourself.
Put a gallant effort toward defending your right to peace when imbalance has seemingly taken over your life.
You can be your own knight in shining armor. Take the necessary actions to smite the sources of the imbalance that confront you.
Make choices that honor your personal needs for importance, priority, and self-care. And be proud to take your balance as a reward.
If you can leave work early, do it.
If you can leave a phone call unanswered, do it.
If simply going to the bathroom for a moment of peace is the only solitude you can capture, take it.
Give yourself the freedom to stop the world if only for a moment.
Make decisions that serve you and become an ambassador of your sanctity and sanity.
When life becomes too much it is okay to pause what you can so that you are in a better place to handle what comes.
Be chivalrous to yourself regularly and you may thwart many occasions of imbalance on the horizon.
4. The Requirement of Replenishment
Within the most basic human functions lays the most critical of needs, replenishment.
Rest, relaxation, and sleep each serves to provide replenishment to the body.
Replenishment of the body secures a foundation whereby you are in the best condition to perform at your highest capacity.
The pressures, stresses, and frustrations of the day are regular occurrences that place a demand upon your physical and even your mental disposition.
Replenishment is a defense against these attacks on your balance and provides you the strength to carry on.
When feeling imbalanced examine your rest, relaxation, and sleep schedule, and if poor, address immediately and with urgency.
Fighting the internal war of fatigue will invite imbalance and potentially subject you to even more, leaving you without the strength to find your way to norm.
Take Your Rest Before It Overtakes You
Replenishment is more than sleep, though getting the length and depth of rest through sleep is important. Other forms of replenishment exist too:
- Talk a walk at lunch and use the time for a walking meditation
- Learn ways to perform self-massage and release the tensions trapped within your body
- Start a yoga practice or a simple stretching regimen
While replenishment will not always cure imbalance by itself, it can provide you with centeredness that can support your return-to-balance journey.
5. Own Your Space
When your whole world has toppled and there is confusion everywhere you look, finding respite in your sanctuary away from the storm can immediately make you feel better.
Create a space that provides you balance, even if only temporarily.
You may find that at work, it is your desk, your locker, even your screensaver.
You can place positive messages, photos of family, or a memento that has special meaning to you.
Create a space for your inspired peaceful vision and gain the power to provide calm through your line of sight.
At home, it may be your bedroom, a spare room, a small corner of your basement, or even your laundry room where you can place a candle, incense, or a bouquet of flowers.
Visiting your sacred space or creating one for the first time can represent giving to yourself when it feels like the whole world is only taking.
Having a display of items that have special meaning solely to you can provide a sense of grounding and control in an otherwise chaotic existence.
Imbalance can seem to walk with you no matter where you go, but having a space for peace can provide an opportunity to release your burdens and to step into balance when needed.
Keep your sanctuary intact at all times, never commingling your pressure points with your peaceful place.
This pattern of separation will help to train your mind, body, and spirit that once you have connected with your sanctuary all is well and balance is again accessible to you.
6. Connect with Nature
No matter the season or time of day, it may be a perfect opportunity to step into nature when you feel that imbalance abounds.
There is almost always an opportunity to experience nature if you choose to prioritize the experience.
When the walls feel as if they are closing in and the place you stand feels unstable, take time to walk outside. Experience fresh air, solid ground, and the expansive view of the sky. It can be the best way to regain stability.
Nature represents simplicity but also manifests in substantial ways through different forms of life and that which supports life.
Water, sun, insects, soil, trees, flowers, grass, and animals, our world is surrounded with the sights and sounds of balance and natural synchronicity in abundance.
Not only can the mere experience of nature create a flow into balance but also the observation of the world’s simplicity in motion.
- Watch the movement of life around you, birds in the trees, squirrels running across the ground, people busseling to their destinations
- Feel the breeze against your face on a hot or brisk day
- Take in the unique smells of flowers and trees
- Listen to water and its rhythmic tones whether from a nearby creek or a public fountain
- Take a break from flourescent lights and cellphone screens and see the world through natural light
Allow the problems that you face to become small in comparison to the insurmountable wonder that is life on this planet.
Go out and experience the abundance of eternal balance that surrounds you. And reassure yourself that your personal balance is literally only steps away at any moment.
7. Find Your Tribe
There is no rule that your road to balance must be traveled alone. So when you find yourself in the thrusts of imbalance make use of your resources.
When you are fortunate enough to have special people in your life, trust in the strength of your relationship that they are willing and wanting to support you when you need the help.
To have loyal companions who will always have a positive disposition and a helping hand to lend is a treasure.
Good people with good dispositions are great resources to have.
When your path has gotten too dim for you to find your way home alone, a good friend will act as a lighthouse across your dark sea and guide you back to balance.
When you don’t have the energy to create your peace, a good friend will offer encouragement and insight. While it is important to be your own source of comfort when facing imbalance, acknowledge when you need help.
Remember also, you may not always have access to live support every time you need it. Late-night hours, travel, or just life can make it hard to connect with family and friends at times.
So it is important to also build a tribe of indirect connections and influencers to guide your journey toward balance.
These resources can come in the form of musicians, artists, writers, podcasters, YouTubers, bloggers, and more. At a moment’s notice, no matter the time day or night, you can tap into their message and be transported to a better place.
- Listen to music. Create playlists designed to lift your spirits when needed
- Read a book or your favorite highlighted passage
- Watch a motivational video or a heartwarming movie
- Learn a new way to ease your stress or bring order to your life
Your favorite artists, creators, and entertainers can be your lifeline in bad times.
Curate your tribe with care and reap the rewards of partnered effort towards balance. Invest in creating your team for balance and see the fruits of your labor flourish with positive connections and peace.
While imbalance is a part of life and not always an enjoyable part, balance also exists.
The path of moving from the discomfort of imbalance to better balance can be challenging. Find comfort in knowing that any struggle is only temporary by nature.
The goal then is to make your way through the tougher times. Ready your tools and resources so you can be in better balance and, overall, in a better state of mind and life experience.
Take command of your ability to create balance in your life. And know that no amount of imbalance can keep you from living the quality of life you choose to live.
When you prepare ahead for the imbalance you know to come, you can be in the best position to bring yourself back to the balance that keeps you whole.
Remember Your Way Back to Balance
- Give Yourself Grace When Imbalance Hits
- Speak Better To Yourself
- Be Chivalrious to Yourself
- Rest and Replenish
- Claim Your Sacred Space
- Connect with Nature
- Lean on Your Tribe
The balance that you seek is in your hands to create. You will always feel better in time.
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